Relevant post to a large decision in my life. My wife and I are actually considering moving states and "downsizing" our lives and going more modest. Right now she makes close to double what I do and makes a *very* decent income. But we have a $1500 a month mortgage payment + $10,000 a year in property taxes, pay close to $15,000 a year in daycare and just constantly feel like we are racing around and neglecting our kids.
If she makes it through the interviews in the other state we'll strongly consider dropping down to one income. My son has been sick with pneumonia this whole week and we've not been able to take him to daycare, but still have to pay for it, still have to arrange babysitting so we can go to work. And it's just a rat race of getting up, getting kids shuffled out the door, coming home stressed, pulling some food out a box throwing it on the table and then basically going right into the bedtime routine.
We're just not happy with our lives and there's got to be a better way. The area we are looking into has a decent cost of living, we can get a decent family home for $250,000 and only have a $2500 a year property tax. Me dropping off the payroll is like an instant return of $20,000 in taxes. Plus we'd maybe even quality for a credit or two for the kids. Add in the day care savings. The lack of need to find summer daycare for my school age kid, no after care need. The fact that I can actually take time to prepare real meals before my wife gets home. Ect. Real net change to our household income would be around $1000-$1500 a month less. Plus I'd lose out on retirement savings. We wouldn't have two shiney new cars in the driveway like we do now, our house wouldn't be as fancy as it is now, and we probably wouldn't be taking as expensive as vacations. But the drop in stress, freedom with the kids and overall scaled down life sounds fairly liberating.
We're fortunate she has a job that it's even a consideration.