About all you can try is to go into your Bios and check to be sure 'Memory Remapping' (the actual name varies....) is enabled.
Regarding PAE: It is already enabled as far as MSFT will allow. (Data Execution Prevention purposes), but unless you have a server (NT, 2003, etc) version of Windows. Playing with the settings on XP/Vista isn't going to get you anywhere because MSFT have limited those operating systems' to not be able to use PAE for added memory. The reason for that is driver incompatibilities.
Regarding RAM:
The Short Explanation:
As of SP1 Vista 32 displays the amount of RAM that's physically installed, as do the bios and the tools you used. However, it is still a 32 bit operating system, and therefore still carries the address space limitations inherent in all 32 bit OS's - 4GB of address space, and other things to use the addresses for besides RAM. So if you have a lot of devices, and especially with Crossfire/SLI setups because of the very large amounts of Video memory involved, the OS will have less and less space left over to address RAM.
It used to be that the OS would display only what is available. But rumor has it that the OEM computer makers (Dell, HP, etc..) complained to Microsoft that end user customer were clogging support lines complaining to them the 4GB of RAM (Dell/HP) sold them doesn't show....
The Long Explanation:
In 32 bit Windows operating systems, the total addressable space available is 4GB. If you install a total of 4GB worth of RAM, the system will detect/use/display less than 4GB of total memory because of address space allocation for other critical functions, such as:
- System BIOS (including motherboard, add-on cards, etc..)
- Motherboards resources
- Memory mapped I/O
- Configuration for AGP/PCI-Ex/PCI
- Other memory allocations for PCI devices
Different onboard devices and different add-on cards (devices) will result of different total memory size. e.g. more PCI cards installed will require more memory resources, resulting of less memory free for other uses.
This limitation applies to most chipsets & Windows XP/Vista 32-bit version operating systems. Again, this is a limitation of the Operating System not having enough address space to allocate to the system *and* the RAM. Not allocating address space to devices renders them inoperable. Not allocating addresses to RAM simply results in the unaddressed section not being used in an otherwise fully functional computer. Therefore the OS designers assign RAM last.
We can have long debates about mathematical fundamentals and discussions about why the original Windows designers couldn't allocate the full theoretical max of 36 bits of address space so that users today would be able to use more resource. But at the end of the day, the designers and engineers 'Didn't Then'. So we 'Can't Now'.
If you install a Windows operating system, and if more than 3GB memory is required for your system, then the below conditions must be met:
1. A memory controller which supports memory swap functionality is used. The latest chipsets like Intel 975X, 955X, Nvidia NF4 SLI Intel Edition, Nvidia NF4 SLI X16, AMD K8 and newer architectures can support the memory swap function.
2. Installation of Windows XP Pro X64 Ed. (64-bit), Windows Vista 64, or other OS which can provide more than 4GB worth of address space.
Note: According to the latest Change Log published by Microsoft, Windows Vista 32bit SP1 will display the installed amount of RAM. This is a display change only.