Originally posted by: brigden
If you can't trust your GF what's the point of staying with her? Grow up.
Originally posted by rsd
Seriously.
A relationship is built on trust, obviously you don't have enough in her.
Your first two paragraphs condemn what we're saying, but then you agree with it in the third?Originally posted by: mobobuff
He's not being controlling. If you think that's being controlling then you're blatantly ignorant to how messed up a relationship can be.
He was worried, and that's natural. He's only been with this girl for 6 months, it's not like they're married. 6 months anything can still happen. Take off your rose colored glasses and look at it from his point-of-view.
I agree that she should has the right to go to bars whenever she wants, if you never let them (and when I say them I am refering to either partner) do what they want to, then you'll never truely understand them, which can lead to much more serious problems down the road.
Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
I'll keep this short and to the point. I want a wide array of opinions, hence this isn't going to yagt.org. Now then:
Girlfriend of 6 months just turned 21 two weeks ago. I'm out of town 1-2 nights a week because of an out of town internship. We go to the same univerisity together. She has a roomate who is recently single and wants to go to the bars on those nights when I'm not there. She doesn't want to go very often, and says I should trust her. She said she wouldn't have more than a couple drinks. I told her gradually that I didn't think it was a great idea, but I wasn't entirely against it. Well, today, we had a discussion and I told her bluntly, "If you want to go to bars all the time without me, we are not going to be able to be together". I later, after she was obviously stunned by this, said that I would never break up with her over something so trivial, and I just wanted to her to know how serious this topic was to me. She repeatedly said "fine, I won't go to the bars, EVER".
We've talked about this for the past hour or so, and now we're both a bit heated up and she's off to do some cleaning to cool down.
Additional info (you don't have to read this before replying):
I'm serious about this girl, and other than this issue, I think she is about me. She always says that I'm the one. We've already talked a small bit about our thoughts for each other and possibly marriage in the future. Her parents ADORE me, which she finds extremely important. I spend the night at her parents place and we get along better than I do with my own parents. So this is very important to me.
I don't know what to do. I think I may just have to let her go do what she wants, I mean, I've already told her that after I said some of these things just a few minutes ago -- that I can't control or set rules for her and expect her to be happy, and for her to do what she wants. In a way, this is a real blow to me. I don't want guys grinding on my girl when I'm not there. Just the other day we went bar hopping with some friends, and on the way to the dance floor when I was getting her a long island (her fav) a guy grabbed her ass when I was out of the dance area and not looking. He ran off before I was back, but she told me about it.
Wouldn't you feel the same way?
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Your first two paragraphs condemn what we're saying, but then you agree with it in the third?Originally posted by: mobobuff
He's not being controlling. If you think that's being controlling then you're blatantly ignorant to how messed up a relationship can be.
He was worried, and that's natural. He's only been with this girl for 6 months, it's not like they're married. 6 months anything can still happen. Take off your rose colored glasses and look at it from his point-of-view.
I agree that she should has the right to go to bars whenever she wants, if you never let them (and when I say them I am refering to either partner) do what they want to, then you'll never truely understand them, which can lead to much more serious problems down the road.
Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
Originally posted by: Nik
I would tell her that doing so would cause a terrible amount of trouble between us based on past experiences and that if going to the bar instead of finding another way to keep herself busy or have fun is more important than the relationship between the two of us, it's time to consider whether we should be waving goodbye or not!
I basically did say that. Read my original post (and quote).
Originally posted by: Sid59
when you leave for internship ..
tie her to the bed. she might go outside and terrible things would happen. .....
Originally posted by: Sid59
when you leave for internship ..
tie her to the bed. she might go outside and terrible things would happen. .....
Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
Originally posted by: Sid59
when you leave for internship ..
tie her to the bed. she might go outside and terrible things would happen. .....
If you used proper English, maybe, just maybe, I would take your opinion/insult into consideration.
:roll:
Originally posted by: Sid59
Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
Originally posted by: Sid59
when you leave for internship ..
tie her to the bed. she might go outside and terrible things would happen. .....
If you used proper English, maybe, just maybe, I would take your opinion/insult into consideration.
:roll:
....... get over yourself ....
Originally posted by: Vikaden
let her go out, if she fvcks up, she was probably going to fvck up anyway
Actually she is off to the bars getting trashed off her ass and looking to hook up with some other guy that is not as much of a jackass as you are.she's off to do some cleaning to cool down.
Originally posted by: shimsham
when are you boys gonna grow up and realize that women NEED men other than you to flirt with them and let them know they still got it? it makes them feel good about themselves, which only benefits you. if you trust her, wtf is the problem? i say you.