Originally posted by: Moohooya
I confess I'm not going to read all of the above. However I am married, so you may be interested in what I have to say.
Yes, what she did was wrong. As for you scale of 1 to 10, I say forget the scale. If I had to pick a number, I'd say 1.
What happened to trust some of you ask. Well, did she not tell you what had happened? She knew that she had broken your trust and came clean about it. Probably for one of a few reasons.
1) She wants to realy piss you off and get a divorce.
2) Your bedroom life sucks and she hopes that this might spark some jeleously in you and things might get better.
3) She is honestly sorry.
If it is 1, you are out of luck. If it is 2, it may never have happened. (Same with 1, but you are too late.) If it is 3, chances are it happened, but she is sorry, knowns what she did was wrong, so go kiss and makeup (makeout).
Lets get realistic about this. Some HUGE percentage of married folks have affairs on business trips. I forget what it is, but 1 in 5 or something. She had been away for not one night, but several months. The affair percentage has got to be much higher for trips of this length. I'm not trying to say this was right, but bringing it into perspective we are all human, have our weak moments, and she did something bad.
She has not being having an affair for months with your best friend.
She didn't even have a one night stand.
She didn't even try to hide or deny the incidents.
If more had happened, why would she have even brought it up and started suspecions in your mind?