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[GT1999]

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[MartyMcFly3]

Just let her go to the bars with her friends. She can take care of herself. Its not like when that guy grabbed her ass, she went off with him and ditched you. If she's honest enough to tell you about that, I think your pretty safe.

 

[StageLeft]

You sound like a possessive stalker freak...seriously, what's the big deal?

 

[GT1999]

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[Vikaden]

let her go out, if she fvcks up, she was probably going to fvck up anyway

 

[tm37]

I laughed and sopmeone who asked me why I LET my wife go out to bars with her girl pals.

The key word in a mature relation ship is LET, I don't LET my wife do anything nor does she LET me do what I want. We are both adults and While there may be things that we dislike that the other partakes we are both mature anough to handle dealing with it as adults.

As long as she isn't going home with other dudes you got no worries. Are you saying she should have no fun unless you are there to "chaparone"?

 

[kami333]

Don't you go to bars to hang out with your friends?

 

[StageLeft]

BTW, if she's grinding with other guys and tolerating other guys grabbing her ass, she's a sleeze. I've known plenty of girls to go to bars and they're only grinding with strangers and having their ass grabbed if they want it. One freak occurance could happen to anybody, but if it's a repeated thing, she's wanting it, and I would talk to her about that. If she wants other guys she'll have them regardless of whether she's going to bars or not. Of course if you hold this over her, it will drive an inevitable wedge in the relationship.

 

[chrissyo4]

Would you want her to treat you like this?
You can't protect her from everything. Trust her.
Let her go with her friend.

 

[GT1999]

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[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts

Originally posted by: kami333
Don't you go to bars to hang out with your friends?

It's different when you're a guy. You have the control. Guys hit on girls more than girls hit on guys, and it's obvious that guys are stronger. You get what I'm trying to say. I'm just afraid for her.

But I think you guys are right, she can do whatever she wants.

You have a very antiquated view of males and females IMO. What do you mean by weaker and stronger? Physically, sure, but so what? Is she unable to control a guy grabbing her ass repeatedly and making out with her in a public place like a bar? Like I said, if that's happening a lot, she's letting it happen.

 

[kami333]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts

Originally posted by: kami333
Don't you go to bars to hang out with your friends?

It's different when you're a guy. You have the control. Guys hit on girls more than girls hit on guys, and it's obvious that guys are stronger. You get what I'm trying to say. I'm just afraid for her.

But I think you guys are right, she can do whatever she wants.

You're right.

Just tell her to go back to her kitchen and stay there.

 

[MartyMcFly3]

Originally posted by: Skoorb

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts

Originally posted by: kami333
Don't you go to bars to hang out with your friends?

It's different when you're a guy. You have the control. Guys hit on girls more than girls hit on guys, and it's obvious that guys are stronger. You get what I'm trying to say. I'm just afraid for her.

But I think you guys are right, she can do whatever she wants.

You have a very antiquated view of males and females IMO. What do you mean by weaker and stronger? Physically, sure, but so what? Is she unable to control a guy grabbing her ass repeatedly and making out with her in a public place like a bar? Like I said, if that's happening a lot, she's letting it happen.

Skoorb is correct. :thumbsup:

 

[MikeMike]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts

Originally posted by: kami333
Don't you go to bars to hang out with your friends?

It's different when you're a guy. You have the control. Guys hit on girls more than girls hit on guys, and it's obvious that guys are stronger. You get what I'm trying to say. I'm just afraid for her.

But I think you guys are right, she can do whatever she wants.

holy sh!t you are a controll freak. so you can do something, but she cant? Beer, its called the date rape drug for men. TRUST is the biggest thing in a relationship.

MIKE

 

[RagingBITCH]

Um, so it's her fault and she shouldn't go to bars because other guys are assholes? I'm confused. Simply put she could just scream rape at the top of her lungs and she'd have about 5-6 guys run over to help her. You have some serious issues.

 

[GT1999]

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[MartyMcFly3]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
Guys, I'm not steadfast in saying she can't go to the bars at all. I'd prefer it, but hey, we don't live in a perfect world. I'm very in the middle on this at the moment. I'm on the phone with her again, she called, and we've reached the consesus I just freaked out, and that our relationship is (obviously) a lot stronger than this.

So yeah, end of story, she's going to the bars.

Glad she's got your permission. :disgust:

 

[StageLeft]

Good, now which bars does she go to? I have some single friends.

I kid!!

 

[rocadelpunk]

you're an idiot for being so controlling.

 

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[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
I'd just also like to say, the comment that really swayed me was, to the effect of, if she wants to do it, she'll do it anyway.

Yep. It would concern me if I was you and she is grinding with guys; I wouldn't tolerate that, since I think that's over the line. But going to the bar, getting hammered and doing that girly dance thing with her friends is cool.

 

[3chordcharlie]

You aren't 'afraid for her' you're trying to control her; and apparently you don't even realize it!

SHe's going out with friends, on nights you aren't even in the city? What should she do, wait at home and make you an extra-special sandwich to welcome you back the next day?

 

[GT1999]

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[booger711]

if she ever cheats on you, go cheat on her. whatever.

 

[anxi80]

im all for 'pick your battles', but c'mon now, you're pretty much asking her to be put on house-arrest.