Am I stupid/foolish/insane to decline????

[The Stigenator]

So my friend (coworker/neighbour) calls me up yesterday and says.... "how would you like to lose your virginity to a 41 yr old woman". I was too shocked having just been woken up from bed by the ringing phone. I said I willl think about it. I thought that was the last time i would hear of it.

Fast forward to this afternoon, looks like she is still looking for some sex and she wants it both ways... but she wants to do me first.

Anyway so my friend is dealing with her, gives her my id.. and then she starts asking me what I want and stuff. I am in no mood to think about sex... but she starts becoming a saleswoman on why I should have my first time and why with her .. basically uses the same words that guys use to get girls into bed.
Ofcourse i realise that she is trying to sweet talk me to letting my guard down.

After a while of thinking I tell her that i have "principals" and that the answer is no. These principals I set for myself back in high school and over the years i have been amending them to make changes. Anyway somehow I dont want to break them for a slam bang thank you mam deal.. True I am not getting anywhere with women these days and so the whole ideals of my principals are up for grabs and yet i am holding back cause one of my principals was to fall for somene or atleast know the other person cares for me and its not just sex.

She tried so hard to get me to say yes.. and I fianally said no. She did say it was "commendable" that I have held on to my principals for so long (and i think so too) and she said i could ask her questions if I had any doubts later.

So what are your thoughts on this???

TGG

Note: my friends already done her once, its a long distance booty call with a 41 yr old divorce.. its like a 150 mile booty call..

 

[amnesiac]

Dude, gimme her number. I'll hit it.

 

[snow patrol]

pics?

Um, so was she a prostitute or something?

 

[Yeeny]

Your not stupid, if shes that easy, you could walk away sans virginity, but with a whole new ballgame to deal with, ie: STD's. You waited to long, don't give it up in such a crappy way.

 

[Hammer]

eww

 

[N8Magic]

If you do, be sure to double bag it.

Personally, I don't think I would... especially since your friends have already hit it.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

No, I'd say you made the correct call, she sounds a little too desperate, and like GF said possibly infested with some 'buddies', you are better off w/o.

 

[melly]

No, you did the right thing it sounds. Don't compromise your principles. Also, if you really wanted to do it, you would have said yes.

Congrats to being strong!

 

[Danman]

Eww.............I wouldn't touch that with my ten foot pole.....

 

[brtspears2]

No touch, even with a tire on your "friend"

 

[Bluefront]

Egads... you guys are talking like 41 is 101. They're still alive and well at 41. They even know how to do it better than most 21-year-olds. Wait around another 10 years, saving your virginity, and you'll wish you had her phone number again..heh.

What a bunch of wusses on OT....

 

[amnesiac]

Originally posted by: Bluefront
Egads... you guys are talking like 41 is 101. They're still alive and well at 41. They even know how to do it better than most 21-year-olds. Wait around another 10 years, saving your virginity, and you'll wish you had her phone number again..heh.

What a bunch of wusses on OT....

Hey, as long as she's not too fat or ugly, she's fair game to me.

 

[dribgnikcom]

Bluefront -

Just because you're a sodomite European, doesen't mean we are.

 

[yllus]

You've waited too long sticking to finding someone worthy of having your first time with to do this now.

I'm not quite sure I'd want to do a much older woman that my friend has already had...just seems kind of disgusting and hints at how discriminating a woman she probably is. However hold onto that phone # after you do lose your virginity for obvious reasons.

 

[Pabster]

That all depends. MILF?

I've seen a fair share of 41 year old women I'd tap in a heartbeat.

 

[Bluefront]

Ha...proud of it too.

I remember when I was a kid in high-school. There was this woman and her 16 year old daughter living in a house the next block over. She liked young guys...you could sometimes see lines of guys waiting to "see" her. Finally her daughter got in on the act. You know, those lines were still about the same length. I never got in line....I guess I was scared then, sort-of like you guys here.

 

[eakers]

IS THIS THREAD FOR REAL?!

dear lord, does anybody else see how weird this is?

good job on the turn down! i cant believe you are asking if you did the right thing, obviously you did!

*kat. <-- WHAT IS THIS WORLD COMING TO?!

 

[mcveigh]

you did the right thing.

<-- virgin till married....and working damned hard at making up on lost time

 

[RossMAN]

How do we even know that you declined?

You could be laying in her bed right now naked using a laptop equipped with WiFi smoking a cigarette after damn that was good sloppy messy de-virginizing monkey bad ass sex.

I think it's stupid to have even considered such an offer. How difficult is it to get laid by someone your own age?

Just my two and a half cents.

 

[Azraele]

You did the right thing by declining.

 

[freebee]

California is too long a drive for me.

 

[jcuadrado]

you should hit it...life is short..play hard.

 

[Bluefront]

Look at it this way Good-Guy, just why are these guys telling you to save your virginity? I suspect they're just sad/embarassed they waited so long to do it and want everyone to make the same mistake they did.

Say you never get married...it happens. They want you to be a virgin till you die. Complete INSANITY. If you marry someone without knowing the sexuality of the woman, you're a fool. And your marriage will usually fail. This particular woman may not be the best way to start, but if you wait forever for the right one, she may never come along. Go for it...

 

[jeremy806]

It matters on your age. You need to at least be in the 20 year window, and it's just wierd.

jeremy806

 

[katka]

First of all you would have PRINCIPLES not PRINCIPALS the latter is a person, whilst the former is what you are thinking of.

I must speak on this because when I was in College computers were cost prohibitive and I could not type. I had a guy friend with access to a computer who offer to type my term paper for me. Since I had learned 99.99% of my homonyms by the time I was 12 I immediately recognized an error. He changed all of my PRINCIPLES (the subject of my paper) to PRINCIPALS and did not give me my paper until the day that it was due. :Q

I think that I hand corrected as many as I could before the end of class, but this made for a shoddy looking term paper. I learned to type, 65 wpm, after that ordeal. I know that this is a board not a spelling/word usage contest but it is GOOD to nip bad habits in the bud.

I reference to your stated problem, save yourself until you are married. Significantly old sex partners will give you worms.