A teenagers place to vent.

[nan0bug]

One day, you're going to wake up and be 20-something and miss the days when all you had to do was get good grades.

Being a teenager is tough, but you gotta step back from all the clique BS and just do you and stop worrying about other people. I'm only 22 and I hardly ever talk to any of the people I knew in high school, so if thats any indication of how things will be for you, then you can see that in the grand scale of life, most of the people you interact with in high school are pretty unimportant.

 

[Regs]

Originally posted by: nan0bug
One day, you're going to wake up and be 20-something and miss the days when all you had to do was get good grades.

Being a teenager is tough, but you gotta step back from all the clique BS and just do you and stop worrying about other people. I'm only 22 and I hardly ever talk to any of the people I knew in high school, so if thats any indication of how things will be for you, then you can see that in the grand scale of life, most of the people you interact with in high school are pretty unimportant.

Excellent point, I agree. Sometimes it's better to be a spectator then a player.

 

[abracadabra1]

Originally posted by: CedarTeeth135
You could say that I don't scratch unless it itches.

I bet your mom says that.

Don't worry about the disaffection you seem to have with your teenage years. It's really not all that bad. You seem like you might lack direction (which just about everyone does at that age). Just be your own man, do your own thing, and work towards making something out of yourself.

Don't worry about the rest; it will fall in place with time.

 

[fooshkee]

you'll be fine.... i'm a senior and yes highschool sucks, but once you hit your jr year it gets better

 

[DainBramaged]

Originally posted by: dtyn

Originally posted by: Millennium
I can seriously and I mean seriously say ONE thing. Being a teenager is NOTHING. You are dealing with NOTHING. It may SEEM like you have a sh!t life or a lot to go through, but it is NOTHING. That I can promise you. Wait until you are an adult and you will see how bad life blows. Keep in mind that I was a teenager not too long ago. You are dealing with NOTHING. Enjoy it while you can.

I tend to agree with this statement. You've experienced nothing until you have to start supporting yourself and solve your own problems.

As a famous individual once said, "Life's a b!tch, then you die."

 

[duragezic]

Relax. Nothing is wrong. Just keep doing whatever makes you feel good. There are ups and downs.

"over analysis is a cursed introspection"

 

[dmurray14]

Damn man...just damn..


It's funny, because with just a few modifications, your post would describe me as well. I'm around your age, and a lot of times I feel the same way you do. Pretty weird how much we have in common, and I don't even know who you are!

On a side note, I think it's pretty cool that you shared your age, and I think the older folks on the forums need to know that places like this are a haven for younger guys like us. Every day, we have serious opinions that we'd like to express, but are usually drown out by "age stereotyping." When we are just a username, just an avatar, it's so much more easy to be taken seriously by folks with the same interests we have. That means more than words can describe, and is extremely important. I consider myself to be a mature teen, and although I'm a bit older than this guy is, I still feel like I'm not taken seriously in everyday life. I truly appreciate being able to come here and discuss any topic any time and have my opinions and views respected just as well as any person 20 years older than me. In that sense, forums are by far one of the best things that have come out of the internet.

Anyway, hang tight bud, it'll get better. I'd like to thing that there's a point in everyones life where they just "hit it off" in all aspects, and it sounds like your time has yet to come. Just don't doubt that it will.

Dan

 

[anno]

Originally posted by: RabidMongoose
So are all teenagers unhappy with their lives these days? I remember being happy as a teenager. I didn't hate life/school at all. Most people seemed happy. But then again, at that time I was happy being in front of a computer playing Warcraft 2 or something.

why is this thread so wide??

oh. teenagers. I think most of 'em are a lot happier than they think they are.. they just haven't learned to chill.
moment by moment, they're fine, they're havin' a great time but soon as they don't have something to do, life sucks.
at least.. that's what it looks like from where I sit (mom of 2 teenagers), and pretty much how I remember it from when
I was livin' it. I mean.. I'll have a house full of teens havin' a grand time, they'll leave at midnight, and the next mornin'
their journals will read:
12:30am - I had the best night, my friends rock.
10:30am - my life sucks my friends suck my parents suck - blah.
the only thing that's changed between 12:30 and 10:30 is.. they've slept, woken up, had their kid kibble and now
they're bored.

just need to learn how to chill. take some time and learn to enjoy your own company. friends come, friends go..
you're stuck with yourself.. learn to like you.

(hitting preview.. is this skinnier? eew.. yes.. but ugly.. maybe it'll fat back up when I hit reply..)

 

[moonshinemadness]

Same here, i wasnt particularly popular in high school managed to get through it with good grades and everything now i am college and things seem to be going better. On the woman side, we sound the same im 16 and ive always strived for long meaningful relationships and with most girls it just isnt possible. Dont let people tell you you cant have them, you can, you just got to find the right person. It mainly because your very mature for your age, most people wont understand thisbut im guessing youll be a lot more worldy and mature than any of teh guys/girls in your HS and thats where your problem lies. Ive found, that making friends with older people and dating older/more mature women (Not talking 30 year olds, but 17-18 will do) who are looking for more than just a quick lay(Although theres no harm in practising ). Ive found the best thing to do is just chill out, take each day as it comes and wait because as you get older you will meet people who you click with, such as that girl lee. If you wana chat or anything just PM me.

 

[Zenmervolt]

Originally posted by: CedarTeeth135
I am probably more mature than some adults.

Yes you are. You're more mature than the people who are chronologically adults but who have mental ages less than 15. There are indeed some adults like that. Very few though.

I hate to break it to you, but what you're going through is nothing remotely special. I mean, let's see: You're 15. You have issues with your siblings. You have issues with your parents. You have issues with certain cliques at school. You have issues with girls. That's all par for the course.

Oh no, only a few relationships! And they haven't lasted! Guess what. You've got this 21 year old beaten by one whole relationship. I really don't give a rat's ass about it, but maybe it'll make you feel better that you've had more relationships than someone who is 21.

ZV

EDIT: Appropriate quote: "If you think that growing up is tough, then you're just not grown up enough."

 

[dmurray14]

Originally posted by: moonshinemadness
Same here, i wasnt particularly popular in high school managed to get through it with good grades and everything now i am college and things seem to be going better. On the woman side, we sound the same im 16 and ive always strived for long meaningful relationships and with most girls it just isnt possible. Dont let people tell you you cant have them, you can, you just got to find the right person. It mainly because your very mature for your age, most people wont understand thisbut im guessing youll be a lot more worldy and mature than any of teh guys/girls in your HS and thats where your problem lies. Ive found, that making friends with older people and dating older/more mature women (Not talking 30 year olds, but 17-18 will do) who are looking for more than just a quick lay(Although theres no harm in practising ). Ive found the best thing to do is just chill out, take each day as it comes and wait because as you get older you will meet people who you click with, such as that girl lee. If you wana chat or anything just PM me.

Wait, wait...you're 16 and in college?

 

[CedarTeeth135]

Thanx a ton for the replys so far.

I find myself laughing at some things I have said so far. In retrospect some things may sounds childish, but still stand by what I said.


I got a question for you guys. Did any of your mothers ever try overly hard to get into your head and figure out what you're thinking. Sometimes I can't stand my mom. Its not the nagging or anything like that, its just that she thinks she needs to know whats going on, and she also thinks that she knows me well, and knows whats good for me. An expample I have is that I'm Lutheran and recently went through confermation at my church. I went to all the classses and learned about the religion, and then I knew that it wasn't for me. After a week or so comtemplating how to tell my mom I didn't want to get confirmed, I finnally told her.

My mom blew up at me, she couldn't believe that I didn't want to do it and began giving me all sorts of reasons why I was wrong. I was so upset at her. My mom also had my older sister talk to me, who told me that I "should get confirmed because it will make mom happy." I couldn't believe it. No one cared what I thought. I went through confirmation, lied in front of the whole congregation about my beliefs and got confirmed.

 

[axelfox]

maybe you need to narc on your sister

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: Millennium
I can seriously and I mean seriously say ONE thing. Being a teenager is NOTHING. You are dealing with NOTHING. It may SEEM like you have a sh!t life or a lot to go through, but it is NOTHING. That I can promise you. Wait until you are an adult and you will see how bad life blows. Keep in mind that I was a teenager not too long ago. You are dealing with NOTHING. Enjoy it while you can.

He's right.

I do prefer life MUCH more as an adult than as a teenager, but that's not because it's easier. It's just that I'm smarter. Teenagers are often very self centered and think their lives are one big catastrophe. Pathetic.

Anyway this is not aimed at the original poster; his post was substantially too long for me to read it.

 

[Anghang]

Originally posted by: dtyn

Originally posted by: Millennium
I can seriously and I mean seriously say ONE thing. Being a teenager is NOTHING. You are dealing with NOTHING. It may SEEM like you have a sh!t life or a lot to go through, but it is NOTHING. That I can promise you. Wait until you are an adult and you will see how bad life blows. Keep in mind that I was a teenager not too long ago. You are dealing with NOTHING. Enjoy it while you can.

I tend to agree with this statement. You've experienced nothing until you have to start supporting yourself and solve your own problems.

SO SO TRUE!...:beer:

 

[moonshinemadness]

Originally posted by: dmurray14

Wait, wait...you're 16 and in college?

Yeah.....im in the uk get out of high school at 16 and into college. My mum is pretty easy-going sometimes she tries a bit too hard but will backoff if i explain that i dont like it.