Fausto1, Actually when I first started my program, I was not accustomed to even eating breakfast, let alone eating 5-6 meals a day. So at first I actually had to force myself to eat. Even though it was not a lot of calories, I felt like I was over-eating because of the frequency with which I ate. I remember thinking, "This information I read is B.S.! I'll never lose weight like this, I should go back to starving myself like I usually do when I needed to drop weight." Well, I stuck with it and boy was I wrong--it did work!
So even though I didn't go around hungry, I was not eating enough back then. Eating 1400 calories a day (sometimes even less) when I weighed 200 pounds was a huge mistake and truthfully, it probably hindered my progress somewhat. If you want to lose fat, it's best to create a mild caloric deficit, and then divide those calories between 5-6 meals per day. A good general rule for fatloss is to eat 10 times your body weight in calories per day. So, at 200 pounds, I should have been eating 2000 calories per day, not 1400. One can't just eat any old calories, mind you. They must come from good, "clean" foods. I aim for a 40/40/20 diet, which means I try to get 40% of my calories from protein, 40% from good, complex carbs (no simple carbs or refined sugar/flour), and 20% from good fats, which are fats rich in omega 3 and omega 6 (found in fish and olive oil, for example). Keep in mind that the above diet contains way too much protein unless you are committed to an intense weight training-program. You also should not take in that amount of protein if you have any history of kidney problems.
BentValve, I'm glad you have put those unhealthy ways behind you, hopefully for good. It doesn't have to be difficult or painful. It just takes some knowledge and some dedication. Before you know it, the bad habits are replaced with good habits and then you don't have to think about it anymore. When I first started it was weird getting used to such a new way of eating, but it didn't take long to get in the groove and now everything is second nature. Feel free to write me if you want some more information. I was a nutritional dummy before I started this "project", but over the past few months I've learned a tremendous amount. Desire and dedication only take you so far with out the knowledge to fuel them (Christ--I'm sorry--I'm starting to sound like a lame motivational poster).
LordMaul, others, check out my response to Fausto1 for some general tips on losing fat. I know that's not a lot of detail, but it's a good start. Unless you are happy with your shape, I think weight training is a very important part of any good fatloss plan. Otherwise you just become a smaller, softer version of what you are now. People who diet without exercise usually lose more muscle than fat. There are basically 3 key ingredients for transforming your body: diet, cardio and weight training.
I could go on forever, but it's time for my to go make my salmon. I am very strict about not missing meals. At this point, my body lets me know every 3 hours: TIME TO EAT.
Thanks to everyone else who commented, I wish I had more time right now. I really appreciate the props. Every single one of you can do what I did, I'm just an average guy who was sick of looking and feeling like crap. If you are in the same boat, it doesn't have to be that way. In 4 months you could look down and count your abs, not your fat rolls.
More later...
EDIT: RealWarlock, just saw your questions but I'm out of time. I touched on some of what you were asking about above, but I'll return later and answer your questions as best that I can.