Originally posted by: zerocool84
If only more people listen to Tom Leykis.......
Originally posted by: child of wonder
Every woman receiving alimony is guilty of rape.
An antiquated law that no longer applies to today's society.
Sure, in the 1950's when women did not have as many opportunities or earning power as men it makes sense since the man was expected to take care of the woman. However, now women demand equality and, in my opinion, they should have it. One of the parts of being EQUAL is that when a marriage ends, neither party is responsible for maintaining the lifestyle of the other, save for when children are involved and the one without full custody pays support.
I know of all too many guys that have gotten bent over by NC judges.Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: Sawyer
From stories like this I can see how guys can snap and off their wife.
would be cheaper in most states.
In NC if you are a man you get r@ped by the judge in divorce court.
If I ever get married again, it will be with a pre-nup.
Originally posted by: zerocool84
If only more people listen to Tom Leykis.......
Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
Originally posted by: boomhower
One of my coworkers has 70% of his check taken for child support(4 kids, three different mothers). When he asked the Judge how he was supposed to pay his bills, "get another job".
Your coworker is a fucking idiot. I have no sympathy for him. Explain to him that condoms are cheaper than child support.
Originally posted by: mb
prenup++
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I'm not sure how divorce works exactly, but I believe that both parties must agree to it.
Would it not be cheaper just to refuse the divorce and get seperated?
I may be wrong.
There are circumstances in which courts have refused to enforce certain portions/provisions of such agreements. For example, in an April, 2007 decision by the Appellate Division in New Jersey, the court refused to enforce a provision of a prenuptial agreement relating to the wife's waiver of her interest in the husband's savings plan. The New Jersey court held that when the parties executed their prenuptial agreement, it was not foreseeable that the husband would later increase his contributions toward the savings plan.
Originally posted by: Agentbolt
The solution to almost all of this shit is to simply not get married. You're not less in love or an affront to common sense. There is NO reason to get married other than to step into line with the majority of society or make someone else happy.
Child support issues are their own ball of wax that I won't get into, but alimony is complete and utter bullshit. The only VAGUELY redeeming feature is that you can't go to jail for not paying it like you can child support. Simply stop paying alimony, the worst she can usually do is send a collection agency after you. I'd rather wreck my credit in that situation than let her win.
Originally posted by: TonyB
no, first mistake was getting married.
Originally posted by: Agentbolt
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I'm not sure how divorce works exactly, but I believe that both parties must agree to it.
Would it not be cheaper just to refuse the divorce and get seperated?
I may be wrong.
No, both parties don't have to agree to it at all. That'd be pretty messed up if you wanted a divorce, your spouse said "No" and you were stuck being separated at best.
Prenups are bullshit. People don't seem to realize that prenups can be thrown out for a variety of reasons. Let's say you're a billionaire, you marry a hot poor chick, and your prenup says she only gets 20,000 bucks. The judge can throw it out for being unfair. And judges will ROUTINELY rule that the woman only receiving .0001% of a guy's money after being married for a few years is unfair.
Let's say the prenup is more than fair, but the chick still wants more. All she has to do is say "well I didn't sign it voluntarily at the time" and she's got a decent chance of getting it kicked.
Or hell, maybe the court just didn't feel like upholding it.
There are circumstances in which courts have refused to enforce certain portions/provisions of such agreements. For example, in an April, 2007 decision by the Appellate Division in New Jersey, the court refused to enforce a provision of a prenuptial agreement relating to the wife's waiver of her interest in the husband's savings plan. The New Jersey court held that when the parties executed their prenuptial agreement, it was not foreseeable that the husband would later increase his contributions toward the savings plan.
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The solution to almost all of this shit is to simply not get married. You're not less in love or an affront to common sense. There is NO reason to get married other than to step into line with the majority of society or make someone else happy.
Child support issues are their own ball of wax that I won't get into, but alimony is complete and utter bullshit. The only VAGUELY redeeming feature is that you can't go to jail for not paying it like you can child support. Simply stop paying alimony, the worst she can usually do is send a collection agency after you. I'd rather wreck my credit in that situation than let her win.
Originally posted by: JS80
Originally posted by: Agentbolt
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I'm not sure how divorce works exactly, but I believe that both parties must agree to it.
Would it not be cheaper just to refuse the divorce and get seperated?
I may be wrong.
No, both parties don't have to agree to it at all. That'd be pretty messed up if you wanted a divorce, your spouse said "No" and you were stuck being separated at best.
Prenups are bullshit. People don't seem to realize that prenups can be thrown out for a variety of reasons. Let's say you're a billionaire, you marry a hot poor chick, and your prenup says she only gets 20,000 bucks. The judge can throw it out for being unfair. And judges will ROUTINELY rule that the woman only receiving .0001% of a guy's money after being married for a few years is unfair.
Let's say the prenup is more than fair, but the chick still wants more. All she has to do is say "well I didn't sign it voluntarily at the time" and she's got a decent chance of getting it kicked.
Or hell, maybe the court just didn't feel like upholding it.
There are circumstances in which courts have refused to enforce certain portions/provisions of such agreements. For example, in an April, 2007 decision by the Appellate Division in New Jersey, the court refused to enforce a provision of a prenuptial agreement relating to the wife's waiver of her interest in the husband's savings plan. The New Jersey court held that when the parties executed their prenuptial agreement, it was not foreseeable that the husband would later increase his contributions toward the savings plan.
Source
The solution to almost all of this shit is to simply not get married. You're not less in love or an affront to common sense. There is NO reason to get married other than to step into line with the majority of society or make someone else happy.
Child support issues are their own ball of wax that I won't get into, but alimony is complete and utter bullshit. The only VAGUELY redeeming feature is that you can't go to jail for not paying it like you can child support. Simply stop paying alimony, the worst she can usually do is send a collection agency after you. I'd rather wreck my credit in that situation than let her win.
Not getting married will not get you off the hook. Nowadays women can sue you for support if you were with them for a long time but never got married. I forgot what the term for that is.
edit: palimony
Originally posted by: Arkitech
So I was talking to a coworker who recently transferred into my department and he was telling me about his divorce. His wife was cheating on him with a guy from her job, one of her coworkers informed the husband. He filed for divorced, the judge ordered him to pay child support for 2 kids and alimony. So he moves out of the house that he inherited from his parents so the kids would'nt have to be uprooted, the wife does'nt pay the mortgage and the house is lost in foreclosure. In the meantime my coworker lives in a small basement apartment in a crappy neighborhood struggling to make ends meet.
How is this legal? I admit I'm pretty naive about divorce laws but this just does'nt seem right at all. There's another story like this that I read online, basically a rich guy marries a woman, she cheats on him and walks away with more than 20 million of his money. Then he also gets to pay child support for the kids she had in a previous relationship. wtfbbq!! I don't understand the legal system at all.