Am I being horrible and selfish ?

[Geekbabe]

I work in a union shop, this would normally be my year to work Xmas but we've got a couple of new hires and I've finally climbed the senority ladder.

I put in to have Xmas off, I figure it's my 1st Xmas with my new husband and it would be nice to not have to haul myself to work.

I find out that the new guy stuck working Xmas has 5 little kids, including a newborn who was just born a couple days after thanksgiving.

Am I being horrible and selfish here ?

 

[Nohr]

If you don't take it while you can, you'll never get it. I'm sure you've earned your holiday.

 

[nakedfrog]

Meh. The presents will still be there when he gets home, as will the kids.

 

[Platypus]

It's really a question of how much xmas means to you... I'm sure it means a lot more for those 5 kids to be with their daddy on xmas to open presents.
I wouldn't say you are being horrible or selfish but you should be the bigger person and let the man spend the precious little years with his kids that xmas actually excites them.

 

[Saint Nick]

i'd work for him if it were me... i'm kind of a pushover but i wouldn't let someone do that to themselves (working on such a day with family at home). you are not being horrible by any means. your conscience is kicking in. you aren't being selfish either. but like someone said, it depends on how much christmas means to you. i'm sure those little kids would love to have their daddy home when they are opening presents.

 

[hypn0tik]

WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

 

[darkxshade]

I'm sure having 5 kids means he could use the extra work

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
It's really a question of how much xmas means to you... I'm sure it means a lot more for those 5 kids to be with their daddy on xmas to open presents.
I wouldn't say you are being horrible or selfish but you should be the bigger person and let the man spend the precious little years with his kids that xmas actually excites them.

But it doesn't really matter so much to the kids what the actual calendar date is, it's the day itself, so he can probably push it back or forward a day as necessary.

 

[AmerDoux]

No, you are not being selfish. That is the whole purpose of seniority. You've earned it so take it off! His turn will come.

 

[Skunkwourk]

Depends how important it is to you. If you do decide to give it up, take the day after off and treat that like christmas with your husband instead. It would be nice of you to give it up, but you wouldn't be selfish to take it since you've earned it. Then again maybe the new guy is a jerk...

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: darkxshade
I'm sure having 5 kids means he could use the extra work

:laugh:

 

[spidey07]

no. you've got seniority, use it.

Its kinda like saying "take that newbie"

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

I worked Thanksgiving day, black friday, then the following sat,sun and monday, he didn't have to.

 

[sixone]

You earned the right to have first dibs at having the holiday off. There's nothing wrong with keeping what you earned.

That said, I'd still feel guilty for being at home with my husband while he's away from his kids on Christmas Day. I'd rather work it than carry that.

 

[Skunkwourk]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

I worked Thanksgiving day, black friday, then the following sat,sun and monday, he didn't have to.

Sounds like you already know what you want to do. So unless you're going to lose sleep over it, take it off, you earned it.

 

[dullard]

I hope I don't sound sexist here, it isn't my intent.

So many times, I see women in the office who are too considerate. Women who don't make enough demands for themselves - raises, equal holiday treatment, etc. Then they end up getting screwed (women's pay is less than men's pay in many fields, women end up working holidays, etc).

You've earned the time off. It is your right. You've put in your holiday time. Let the peons work the holiday. End of story. Don't let emotions kick in and say anything else. If the positions were switched, you can bet that guy wouldn't be thinking of you or your kids; he'd be enjoying Christmas without a second thought.

And anyways, Christmas can be celebrated any day of the year. There is no harm in working on that day. He can have his holiday a day early or a day later. Only July 4th and New Years cannot be moved. Don't sweat it, Geekbabe, he isn't being harmed.

 

[jEnus]

I don't think so. You've worked you way up the seniority ladder,.

 

[AmerDoux]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

I worked Thanksgiving day, black friday, then the following sat,sun and monday, he didn't have to.

Sounds like there is already some form of rotating the holidays at your workplace? This is your year for Christmas. He can have it another year. And just because you don't have small children does not mean Christmas is less important to you.

 

[Lola]

i can understand that you want christmas off. And, to be honest with you, i would want to have christmas off as well.
I would expect to have to work christmas if i was the new hire as well.

You are not being selfish. Christmas is important to you, then enjoy it and embrace it. I would think this would make you more appericative of christmas and being together, so don't feel bad. You earned it.

thats just my opinion.

 

[hypn0tik]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

I worked Thanksgiving day, black friday, then the following sat,sun and monday, he didn't have to.

Ah, that piece of information was missing in the OP. It is also the first Xmas with your husband so that is definitely something to look forward to.

On the other hand, he has 5 children. Think of how happy they would be to be able to spend Xmas day with their father. I'm sure his wife could use the extra hand at home.

It's really a tough call.

 

[Tiamat]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

he would be busy being born and getting mad gifts like mihr, frankensense, and bling

I kid, I kid!



Tough call. Do what your heart says. If you wanna be with your husband, then shall it be so.

 

[hypn0tik]

Originally posted by: Tiamat

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

he would be busy being born and getting mad gifts like mihr, frankensense, and bling

I kid, I kid!

Hahahahahhaha. Nice!

 

[Aquila76]

Not selfish at all. That's why it sux to be the new guy.

 

[GeekDrew]

Christmas means the world to me... anyone that knows me could attest to that.

I would usually be *extremely* upset if I had to work on Christmas... but in this situation, I'd go to work, knowing that I let a bunch of kids have a happy Christmas... mine would wait until the next day.

 

[Agnostos Insania]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

Immolate Santa for stealing his thunder?