Originally posted by: shilala
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: shilala
Originally posted by: Amused
While it is true that some people are more easily addicted to alcohol, it is STILL a choice to keep drinking, or dry out.
No matter how heavily one is addicted, the CHOICE is still there.
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Absolutely 100% wrong. Alcoholics have no choice in the matter of drink on any level, at any time, in any situation. Never did, never will. That goes for before picking up a drink, after picking it up, or before they ever took their first drink.
BULLSH1T
While they may lack the self control to control their drinking once they've started (the same as I am with my addictions) they DO have the ability to avoid alcohol completely.
This is why addicts MUST live in a black and white world when it comes to the objects of their addictions. They lack only the control to moderate their use. They DO NOT lack the control to avoid use altogether.
I know addiction very well. It is, and always will be, a CHOICE.
Millions of dry and clean addicts prove you 100% wrong.
Maybe it's simply the word "choice" that doesn't work for me. I do get your point.
Don't pick it up and it can't get away from you makes perfectly good sense.
Thing is, somewhere along the way in my alcoholic career, I completely lost the ability to exercise my "choice" on whether or not to pick it up.
I needed it and relied on it as much as oxygen. I picked it up to survive. It was that or a bullet in the melon.
Now I do have a choice. I can choose to get the ongoing help I need to control the problem. I can choose to do what I need to do to keep from ending up like I was.
I chose literally thousands of times not to drink and still did. I chose thousands of times not to continue drinking once I started, but still did.
I don't know what it's called when you choose to do something and it doesn't work out.
Lack of willpower, maybe. I liken willpower to trying not to shyt when I have diarrhea.
I don't want to shyt my pants if there's no toilet available. I can choose not to shyt my pants. If it's coming, it's coming.
I can't stop it.