am I going to get arrested tomorrow?

[nageov3t]

so, my best friend is going through boyfriend drama right now (well, more like ex-boyfriend at this point)... guy is a total user, and we've been telling her for months, but she just never cared.

final straw was this month when her boyfriend's brother stole borrowed the car she'd been letting him use for the past year and ran up $100 in ezpass fees from driving back and forth between NYC ($11 each way crossing the Lincoln Tunnel during rush hour). actually the second time this has happened, but the boyfriend swore up and down after the first incident that he'd never let his brother borrow the car again.

she confronted him on Saturday, and after he continued to defend his brother, she blew up on him and finally broke it off. Sunday morning, she got a ride from another friend while the BF was asleep to take back the car, and she asked me to go with her tomorrow while the guy is at work to take back all her other stuff from inside the apartment (she brought her spare flatscreen tv over there, as well as most of the stuff in his kitchen)

odds on me getting arrested while stealing back her stuff? it's not actually B&E if she has a key, right?

 

[Maximilian]

Worst blog post in disguise ever

No you wont get arrested, I am a lawyer and police officer, everything will be fine, go get your friends boyfriends girlfriends whatever stuff back, good luck! :thumbsup:

 

[sjwaste]

Is she on the lease or otherwise living in the apartment? If it's her stuff, it shouldn't be a problem. I'd be more worried about getting your ass kicked. It's been a long time since I lived in NJ. Not sure if the police would be willing to assist, or at least follow you out there.

 

[nageov3t]

Is she on the lease or otherwise living in the apartment? If it's her stuff, it shouldn't be a problem. I'd be more worried about getting your ass kicked. It's been a long time since I lived in NJ. Not sure if the police would be willing to assist, or at least follow you out there.

not on the lease, but she's got the keys and has been spending 4-5 nights/week there for the past 6 months at least so I'm assuming any apartment personnel would know who she is.

not worried about getting my ass kicked... I've never met the brother, but the boyfriend is a skinny Asian doctor nerd. I could totally take him in a fight :thumbsup:

 

[MongGrel]

If it's her stuff and you aren't worried about getting your ass kicked and she has a key, I see no prob.

maybe bring a back up to watch your backing her up outside.

You sure it's her stuff ?

 

[sjwaste]

not on the lease, but she's got the keys and has been spending 4-5 nights/week there for the past 6 months at least so I'm assuming any apartment personnel would know who she is.

not worried about getting my ass kicked... I've never met the brother, but the boyfriend is a skinny Asian doctor nerd. I could totally take him in a fight :thumbsup:

I'm not NJ lawyer enough to tell you whether she's a de facto tenant. I'd say don't steal any of his stuff in the process though Also, whether or not you could take him, it's probably bad news to get into a fight with the person who is definitely legally entitled to occupy the place. Depending on whose story gets believed there, that could put you in burglary territory.

 

[sandorski]

not on the lease, but she's got the keys and has been spending 4-5 nights/week there for the past 6 months at least so I'm assuming any apartment personnel would know who she is.

not worried about getting my ass kicked... I've never met the brother, but the boyfriend is a skinny Asian doctor nerd. I could totally take him in a fight :thumbsup:

Kung Fu dude....

 

[nageov3t]

If it's her stuff and you aren't worried about getting your ass kicked and she has a key, I see no prob.

maybe bring a back up to watch your backing her up outside.

You sure it's her stuff ?

99% sure... she's got questionable judgement about guys and she's a bit immature/naive, but I've never known her to be a liar.

I'm not NJ lawyer enough to tell you whether she's a de facto tenant. I'd say don't steal any of his stuff in the process though Also, whether or not you could take him, it's probably bad news to get into a fight with the person who is definitely legally entitled to occupy the place. Depending on whose story gets believed there, that could put you in burglary territory.

good point!

 

[Imp]

... My money's on the BF walking in on both of you "stealing" your stuff/ Good luck, have fun.

 

[sjwaste]

Well, just remember, in some places being an accessory to the crime is the same as doing the crime itself. So if you get a whiff that she's ripping him off, better make it good and get yourself a watch or something.

PS. I'm Lionel Hutz.

 

[Brainonska511]

Make sure it doesn't turn out like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rHtNclIxgcs#t=1m12s

 

[MongGrel]

Unless you're 100% sure it sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen.

I've been in similar situations in the past.

Don't get caught where you're in a bad spot yourself is all I can say bud.

 

[sandorski]

Unless you're 100% sure it sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen.

I've been in similar situations in the past.

Don't get caught where you're in a bad spot yourself is all I can say bud.

Ya. Even if she's not "stealing", if the Ex shows up there's going to be Emotions and shit to make the situation tense. There might also be disagreements about who owns what, she said something obscure one time or he gave her something but he's pissed off and wants it back, etc.

 

[UberNeuman]

"Hey, I'm just helping out a friend to move her stuff out - other than that I don't know..."

Situations like this get ugly quick. Don't get drawn too far into it.

 

[boomhower]

Check NJ law to be sure. Under NC law she is a resident regardless of what the lease says and what your doing is fine as long as she can prove whatever she is taking is hers. For instance the TV would have to stay unless she has a receipt or other proof of purchase, it would be a civil matter. But state law can vary greatly so check NJ to cover your ass.

 

[brianmanahan]

make sure it doesn't end up like this: http://forums.anandtech.com/showthread.php?t=2107564

 

[NikolaeVarius]

Didn't OJ get arrested for doing this?

 

[lightpants]

Pics of chick?

 

[sjwaste]

Don't Goosemaster us, did you get arrested?

 

[Greenman]

so, my best friend is going through boyfriend drama right now (well, more like ex-boyfriend at this point)... guy is a total user, and we've been telling her for months, but she just never cared.

final straw was this month when her boyfriend's brother stole borrowed the car she'd been letting him use for the past year and ran up $100 in ezpass fees from driving back and forth between NYC ($11 each way crossing the Lincoln Tunnel during rush hour). actually the second time this has happened, but the boyfriend swore up and down after the first incident that he'd never let his brother borrow the car again.

she confronted him on Saturday, and after he continued to defend his brother, she blew up on him and finally broke it off. Sunday morning, she got a ride from another friend while the BF was asleep to take back the car, and she asked me to go with her tomorrow while the guy is at work to take back all her other stuff from inside the apartment (she brought her spare flatscreen tv over there, as well as most of the stuff in his kitchen)

odds on me getting arrested while stealing back her stuff? it's not actually B&E if she has a key, right?

Edit: Never mind.

 

[nageov3t]

Not arrested yet, but this is the most awkward experience of my life.

Standing here as the silent muscle while my friend gathers her stuff and the ex-boyfriend's brother yells at us and threatens to change the locks.

Turns out that she *is* on the lease, though, so there's that.

 

[Blackjack200]

Not arrested yet, but this is the most awkward experience of my life.

Standing here as the silent muscle while my friend gathers her stuff and the ex-boyfriend's brother yells at us and threatens to change the locks.

Turns out that she *is* on the lease, though, so there's that.

That's not going to do very much once she has her shit though, is it? Is this requiring multiple car trips?

BTW, keep updating as things happen, this is interesting.

Edit: BTW, how old is this girl? Think she'd date a guy in Philly?

Edit2: Also, pics.

 

[nageov3t]

That's not going to do very much once she has her shit though, is it? Is this requiring multiple car trips?

BTW, keep updating as things happen, this is interesting.

Edit: BTW, how old is this girl? Think she'd date a guy in Philly?

Edit2: Also, pics.

Two trips, but the second one will be on a different day and hopefully without me.

Couldn't fit the TV in her car, so she's gathering up all her other shit including the cable boxes and modem since apparently she's paying for his fios... She'll probably have to borrow/rent an suv to come back for her 60" tv.

She's 33 and probably not.

 

[Brainonska511]

Two trips, but the second one will be on a different day and hopefully without me.

Couldn't fit the TV in her car, so she's gathering up all her other shit including the cable boxes and modem since apparently she's paying for his fios... She'll probably have to borrow/rent an suv to come back for her 60" tv.

She's 33 and probably not.

Shouldn't a 60" TV fit be able to fit between the back and front seats? Just use some linens as padding to keep it from whipping around.

 

[Blackjack200]

Two trips, but the second one will be on a different day and hopefully without me.

Couldn't fit the TV in her car, so she's gathering up all her other shit including the cable boxes and modem since apparently she's paying for his fios... She'll probably have to borrow/rent an suv to come back for her 60" tv.

She's 33 and probably not.

So am I. We have a lot in common.

The TV will probably fit in my Prius.

Spoiler

No it won't.

Also, tell her that I have my own EZ Pass, and I don't gamble my grant money on World Cup games.

Oh wait, that was someone else...