Am I insecure or is this a normal male thought process?

[slackerinabox]

So my buddy invited me to his birthday party and I was about to invite one of the 2 girls i have crushes on to be my date. Then I realized that, since i haven't made a move on them that I'd get depressed/pissed if they get hit on by his friends (they're a flirty bunch) and instead invited a girl who's just a friend who i wouldn't care either way about.

Is this behavior normal or am i more insecure than I thought? i admit that it's insecure, but is it something you would do?

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

I think you're trying a bit too hard, at least that's the impression I get from your threads.

 

[Encryptic]

Yes, you're insecure, you girly man.

 

[blackdogdeek]

i would have to say you are insecure.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Anything that's going on in your head is definitely not a normal thought process.

- M4H

 

[Atheus]

I dunno - you could have taken the girl to dinner or something with just the two of you before the party, just to make it clear you're interested. Then she presumably would have ignored the attentions of any other guys. Or you could make sure they know you like her and they'd better leave her alone or there'll be trouble.

 

[slackerinabox]

ok, I *am* insecure, but would you have not done the same thing? Never had a time when you invited a girl that you were into out to a friend's party only for them to walk away with someone else? It's happened to me before so I'm avoiding it.. Is that irrational?

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

No, insecure is wondering if you read the signals right for a good-night kiss. What you got is LAME. I'm pretty sure you're going to die from it.

 

[thatguy82]

Eh, I think you're trying too hard, it's not like they don't go to other parties.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: Atheus
I dunno - you could have taken the girl to dinner or something with just the two of you before the party, just to make it clear you're interested. Then she presumably would have ignored the attentions of any other guys.

Jesus....the lack of manliness in this thread is staggering.....but then again, we're on ATOT, so anything's possible.

Just ask the girl if she wants to bump uglies with you. Case closed.

 

[Riverhound777]

Yes you are insecure, but you did the right thing. Never take a girl you are interested in to a party. That is something you do with friends(I.E. you'll be in the friend zone). You meet NEW girls at parties, don't use them are dates unless it is a party at your house or someone and you are already dating.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Atheus
I dunno - you could have taken the girl to dinner or something with just the two of you before the party, just to make it clear you're interested. Then she presumably would have ignored the attentions of any other guys.

Jesus....the lack of manliness in this thread is staggering.....but then again, we're on ATOT, so anything's possible.

Just ask the girl if she wants to bump uglies with you. Case closed.

Dude, with one girl i only have one chance and, since I lost my job and gained some weight, i don't want to blow that one shot so I haven't made a move yet. I will, once i have a job. So she's on standby because, hell, i'd reject myself for being unemployed.. Do you see where i'm coming from? the other girl, I've hooked up with (not sex but close) already but she's a big flirt and i don't want to babysit.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Just let her know what will happen if she decides to leave your side for the company of another man.
*runs finger along throat*
Then make one of your eyes twitch.

 

[judasmachine]

Confidence mang! That and a house are the only things that turn women on.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Originally posted by: Riverhound777
Yes you are insecure, but you did the right thing. Never take a girl you are interested in to a party. That is something you do with friends(I.E. you'll be in the friend zone). You meet NEW girls at parties, don't use them are dates unless it is a party at your house or someone and you are already dating.

Quick, notify the CDC! Lameness is spreading. BTW your mancard has been revoked pending further investigation.

 

[Descartes]

From reading your other threads, you do sound seriously insecure. Honestly, I was surprised to learn you are in your 20s. I had always assumed you were about 15.

Seriously, can't you do something more productive with your time than occupy yourself with such nonsense?

 

[MisterJackson]

You gotta quit with this self defeating attitude man. First off, go to the party ALONE and BE the guy that would have hit on your friends and watched you cry in your beer.

Sheesh man.......how much more help can we start to offer before you actually man up and take the advice to heart?

 

[jdini76]

You are being insecure, becasue you apparently think she would be into these guys if they were to flirt with her. But being insecure doesn't mean your rational is wrong. You may be right in your thoughts, but all that means is that you need to make your intentions clear when asking the girls. Say something like "Would you be my date to my friends party?" instead of "Would you like to go to a party my friend is throwing?" If you use the word "date" that would make it clear to her what you are asking (if she has a clue). and she will then make her decision on whether she wants to go down that road with you. She may respond with "Sure i'll be your date!" or "Sure but only as friends" or "Sorry, I can't I have other plans. but definatly some other time" You get what I mean I am sure.

 

[Atheus]

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Atheus
I dunno - you could have taken the girl to dinner or something with just the two of you before the party, just to make it clear you're interested. Then she presumably would have ignored the attentions of any other guys.

Jesus....the lack of manliness in this thread is staggering.....but then again, we're on ATOT, so anything's possible.

What's unmanly about taking her to dinner before the party? Pretty damn normal if you ask me.

 

[Turin39789]

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[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
You gotta quit with this self defeating attitude man. First off, go to the party ALONE and BE the guy that would have hit on your friends and watched you cry in your beer.

Sheesh man.......how much more help can we start to offer before you actually man up and take the advice to heart?

You're right and i do take advice... really, you guys have actually helped.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: Atheus

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Atheus
I dunno - you could have taken the girl to dinner or something with just the two of you before the party, just to make it clear you're interested. Then she presumably would have ignored the attentions of any other guys.

Jesus....the lack of manliness in this thread is staggering.....but then again, we're on ATOT, so anything's possible.

What's unmanly about taking her to dinner before the party? Pretty damn normal if you ask me.

/taps sarcasm meter

Yep, you may want to get that checked out. I'm barely able to get a reading, despite the biting sardonic aroma emanating from my previous post.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Anything that's going on in your head is definitely not a normal thought process.

- M4H

ZING!

 

[MercenaryForHire]

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- M4H

 

[IceBergSLiM]

well yeah it is insecure. If I bring a girl along somewhere and she doesnt like me I don't give a sh1t its her fvcking loss. I haven't met a girl that had more to offer than I did in quite sometime. Girls these days just aren't worth losing any kind of sleep over. I literally laugh now when I get rejected because its almost like the equivalent of a middle schooler going up to kobe bryant and telling him he sucks at basketball......"look in the mirror, you little troll you cant be fvcking serious!!!"

i recommend you watch swingers before you go out. your so fvcking money and you don't even know it. You got these razor sharp teeth and huge fvcking claws and you can't figure out how to kill the itty bitty bunny.