Am I in the right here ATOT?

[Sea Moose]

Perhaps the daughter is a hermaphrodite. And the creepy uncle.......

 

[zokudu]

If they're too proud to admit that someone amongst them did something wrong then thats not an ecosystem you would want to belong too.

 

[DrPizza]

not to take the side of the family, but are polygraphs even admissible? I thought they had a success rate of... roughly 50/50. Same as flipping a coin.

 

[olds]

not to take the side of the family, but are polygraphs even admissible? I thought they had a success rate of... roughly 50/50. Same as flipping a coin.

Great. Now the geeks will be here doing the math for a coin flip...

 

[guyver01]

Great. Now the geeks will be here doing the math for a coin flip...

The probability for equally likely outcomes is:

Number of outcomes in the event ÷ Total number of possible outcomes

For the coin, number of outcomes to get heads = 1

Total number of possible outcomes = 2

Thus, we get 1/2 or 50%

 

[olds]

The probability for equally likely outcomes is:

Number of outcomes in the event ÷ Total number of possible outcomes

For the coin, number of outcomes to get heads = 1

Total number of possible outcomes = 2

Thus, we get 1/2 or 50%

EVERYTHING is 50/50.

 

[AlienCraft]

No, you don't have to love family...they may always be related to you...but you don't have to "love them" nor put up with their bullshit.

Rudie...your mushroom analogy was pretty well done IMO.

Abso-fucking-lutely!:thumbsup:

 

[AlienCraft]

not to take the side of the family, but are polygraphs even admissible? I thought they had a success rate of... roughly 50/50. Same as flipping a coin.

It's the Court of Public Opinion that it counts in.

 

[Iron Woode]

family disputes are the worst and most divisive.

Imagine our surprise that my family (my father, me and my sister) were no longer considered part of the extended family because my mother died. Imagine being told this a few months after the funeral. Imagine this whole BS being caused by your aunt who was trying to get her parent's estate all to herself.

In the long run, it was for the best. I want nothing to do with them anyway.

 

[iCyborg]

not to take the side of the family, but are polygraphs even admissible? I thought they had a success rate of... roughly 50/50. Same as flipping a coin.

There's a nice article by Richard Muller available online somewhere about polygraphs. They are actually pretty accurate, he cited one study which found they are ~85% accurate IIRC. And it's people who are only slightly better than chance, if that. And yet, most courts find polygraphs inadmissible and rely on jurors...

Just wanted to comment on this. Don't really have anything smart to say about OP: I would definitely not condone any crime against my children, so he's right about acting on it. As for moving, it's hard to say what's right with so little details, in fact, often it's hard to say even with all the details.

 

[olds]

I wouldn't move. I'd just cut off contact with my family. Forever.
If they asked why, I'd say something like:
"Are you fucking kidding me? Uncle Joe molested my daughter and you took his side. You are low life scum and MY family doesn't associate with low life scum".

It's important for your daughter to grow up knowing that you protected her as best you could after you became aware of the situation. If you don't, she'll cut you out of her life when she grows up. She won't trust you around her kids because you didn't do the right thing in the past and she has no reason to believe you'd do the right thing then.

Isn't life simple?

 

[Locut0s]

If we are talking something like sexual molestation then I would head right to the police and have the man charged. Fuck it if he's family or not that kind of thing is beyond the pail and the person deserves to be in jail, anyone siding with him doesn't deserve your attention either.

If on the other hand we are talking about something much less evil / wrong then I would talk it out with the rest of the family as others have said.

 

[JulesMaximus]

I am a part of a pretty close knit family. I live just down the street from my brother as well as my parents, and we visit with each other often.

A few months ago a member of my family really hurt my daughter (think committing a crime). It has caused a lot of pain to me, my wife, and my children.

Now, I feel like we have been ostracized from the rest of my family. We cannot go to family outings because said person that hurt my family may be there. What really irks me is my parents have turned their back on my family - no longer come to visit, we don't get invited to family events, etc., and they embrace the person that really hurt us.

What would you do in this situation? We live in a very small community - would you move away to avoid it or wait it out in the hopes that it will get better?

Fuck them. Nothing is more important than your wife and children.

 

[Spacehead]

Am I the only one thinking some sort of religion is involved here? Not trying to troll but the way you said "tight knit community" and how you are the one being shunned, well, just sounds like a religious thing.

small town 20 miles from indianapolis

Amish? Or used to be.

If we are talking something like sexual molestation then I would head right to the police and have the man charged. Fuck it if he's family or not that kind of thing is beyond the pail and the person deserves to be in jail, anyone siding with him doesn't deserve your attention either.

If on the other hand we are talking about something much less evil / wrong then I would talk it out with the rest of the family as others have said.

Yes they understand. For the longest time they were in denial, until the person had to take a polygraph and failed horribly. The family cried and cried when they arrested him - and they blamed me.

Its situations like these that have shown me that it is not wise to live so close to family.

Looks like that already been done.


OP, i'd say you need to do what's best for your family(your wife & kids). Look out for them first.

 

[Barfo]

pics of your daughter?

 

[classy]

Without knowing what was done to your daughter its hard to say whether you are in the right or not.