2nd UPDATE: KAAAAAHHHHHHNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!

[OrByte]

A Grand Am??

didn't those go out of style back in the 80s?

 

[SSP]

I'll give you 1 Canadian dollar for that brand new grand am.

 

[pancho619]

*Turns around weeping to exit forums*

I just bought a 2004 Grand Am :brokenheart:

 

[kranky]

You said "Every freaking time I need a new car, my wife and in-laws go out and do this".

So when this happened before, didn't you have a talk with your wife to make it clear that a decision of that magnitude must be discussed together before a commitment is made? Doesn't she know that it is irresponsible to commit you both financially without working through it together?

If you didn't make that clear when the exact same problem happened before, well, I don't know how you could be surprised it happened again.

And if you did have such a talk, and she did it anyway, then I don't know what to tell you. The problem isn't that she bought a new car without telling you first - that's just the symptom. The problem is that she doesn't respect you enough to honor your wishes.

 

[mitchafi]

hell no you aren't being unreasonable..

 

[Phoenix86]

Your being perfectly reasonable. It's your money too, did you marry your wife or her dad?

 

[jjones]

WTF? I don't even have the slightest clue why your in-laws are involved in something like the purchase of a car unless they are selling it to you, or you are asking them for a loan. And I have even less of a clue why your wife would take the liberty of purchasing a new car without your input. Unless I had oodles of money, the wife wouldn't be buying anything of that nature without mutual agreement between us both.

 

[Goosemaster]

Originally posted by: Slappy00
Maybe she needs to stand up to her parents and tell them that you should have some input as to what car to buy.
Other than that I woudl be PO's too esp if i had to drive the damn thing... (i bet its a Toyota Echo)

I say bring it up during some steamy sex..that way she'll have her guard down.....

 

[Homerboy]

Originally posted by: notfred
Who signed the loan?

spot on question... did they sign the loan? If so, happily take the new and apparently free (to you) new car they gave you. If it was your wife, well... thats a big problem. I guess that comes out of her paycheck directly then for the next 60 months at 3.9% financing

 

[jjones]

Originally posted by: kranky
You said "Every freaking time I need a new car, my wife and in-laws go out and do this".

So when this happened before, didn't you have a talk with your wife to make it clear that a decision of that magnitude must be discussed together before a commitment is made? Doesn't she know that it is irresponsible to commit you both financially without working through it together?

If you didn't make that clear when the exact same problem happened before, well, I don't know how you could be surprised it happened again.

And if you did have such a talk, and she did it anyway, then I don't know what to tell you. The problem isn't that she bought a new car without telling you first - that's just the symptom. The problem is that she doesn't respect you enough to honor your wishes.

Exactly what I was thinking. I read the OP and I'm thinking, "WTF? My wife would not ever consider doing something like that."

And if she did, I'd be soon looking for a new wife, not a new car.

 

[upsciLLion]

Your money is your money.

Oh, and tell your wife it's time to cut the apron strings.

 

[Mo0o]

Looks like Ned's not putting out tonight.

 

[spidey07]

WOW. I mean, just WOW.

i don't think I've ever heard of such a complete and utter lack of respect from one spouse to the other.

I'm truly sorry. That must suck.

 

[NuclearNed]

Originally posted by: spidey07
WOW. I mean, just WOW.

i don't think I've ever heard of such a complete and utter lack of respect from one spouse to the other.

I'm truly sorry. That must suck.

We actually have a great relationship with loads to spare of respect for each other. This just happens to be one of "those" issues.

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: darkswordsman17
Well, I think you're being semi-unreasonable. Grand-Ams aren't THAT horrible. They aren't great by any means (and you probably could have found something both you and her like better).

No offense man, but if they have had the propensity to do this in the past, then why did you let them go car shopping without you?

Are you kidding? They just spent like 20 THOUSAND OF HIS DOLLARS on a BRAND-NEW (= complete waste of money) car that the guy hates.

Don't pay a cent. I don't care if it makes her mad, your wife NEEDS to learn she can't get away with that kind of crap. This is NOT a minor issue.

 

[xSauronx]

i just sold a grand am, suck of a car; ill never get another.

that, and i always thought that if im going to make a payment on a car, id rather pay for a slightly used nicer car, than a brand new piece of suck.

get a used caddy, or acura...or something thats not a grand am. id take my dads 5 year old cadillac over a brand new grand am any day of the week. but maybe thats just me. hell, id take my sisters used olds alero over a new grand am, and i dont like the olds that much.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: NuclearNed

UPDATE: The wife "detected some distress" in my voice when I "politely suggested" over the phone that she not bring home the "car". "Wanting to avoid a conflict," she decided to not bring home the "car." She wanted to "consider my feelings" first. We have "mutually agreed" that tomorrow we will look for a vehicle that "suits our best interests".

:beer: I'll drink to that!

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: NuclearNed

UPDATE: The wife "detected some distress" in my voice when I "politely suggested" over the phone that she not bring home the "car". "Wanting to avoid a conflict," she decided to not bring home the "car." She wanted to "consider my feelings" first. We have "mutually agreed" that tomorrow we will look for a vehicle that "suits our best interests".

:beer: I'll drink to that!

:beer:
we have compromise!

 

[kranky]

Good to see things are under control!
:beer: for you, you earned it.

 

[SafariX]

How do you "take back" a car?

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: NuclearNed

Originally posted by: johngute
__________________* = beetle?

no. worse.

Ford Focus!

Oh...Grand AM huh? ummm...sh!tty? I know nothing about that car.

 

[arcas]

I guess this is one of the advantages of being single: I don't have to worry about this sort of thing. Might be the only advantage but it's a big one. Don't have to worry about coming home from work and discovering that I've bought a {insert object} I don't approve of. Don't have to justify expenses, either. So I guess that's 2 advantages.

 

[waggy]

I'm glad that she is going to talk about it. This is really something you guys should talk about before hand. IF my wife did something like this i would be pissed. But i'm lucky in the fact that my wife respects me enough to talk to me about a 20k purchase.

When it comes to car's we talk about what we want. If it is her car she has the final say so on what car she gets. But she would never just go sign off on a new car without talking to me about it.


Something like this can cause a divorce.

 

[BatmanNate]

You weren't being unreasonable in the least, for your spouse to make a financial decision of that magnitude without bothering to even consult you is an insurmountable problem, regardless of how crappy a car it is. And why are your inlaws even involved if they're not buying/selling the car? New cars are a waste of money for most people, and a new Pontiac is an unbelievable waste of money because of the depreciation.

 

[ShotgunSteven]

Originally posted by: SafariX
How do you "take back" a car?

Some states have laws in place that allow it within twenty-four hours or some other limited time frame. I believe they are called buyer's remorse laws or something like that.