Am I being horrible and selfish ?

[NikPreviousAcct]

I wouldn't say that the way you're feeling is horrible and selfish. Well, maybe selfish a little bit. However, it's how ya act on it that sets those two in stone or not.

Your hubby would understand you having to work but those kids won't and his wife probably needs all the help she can get.

If my Mrs. decided to work so that someone else could stay home with their newborn on christmas, I'd think that much higher of her. :thumbsup:

 

[bigrash]

i think you're being selfish

 

[Patt]

I don't think you're being selfish. It is an unfortunate situation for him, but then, as you mentioned, you worked the Thanksgiving weekend. Because I don't have kids yet, I might offer to work it, but would feel no obligation to do so. I've also been married for a few years now, and my wife would probably approve if I offered something like that.

Do what you like, and don't feel bad, it isn't you 'screwing him over' or anything, it is just circumstances.

Happy Holidays!

 

[Koing]

You take the day off.

Koing

 

[Excelsior]

Originally posted by: Eghck

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

I worked Thanksgiving day, black friday, then the following sat,sun and monday, he didn't have to.

Sounds like you already know what you want to do. So unless you're going to lose sleep over it, take it off, you earned it.

 

[robothouse77]

he shouldn't have gotten a job that makes you work on xmas if it was important and/or he shouldn't have a had 5 kids if it was important to him.

if you have FIVE kids, you had better expect two things:
1) lots of expenses.
2) some means of covering those expenses.

he'll have to pony up and figure out a way to fulfill 2). by taking a job that makes you work on xmas, he obviously is attempting to do that. he'll live, and so will you

 

[Skunkwourk]

Originally posted by: Nik
I wouldn't say that the way you're feeling is horrible and selfish. Well, maybe selfish a little bit. However, it's how ya act on it that sets those two in stone or not.

Your hubby would understand you having to work but those kids won't and his wife probably needs all the help she can get.

If my Mrs. decided to work so that someone else could stay home with their newborn on christmas, I'd think that much higher of her. :thumbsup:

I wouldn't say its selfish. Shes worked to get where she is today. She shouldn't have to give up her pay for someone more needy, why would vacation be any different? Still I wouldnt mind if my SO (if I had one) gave up xmas. In fact Id probably want to spoil her rotten for doing it.

Plus Im still wondering if the new guy is a jerk or not or if he would appreciate the gesture.

EDIT: Also don't most employers require you to request days off in advance? If thats the case he probably requested all those other days off and unfortunately this time he'll have to learn that you can't have it all.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

The real question here is why the hell does the guy have 5 kids?

I wouldn't sweat it. You put your time in. However, I would think that a trade might be in order if you did this for him.

 

[FoBoT]

i think you can go either way on that
just decide. if it won't pop into your mind while you are home and he is there away from his little kids, well....

 

[TallBill]

Its just another day of the year. And I wont be home for the 2nd straight. Besides, I doubt that you work 24 hour shifts.. He'll get some family time.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I work in a union shop, this would normally be my year to work Xmas but we've got a couple of new hires and I've finally climbed the senority ladder.

I put in to have Xmas off, I figure it's my 1st Xmas with my new husband and it would be nice to not have to haul myself to work.

I find out that the new guy stuck working Xmas has 5 little kids, including a newborn who was just born a couple days after thanksgiving.

Am I being horrible and selfish here ?

No, enjoy your Christmas with the hubby.

 

[poopaskoopa]

Nice trap.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Eghck

Originally posted by: Nik
I wouldn't say that the way you're feeling is horrible and selfish. Well, maybe selfish a little bit. However, it's how ya act on it that sets those two in stone or not.

Your hubby would understand you having to work but those kids won't and his wife probably needs all the help she can get.

If my Mrs. decided to work so that someone else could stay home with their newborn on christmas, I'd think that much higher of her. :thumbsup:

I wouldn't say its selfish. Shes worked to get where she is today. She shouldn't have to give up her pay for someone more needy, why would vacation be any different? Still I wouldnt mind if my SO (if I had one) gave up xmas. In fact Id probably want to spoil her rotten for doing it.

Plus Im still wondering if the new guy is a jerk or not or if he would appreciate the gesture.

EDIT: Also don't most employers require you to request days off in advance? If thats the case he probably requested all those other days off and unfortunately this time he'll have to learn that you can't have it all.

Some of us realize the value of children and care more about them than we do ourselves. I'd give up my Christmas holiday if it meant someone spending their newborn's first christmas at home.

It's simply the right thing to do.

 

[CKent]

I definitely wouldn't say you're being horrible / selfish. Personally I'd work it for him - but I'm an atheist and am estranged from my family, so the day means absolutely nothing to me (other than TV & radio programming being even more horrible than usual - which is a good reason to work that day ).

 

[vood0g]

i have two girls. if i were in his situation, then i would really appreciate it if someone offered to work for me so i can stay home and be with them and my wife for xmas. but then, i wouldn't be pissed either if no one offered.

 

[ntdz]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I work in a union shop, this would normally be my year to work Xmas but we've got a couple of new hires and I've finally climbed the senority ladder.

I put in to have Xmas off, I figure it's my 1st Xmas with my new husband and it would be nice to not have to haul myself to work.

I find out that the new guy stuck working Xmas has 5 little kids, including a newborn who was just born a couple days after thanksgiving.

Am I being horrible and selfish here ?

That's tough, although I wouldn't fault you for taking your day off, I'd still feel bad about making him work...

 

[Skunkwourk]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Eghck

Originally posted by: Nik
I wouldn't say that the way you're feeling is horrible and selfish. Well, maybe selfish a little bit. However, it's how ya act on it that sets those two in stone or not.

Your hubby would understand you having to work but those kids won't and his wife probably needs all the help she can get.

If my Mrs. decided to work so that someone else could stay home with their newborn on christmas, I'd think that much higher of her. :thumbsup:

I wouldn't say its selfish. Shes worked to get where she is today. She shouldn't have to give up her pay for someone more needy, why would vacation be any different? Still I wouldnt mind if my SO (if I had one) gave up xmas. In fact Id probably want to spoil her rotten for doing it.

Plus Im still wondering if the new guy is a jerk or not or if he would appreciate the gesture.

EDIT: Also don't most employers require you to request days off in advance? If thats the case he probably requested all those other days off and unfortunately this time he'll have to learn that you can't have it all.

Some of us realize the value of children and care more about them than we do ourselves. I'd give up my Christmas holiday if it meant someone spending their newborn's first christmas at home.

It's simply the right thing to do.

Yeah I would give mine up as well and I agree with what you're saying, but for some reason I don't think its as black and white as right and wrong. First christmas as a newlywed seems important to me as well. Thats all. (btw Im not married so I don't know how that feels but thats just the perspective Im trying to look at it from since the OP is and mentioned it).

 

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I work in a union shop, this would normally be my year to work Xmas but we've got a couple of new hires and I've finally climbed the senority ladder.

I put in to have Xmas off, I figure it's my 1st Xmas with my new husband and it would be nice to not have to haul myself to work.

I find out that the new guy stuck working Xmas has 5 little kids, including a newborn who was just born a couple days after thanksgiving.

Am I being horrible and selfish here ?

No you're not at all.

But you would be incredibly nice if you gave it to that guy.

Not saying you should or that anyone should judge you for it, but you would be incredibly nice.

It would take a stronger person than I to do that

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

I worked Thanksgiving day, black friday, then the following sat,sun and monday, he didn't have to.

I don't even see a reason to feel guilty then. Its not like you aren't working any holidays.

And no one made him have 5 kids!

 

[ddwbi0]

ask him if he even wants the day off, maybe he's jewish and celebrates hanukkah instead

 

[Rufio]

he has 5 kids. he probably needs the work more than u do.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Eghck
Yeah I would give mine up as well and I agree with what you're saying, but for some reason I don't think its as black and white as right and wrong. First christmas as a newlywed seems important to me as well. Thats all. (btw Im not married so I don't know how that feels but thats just the perspective Im trying to look at it from since the OP is and mentioned it).

I agree that it's important as well. However, I'd put kids first. I guess seeing the world in black and white can make life difficult sometimes.

 

[hjo3]

What sort of shop do you work in that they're open on Christmas?

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: hjo3
What sort of shop do you work in that they're open on Christmas?

Hospital

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I work in a union shop, this would normally be my year to work Xmas but we've got a couple of new hires and I've finally climbed the senority ladder.

I put in to have Xmas off, I figure it's my 1st Xmas with my new husband and it would be nice to not have to haul myself to work.

I find out that the new guy stuck working Xmas has 5 little kids, including a newborn who was just born a couple days after thanksgiving.

Am I being horrible and selfish here ?

I wouldn't worry about it.
I doubt you are the only person who can work and give this guy the day off.

Besides... you earned the seniority.