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[Gaard]

Married 10 years
I slept with another woman while been married.
My wife has BJ'd another man during our marriage.

Your wife sucked another man's dick and you don't care?

 

[Daxxax]

As human beings we all capable of being tempted and most of us would fail a test of true temptation. When you love somebody, you do not put yourself in a position to be tempted and, like Joseph in the Bible, will literally run from temptation should it arise anyway. The Bible also says that to lust after a woman is the same as having committed adultery. Whether or not you're a Christian you have to acknowledge the wisdom of these words.


Yeah thats why almost all the men in the old testament had so many wives!!! That way they could lust after alot of them and not feel guilty. LOL!!!

 

[Kung Lau]

First off, I don't think anyone is going to fault you for doing what you think is right.

Secondly, I see alot of different perspectives coming from people of different beliefs, morals, etc.
If this is a prelude to you seeking counselling, it may or may not beneficial. I for one am pretty conservative
when it comes to matters like this. Don't take this to mean that I'm some right Christian activist. I believe in God,
but I have not been to church in years. It's my upraising and my adult experiences that lead me to say that
you should seek professional help immediately if you want to maintain your marriage. I'm really old fashioned. I
would not ever do any questionable things away from my wife, and I never expect that from her.

I am in the military as well, been TDY many a time in excess of 4 months. She's been with me for 13 years and not a day have I doubted her.
I've mellowed out a bit from when I was younger, but I could never adopt the extremely liberal views some people have today.

 

[ohtwell]

I'd rate it about a 7.

I would be really pissed off. :|

At least it didn't go any further than that.





: ) Amanda

 

[Geekbabe]

my first concern would be, just how much alcohol is this woman taking in a day ? As to the rest,I haven't the foggest how to advise you.. but my first worry would be the booze.

 

[NetCadet]

I am not married, however I would most certainly consider this to be a sign of things to come.

To put it simply, if your wife has done this, she truly feels no love for you. Someone who is willing to hurt you in that way obviously has no feelings for you. Furthermore, you must consider that if she would allow this behavior, there is nothing to stop her from taking it several steps further.

Were I in your position, I would be absolutely crushed. Obviously she doesn't care about you or the vows each of you made on your wedding day.

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: ohtwell
I'd rate it about a 7.

I would be really pissed off. :|

At least it didn't go any further than that.

: ) Amanda

That he knows of.

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: Gaard

Married 10 years
I slept with another woman while been married.
My wife has BJ'd another man during our marriage.

Your wife sucked another man's dick and you don't care?

No. Why should I?

amish

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: justint
Do you think that crosses the line into innapropriate? How would you react?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how serious is this?

yes
i would freak out
9.5

everybodies relationship is different, but unless you had a "prearrangement" that screwing around on business trips is "ok" , then y'all need to seriously look at your marriage

what other problems are you having ?

it is unlikely that this is isolated , especially since she told you

perhaps she wants out of the marriage and did this as a way to give you cause to boot her out, i don't know , but this is A HUGE RED FLAG in my opinion

good luck, hope you don't have any kids

ps i have been married 14 years next month

 

[Gaard]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: Gaard

Married 10 years
I slept with another woman while been married.
My wife has BJ'd another man during our marriage.

Your wife sucked another man's dick and you don't care?

No. Why should I?

amish

And your wife had no qualms about you fvcking another woman?

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: Gaard

Married 10 years
I slept with another woman while been married.
My wife has BJ'd another man during our marriage.

Your wife sucked another man's dick and you don't care?

No. Why should I?

amish

And your wife had no qualms about you fvcking another woman?

No.


We're stil together 4-5 years later.

amish

 

[Nocturnal]

I'd be pissed!.

 

[Gujski]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: Gaard

Married 10 years
I slept with another woman while been married.
My wife has BJ'd another man during our marriage.

Your wife sucked another man's dick and you don't care?

No. Why should I?

amish

And your wife had no qualms about you fvcking another woman?

No.


We're stil together 4-5 years later.

amish

so why dont you do it more often, or was that one time just a test, or none of the above...

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: Gujski

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: Gaard

Married 10 years
I slept with another woman while been married.
My wife has BJ'd another man during our marriage.

Your wife sucked another man's dick and you don't care?

No. Why should I?

amish

And your wife had no qualms about you fvcking another woman?

No.


We're stil together 4-5 years later.

amish

so why dont you do it more often, or was that one time just a test, or none of the above...

The opportunity hasn't arisen again. I wasn't out in search of it, the situation just developed.

amish

 

[kami]

I think heartsurgeon's few words have been the best advice in the entire thread.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: kami
I think heartsurgeon's few words have been the best advice in the entire thread.

Ditto, among a few others.

 

[PlatinumGold]

I'm kinda leaning Amish's way on this one. But there are a few caveats here.

I would love it if my wife could enjoy sex with other men and not get emotionally attached. It would give me pleasure to see her enjoy sex that way. I also would take advantage of the situation because I know I could enjoy sex with other women and it be a purely physical thing only.

having said that I also know that for my wife sex is closely connected to emotions. SO given that it would be hard for me to see my wife with other men and I have never and will never cheat on my wife because of how she feels about sex.

now in ur case, Obviously your wife doesn't separate physical pleasure from emotional attachment, otherwise she never would have told you about it. Also as some have said, it is very possible that she is feeling guilty about the encounters. The point many are missing here is, IT'S really not relevant whethor or not she went farther than that. In her mind there was some kind of chemistry, attraction, emotion or feeling with those other two men, otherwise why is she telling you about it. would she tell you about every accidental physical brushing up against by men that she work with?? no.

 

[JoeBaD]

Amish & Gold,

why don't you send your wives my way!

if they look decent.

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: JoeBaD
if they look decent.

With couth like that it's no wonder you need to have a woman "sent" to you.

amish

 

[iamme]

I think, in the end, justint needs to make the final call. Amish has a point....if you truly love her, trust her. What good is a marriage, if you can't be completely in love? Justint, you can't compare your relationship with anyone elses'. There isn't a general scale of how serious this situtation is....one couple's 5 is another's 9.

If, what happened with your wife, is something that you don't want to ever happen again, then my biggest concern is this: her work environment. If I'm assuming correctly, word in the military probably travels very fast. Pretty soon, there will be many nights, and many men buying her drinks......

 

[iamme]

Amish, my question to you is: is this something that's accepted in your marriage? Or was it a mistake that you guys have worked past?

 

[SCSIfreek]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: Gujski

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: Gaard

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: Gaard

Married 10 years
I slept with another woman while been married.
My wife has BJ'd another man during our marriage.

Your wife sucked another man's dick and you don't care?

No. Why should I?

amish

And your wife had no qualms about you fvcking another woman?

No.


We're stil together 4-5 years later.

amish

so why dont you do it more often, or was that one time just a test, or none of the above...

The opportunity hasn't arisen again. I wasn't out in search of it, the situation just developed.

amish

Amish,

I admire your love for your wife but apparently many others on this board has a different view of "Your Type of True Love" and "Their Type of True Love".

Amish's Meaning - the ultimate love for that person, no matter what their psyhical bodies do/change, he'll love his wife as always. This my friend is extremely hard to master. I have only seen it in movies, but never had encountered a person who could have done it. Maybe porn stars? which considered sex their job description? Many men/women could not stand the thoughts of their other halves having a good time with the opposite sex. I'm included.

Would you feel fine if your best friend bang your wife just for the sex? I dont think so man. I'm old fashion, I could never stand this type of $hit.

justinit i suggest you need to seriously seat down and go over this with your wife. Ask her, would it be comfortable for her if you did the same with your co-workers? Again Drinking IS NOT AN EXCUSE!<----People who use this is irresponsible and should not be trusted. Also do not take 100% of what everyone says here as a normal. As you might have figured out, people who joined ATOT isn't the normal people(most are computer nerds) you'll encounter on the streets. Its a tough situation but you got to figure it out yourself, to see if you could deal with this heat or end the relationship <--- it is your call. Good luck my friend.


--Scsi

 

[Johnlee]

Not married. Here's my take anyway:

First off:

I'm not concerned about your pride... I am concerned about what might happen to her on a drunken night with the wrong kind of guy

*annoying buzzer sound* SORRY, BUUUUTTT THANK YOU FOR PLAYING!

That's a nice little thought (I actually commend you if you feel that) but it certainly isn't mine. Screw that noise. I wouldn't give a sh1t what happened to her if it happened a THIRD time.

And as far as this:

I am really pissed now. A few excerpts from an e-mail I just got from her. I still can't talk to her in person for a variety of reasons.

I'm sorry for dropping a bombshell on
you. The thing is that I don't feel like what I did is so bad. A little
bit of touching, we're not even talking about groping here, all one way,
when drunk, on deployment. I didn't sleep with anybody, didn't even kiss
anybody - I just didn't stop something very mild.

we have
different standards of where you cross the line. I think what I did was
very mild. I don't think I would be very mad if you did it. A little hurt,
naturally, but no more. And I hope that's where you end it too

Uh yeah sure Guv'nah. Sounds like the spin-doctor's in the hizzy. Here's what you do with that horsesh1t...right click-->junk emial-->add to junk senders list

It's time to look to the wisened Homer and say, "Welcome to dumpsville babee, Population: YOU"

Good luck brother.

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: iamme
Amish, my question to you is: is this something that's accepted in your marriage? Or was it a mistake that you guys have worked past?

It wasn't accepted or planned, in so many words. It was just happened.

She was shocked at first but, unlike many of the people here, she is smart enough to understand the reality. I had sex with a woman but, in the end, came home to be with her.

It's an emotional connection that we share that I don't know how to explain.

I asked her the 2 important questions (IMO) when she had her fling, and received the appropriate answers.

1) Did you have fun? Yes.

2) Do you love him, or have your feelings for me changed? No.

Beyond that, nothing matters.

amish

 

[Pliablemoose]

Anyone else want pics of Amish's wife?