Just a side note...
If you just get divorced and never deal with what has happened in your relationship, you are very likely to hook up with someone who has the same problems again. Trust me, there is a sort of 'relationship Twilight Zone' out there where you will find yourself getting involved with the same person in a different body, over and over again, until you figure out what it is about you that attracts you to these situations. What role have you been playing in her life? Father-husband to a rebellious daughter-wife? Savior of some sort? There are definitely roles being played here, and if you want to avoid this kind of heartache in the future, you'd best figure out what part you have cast yourself in.
Also, while I appreciate Amish's loving perspective (yay Amish!) what concerns me the most is that she doesn't seem to realize how hazardous and potentially dangerous this behavior is to her. I'm not concerned about your pride... I am concerned about what might happen to her on a drunken night with the wrong kind of guy.
If you just get divorced and never deal with what has happened in your relationship, you are very likely to hook up with someone who has the same problems again. Trust me, there is a sort of 'relationship Twilight Zone' out there where you will find yourself getting involved with the same person in a different body, over and over again, until you figure out what it is about you that attracts you to these situations. What role have you been playing in her life? Father-husband to a rebellious daughter-wife? Savior of some sort? There are definitely roles being played here, and if you want to avoid this kind of heartache in the future, you'd best figure out what part you have cast yourself in.
Also, while I appreciate Amish's loving perspective (yay Amish!) what concerns me the most is that she doesn't seem to realize how hazardous and potentially dangerous this behavior is to her. I'm not concerned about your pride... I am concerned about what might happen to her on a drunken night with the wrong kind of guy.