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[slackerinabox]

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[StageLeft]

You need to bust out of the friend's territory. If it costs you a friendship it's worth it, because if you want in her panties it's going to be impossible to have a meaningful friendship anyway - it will ALWAYS be on your mind. So, just do a make or break.

Also, I'd recommend stop mothering your ex-gf. Sounds like you're now a boyfriend without benefits. Distance yourself

 

[alkemyst]

usually the main issue people have with the whole 'don't want to ruin the friends' thing is just the fear of rejection and not the friendship itself.

Usually asking out a friend is harmless if she says no and is a 'real' friend....

The thing that is the problem causer is usually if you end up in bed together one night....that is where the awkwardness and distancing occur mostly.

The best method of this is not really to 'ask her out', that's a little childish really. You are now friends, you have each other's names, numbers, favorites down, etc...what you simply should do is attempt to move it to the next level gently at first and check her body language response. If she seems up for it then move forward a little more (don't try to squeeze it all into one 'date' though ).

The hardest part of it all is moving from possibly making out a bit into sex (which usually happens at the same time for sexually active people who already know each other)....the sex part is not the difficulty, it's the 'is she thinking just along f-buddy or her next boyfriend?'

That's where a lot of problem occurs, one person liked the sex, likes the friendship....the other liked the sex, but wants it to be more than friends.

Å

 

[Ogg]

I loved Felicity

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
You need to bust out of the friend's territory. If it costs you a friendship it's worth it, because if you want in her panties it's going to be impossible to have a meaningful friendship anyway - it will ALWAYS be on your mind. So, just do a make or break.

Also, I'd recommend stop mothering your ex-gf. Sounds like you're now a boyfriend without benefits. Distance yourself

Well, I am worried about losing her as a friend and I think I can get past the wanting to get into her panties phase if I need to... But she's on my mind alot- hopefully spending more time with her will either convince me to make that move or get bored of her

My ex is really pissing me off lately - she's like that annoying gnat that doesn't go away.. Always complaining about something and needing help.. I'm not rude but I have canceled a lot of get togethers this week because the thought of having another bitch fight frustrates me.. Distancing myself is a GREAT idea...

thanks skoorb, your replies are always valuable..

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: alkemyst
usually the main issue people have with the whole 'don't want to ruin the friends' thing is just the fear of rejection and not the friendship itself.

Usually asking out a friend is harmless if she says no and is a 'real' friend....

The thing that is the problem causer is usually if you end up in bed together one night....that is where the awkwardness and distancing occur mostly.

The best method of this is not really to 'ask her out', that's a little childish really. You are now friends, you have each other's names, numbers, favorites down, etc...what you simply should do is attempt to move it to the next level gently at first and check her body language response. If she seems up for it then move forward a little more (don't try to squeeze it all into one 'date' though ).

The hardest part of it all is moving from possibly making out a bit into sex (which usually happens at the same time for sexually active people who already know each other)....the sex part is not the difficulty, it's the 'is she thinking just along f-buddy or her next boyfriend?'

That's where a lot of problem occurs, one person liked the sex, likes the friendship....the other liked the sex, but wants it to be more than friends.

Å

I'm definately not the type to make that physical leap but I've been a little flirty around her.. Very innocent, really, telling her that she's pretty, being there for her, etc... She's really a sweet girl so I don't want to take advantage of what's becoming a close friendship (she's inviting me out, i'm not asking her - it's a slight distinction that makes me feel more sure of myself)... The problem with being a close friend is that we've had that "who's your perfect mate?" discussion and I don't sound like part of that equation... I'm not stressed about this though - I already got a "booty call" that I turned down (I'm not attracted to the girl) so my self esteem is on the rebound and I'm more sure of myself lately.... Thanks for your advice man, I think I'm a few weeks away from that though

 

[LinuxIdiot]

Originally posted by: Ogg
I loved Felicity

Yea, shes hot eh? Sorry, I don't have much to contribute to this thread. I have the same problem I became attracted to a female friend, well eventually I got tired of the trying to hint around that I was attracted to her and just flat out told her :\ it didnt work :brokenheart: but we're still close friends

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: LinuxIdiot

Originally posted by: Ogg
I loved Felicity

Yea, shes hot eh? Sorry, I don't have much to contribute to this thread. I have the same problem I became attracted to a female friend, well eventually I got tired of the trying to hint around that I was attracted to her and just flat out told her :\ it didnt work :brokenheart: but we're still close friends

Good for you for making that move though... I've done it 4 times in my life and lost three friends and got into one long term relationship from it... So I have a 75% chance of failure here. Yeah, she's also got me petrified of making a move because one of her friend's proposed to her a few months ago (For marriage!) and she's still in shock over that and every one of her guy friends have a crush on her.. She's not one of those flirty bimbos- she's really a sweet, smart, and fun kid.. She's just so damn attractive!

 

[dxkj]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
so, right now, I'm sitting in a dark bedroom after tucking my ex-gf into bed... she's insanley sick so I'm trying to be her mom... all while realizing that i'm slowly falling in love with yet another girl that I shouldn't be... why does my life have to be so similar to felicity or dawson's creek or another canceled WB show? hmmm, any coping methods to lead a crush-free life? got any pills i can use to get over this?

*update*
good news, I guess.. That girl invited me to dinner and a movie... I should be excited but our conversations has been so in the friends territory that I'm not exactly jumping with joy...

because you watch the WB too much if you know that your life resembles it....

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: dxkj

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
so, right now, I'm sitting in a dark bedroom after tucking my ex-gf into bed... she's insanley sick so I'm trying to be her mom... all while realizing that i'm slowly falling in love with yet another girl that I shouldn't be... why does my life have to be so similar to felicity or dawson's creek or another canceled WB show? hmmm, any coping methods to lead a crush-free life? got any pills i can use to get over this?

*update*
good news, I guess.. That girl invited me to dinner and a movie... I should be excited but our conversations has been so in the friends territory that I'm not exactly jumping with joy...

because you watch the WB too much if you know that your life resembles it....

OK, I was a buffy fan and sometimes I would stick around for Felicity- I swear!

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: HomeBrewerDude
just get back to us after something real happens

*update*
good news, I guess.. That girl invited me to dinner and a movie... I should be excited but our conversations has been so in the friends territory that I'm not exactly jumping with joy...

Place her hand on your crotch...

What's the worst that could happen? She pours her drink over your head, kicks you in the nads and your girlfriend finds out and dumps you then you end up living the remainder of your life as a poor pitiful recluse of a man who spends 90% of his waking hours bagging elf chicks on EverQuest?

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: HomeBrewerDude
just get back to us after something real happens

*update*
good news, I guess.. That girl invited me to dinner and a movie... I should be excited but our conversations has been so in the friends territory that I'm not exactly jumping with joy...

Place her hand on your crotch...

What's the worst that could happen? She pours her drink over your head, kicks you in the nads and your girlfriend finds out and dumps you then you end up living the remainder of your life as a poor pitiful recluse of a man who spends 90% of his waking hours bagging elf chicks on EverQuest?

Haha.. I don't have a girlfriend so I might try that! I'll be sure that she's done with her drink first and I'll wear a cup.. Wait, that defeats the purpose.. Hmm..

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

What's the worst that could happen? She pours her drink over your head, kicks you in the nads and your girlfriend finds out and dumps you then you end up living the remainder of your life as a poor pitiful recluse of a man who spends 90% of his waking hours bagging elf chicks on EverQuest?

It'd be 100% but my C*ck of the Infinite spell always fizzles. Maybe I need a new wizard's hat?

 

[Kenazo]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212 Here's a pic of her for those who asked (she's on the right).

Looks like a crashed spaceship in the background!

 

[Terranautical]

Originally posted by: obiwaynekenobi

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: rival
1) why are you hangin around the ex
2) why shouldnt you be with this other girl?
3) try beer

1) Well, I'm trying to do the mature thing so we're still friends... And she as a friend in need so I'm trying to be a friend..um.. indeed
2) I'm old enough to realize that some people ARE out of one's league... She's definately out of mine
3) I was thinking about getting some vodka, much more back for you buck

Thanks for listening to me vent.. I'm not exactly depressed about this - just needed to vent.. it's tough having crushes on friends especially when you're old enough to know better... Here's a pic of her for those who asked (she's on the right).

it's one thing to be a civil adult to your Ex- but don't let her use you for it.
as for a crush on another woman, Is she taken?
if not
ask her out! The worst she can say is "no", but even then your not worse off than what you were in the first place!

And Drug your ex and have sex while she doesn't remeber!

No the worst is not her saying no. The worst is her saying know and reaffirming that she's out of his league, and being embarassed that he asked her out in the first place.

 

[MrChad]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: rival
1) why are you hangin around the ex
2) why shouldnt you be with this other girl?
3) try beer

1) Well, I'm trying to do the mature thing so we're still friends... And she as a friend in need so I'm trying to be a friend..um.. indeed
2) I'm old enough to realize that some people ARE out of one's league... She's definately out of mine
3) I was thinking about getting some vodka, much more back for you buck

Thanks for listening to me vent.. I'm not exactly depressed about this - just needed to vent.. it's tough having crushes on friends especially when you're old enough to know better... Here's a pic of her for those who asked (she's on the right).

What's her first name, out of curiosity? She looks exactly like a girl I knew in high school.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: MrChad

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: rival
1) why are you hangin around the ex
2) why shouldnt you be with this other girl?
3) try beer

1) Well, I'm trying to do the mature thing so we're still friends... And she as a friend in need so I'm trying to be a friend..um.. indeed
2) I'm old enough to realize that some people ARE out of one's league... She's definately out of mine
3) I was thinking about getting some vodka, much more back for you buck

Thanks for listening to me vent.. I'm not exactly depressed about this - just needed to vent.. it's tough having crushes on friends especially when you're old enough to know better... Here's a pic of her for those who asked (she's on the right).

What's her first name, out of curiosity? She looks exactly like a girl I knew in high school.

Are you still in contact with her? Wouldn't want my secret to be out!

 

[Platypus]

make a movie about and then post a thread.

 

[isasir]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: rival
1) why are you hangin around the ex
2) why shouldnt you be with this other girl?
3) try beer

1) Well, I'm trying to do the mature thing so we're still friends... And she as a friend in need so I'm trying to be a friend..um.. indeed
2) I'm old enough to realize that some people ARE out of one's league... She's definately out of mine
3) I was thinking about getting some vodka, much more back for you buck

Thanks for listening to me vent.. I'm not exactly depressed about this - just needed to vent.. it's tough having crushes on friends especially when you're old enough to know better... Here's a pic of her for those who asked (she's on the right).

The one on the left kinda looks like Jennifer Love Hewitt.

 

[slackerinabox]

,!

 

[Shelly21]

This sounds like a TV series, call it Saved by the Bell Part 2.

 

[slackerinabox]

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[isasir]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: isasir

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: rival
1) why are you hangin around the ex
2) why shouldnt you be with this other girl?
3) try beer

1) Well, I'm trying to do the mature thing so we're still friends... And she as a friend in need so I'm trying to be a friend..um.. indeed
2) I'm old enough to realize that some people ARE out of one's league... She's definately out of mine
3) I was thinking about getting some vodka, much more back for you buck

Thanks for listening to me vent.. I'm not exactly depressed about this - just needed to vent.. it's tough having crushes on friends especially when you're old enough to know better... Here's a pic of her for those who asked (she's on the right).

The one on the left kinda looks like Jennifer Love Hewitt.

That's her aunt!

I'd MILF it.

 

[Shelly21]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Shelly21
This sounds like a TV series, call it Saved by the Bell Part 2.

Want to be the skinny nerdy guy with the high pitched voice? Just kidding!

touche

I'd prefer to play the part of Topanga. But that's a different show.

 

[MrChad]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: MrChad

What's her first name, out of curiosity? She looks exactly like a girl I knew in high school.

Are you still in contact with her? Wouldn't want my secret to be out!

No, the last time I talked to her was at my HS reunion in November. Before that, it was about 4 years.

It's probably not her anyway.