all you actual women out there answer me this please...

[hans007]

what does it mean when a girl says "i'm just not ready right now" when you ask them if they wanna be more than friends... it was followed by "if it was just you, it'd be a big yes, but its me"

i was thinking i'm either doomed, or i can take it literally. I dont really know if i need to know what the guys think, since from asking some of my guy friends they are just as lost as i am.

 

[DanJ]

Coming from a guy; it means she's not ready for that yet. Meaning she doesn't want a relationship right now.

It happens. Live, learn, but if you push it, you'll most likely lose what you have right now (if you still have something).

 

[Nefrodite]

you poor guy it probably means what you think it does..

 

[Looney]

"if it was just you, it'd be a big yes, but its me"


That's the clincher. She's trying to let you down easily by putting the blame on herself rather than you... but really, it's you (if it wasn't why would she need to try justifying it).

 

[swai]

it all depends on how she said it

 

[atom]

<< "if it was just you, it'd be a big yes, but its me" >>



It's nice to see she's into the classics.

Translation: Move on.

 

[DannyLove]

low how low. it means shes not interested in you, plain and simple.

danny~!

 

[TheBlondOne]

OK, don't go jumping out a window yet...

It could really, truly mean that she's just not ready and she has some things she has to work through: another guy, past relationship, SOMETHING.

Heck, if a girl wants to let you down easy she won't say "not ready JUST YET." In a girl's world that usually means, "if you'll just wait for me until I get some stuff worked out I'm ready and willing to go for it."

Seriously. I've "been there, done that," and I'm so thankful my guy waited for me.

--Sarah

 

[hans007]

ok, i now realize why i asked for just the women to answer this.

 

[UofI]

Thats a nice way of her telling you that she isnt interested :Q

 

[Buzzman151]

Give give her a nice big smack on teh @ss, and say "Hey baby, wanna mate?" How that goes should answer you question... hehe.... and probably will give you very sore genitals, so watch out

 

[The Dancing Peacock]

here's my cynical answer.

She's not into you, and this is her way of letting you off easy. BUT, if things don't work out with whomever else she's got her eye on, she's got you "waiting" for her patiently like a little dog. On top of that, she knows you like her, so she likes the attention you've been giving her, and she doesn't want that to stop. Women love attention, it's a fact. She's gonna string you along, keeping you just interested enough until you give up, or she finds someone that she wants to date. You might be the backup, or worse, bub. sorry.


Or Sarah could be right, and I'm a jaded asshole

 

[jaeger66]

She doesn't find you attractive enough to have sex with, but you'll be her shoulder to cry on when her boyfriend dumps her.

 

[jjones]

<< "if you'll just wait for me until I get some stuff worked out I'm ready and willing to go for it." >>


that in itself could take several lifetimes.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Depends on why she "isn't ready right now"... if she just ended a relationship, or is experiencing some sort of life changing tragedy that might indicate her answer is reasonable, otherwise, sounds like an 'easy' let down for you.

 

[ViperMagic]

<< Give give her a nice big smack on teh @ss, and say "Hey baby, wanna mate?" How that goes should answer you question... hehe.... and probably will give you very sore genitals, so watch out >>



No, no, no, no!

its:

'Sup bitch. Date?

 

[luvya]

that means she loves you to death!!!
you are her most beloved man!!!
I am a gal! so I know what I am talking about!!
AND YES, I AM LYING
it's exactly the opposite of it...

 

[AreaCode707]

The very fact that that line is so cliche and she knows it suggests that it is a sign of disinterest. HOWEVER, if it preceded or followed by, but I am interested in you, I would say you're still in the running.

 

[SilverThief]

Women sure can suck sometimes.

*:Q

 

[dopcombo]

Seriously. Forget it.
If she really liked you, she wouldn't even be giving you some cryptic answer like that.

Why kill more brain cells worrying about this.... when you could be much happier looking for a girl that really liked you?

.DOP

 

[MackGoose]

I'm not a Psychologist, but I play one on TV.

It means she'd get better satisfaction froma battery operated toy, then have to be with you. Just don't take it personally. Just hope she chips her teeth on the vibrator.

 

[Infidelity]

It means like this.

You: Do you want to be more then friends?
Her: No, your not my type.

Don't put any more thought to this.

 

[Bluga]

Translation: Move on.

 

[Mustangrrl]

I would bet she just isn't interested in you but doesn't want to have to explain why or lose your friendship. If I were you, I'd take it to mean she will probably never date you... and I'm sorry about that.
~robyn

 

[Grunt03]

What she is trying to say is:

1. Do not stop with the right hand yet.
2. No need in throwing away the porn mags yet.
3. Continue dreaming of getting into those pants.
4. She's into women.