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Originally posted by: gersson
A good friend that I hoped would soon be my gf has recently turned to mostly complaining about her mom, work, etc.
When I first met her we had a lot of fun dates and I found her to be very funny and agreeable. She can't seem to shake it off...
Obviously this sucks. I want to know how I can help her either see what she's doing or help her get through a rut. BTW, by recent I mean the last month...
How should I approach the issue? I'd get pics but I don't want to give myself away.
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Hmmm good tip! lolHave you thought of ways to keep her mouth busy with other things?
Originally posted by: scott916
Man up and tell her the way you feel. Make sure you have room to talk, and just let her know she should fix her problems instead of whining about them. If she thinks about it and takes it to heart, then she's worth it. If she bitches about your advice, breeze her.
Originally posted by: HN
some people just like to bitch. let her blow off steam, don't try to be a fixer upper
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
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Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: HN
some people just like to bitch. let her blow off steam, don't try to be a fixer upper
Yup.
Best thing you can do is listen. If you can't do that, then maybe she isn't right for you. If you guys are very close, as in, you can be totally honest/frank with the other person, then it is acceptable to just tell her in a subtle way that maybe she needs to figure out how she can be at peace with all those issues. But not many people have such open honest relationships, which is sad in its own right, but a reality of human life.
if she complains now she will get *no better* in the long run. None whatsoever. Maybe she's just confiding in you, but if all she does is whine now, you're in for the worst later.
Originally posted by: gersson
A good friend that I hoped would soon be my gf has recently turned to mostly complaining about her mom, work, etc.
When I first met her we had a lot of fun dates and I found her to be very funny and agreeable. She can't seem to shake it off...
Obviously this sucks. I want to know how I can help her either see what she's doing or help her get through a rut. BTW, by recent I mean the last month...
How should I approach the issue? I'd get pics but I don't want to give myself away.
>_>
<_<
Please no flames
Originally posted by: ariafrost
Originally posted by: gersson
A good friend that I hoped would soon be my gf has recently turned to mostly complaining about her mom, work, etc.
When I first met her we had a lot of fun dates and I found her to be very funny and agreeable. She can't seem to shake it off...
Obviously this sucks. I want to know how I can help her either see what she's doing or help her get through a rut. BTW, by recent I mean the last month...
How should I approach the issue? I'd get pics but I don't want to give myself away.
>_>
<_<
Please no flames
She just wants someone to listen to her while she vents. Trying to fix things for her or saying things won't help - just let her vent. It'll make her feel better by the time she finishes.
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
Stick your Pocky stick in her mouth. That'll give you some quiet time
No but seriously - if she complains now she will get *no better* in the long run. None whatsoever. Maybe she's just confiding in you, but if all she does is whine now, you're in for the worst later.
Originally posted by: 6StringSamurai
Originally posted by: gersson
A good friend that I hoped would soon be my gf has recently turned to mostly complaining about her mom, work, etc.
When I first met her we had a lot of fun dates and I found her to be very funny and agreeable. She can't seem to shake it off...
Obviously this sucks. I want to know how I can help her either see what she's doing or help her get through a rut. BTW, by recent I mean the last month...
How should I approach the issue? I'd get pics but I don't want to give myself away.
>_>
<_<
Please no flames
like...omg....like....thats just horrible....like you should totally just like tell her how you feel and stuff...like for reals girl....like you = teh bitchiness otay? And then she will be like otay for real, sex?
I think I have seen one out of 10,000 YAGT that was worth a damn, yet they never cease to entertain me, and for that I tip my hat to you Mr. CompleteTotalLackOfAnythingClosetToASocialSkill Man.