- Feb 11, 2004
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I recently found out that my best friend is sleeping with my ex girlfriend who I just broke up with a couple months ago. This girl meant alot to me and I was definetely in love with her and I actually am still in love with her, we broke up because I have a daughter who lives several hundred miles away and I want to be close to her and be a real father to her. Unfortunately our relationship wasn't at the point where I felt comfortable letting her move 300 miles away with me. So I ended things, but not because we weren't in love, because I had a difficult choice to make.
I then come to find out that my best friend who is typically one of the most honorable, loyal and respectful people that I have ever met, decides that he is going to sleep with her. After I first found out I was extremely upset, but I decided that I was going to try to be as cool about it as possible because I love my best friend and I love my ex as well, I didn't want to lose the friendship that I had with either of them. So, I told my best friend that as long as he promised me it wouldn't happen again, I would just forget this ever happened and forgive him. He then emails me a couple days later saying that he has feelings for her and he can't stand to not be with her, so in my mind he is choosing a relationship with her over a friendship which has lasted 10 years now with me, does that seem right to you?
I fully expected my ex to move on with her life and I don't blame her for doing so, but to do it so that it is right in my face with my best friend who has always been so close to me, it just doesn't feel right. Am I totally an a-hole for being upset about this? I just can't be a friend to him while he is nailing the girl I still love, is that wrong?
I then come to find out that my best friend who is typically one of the most honorable, loyal and respectful people that I have ever met, decides that he is going to sleep with her. After I first found out I was extremely upset, but I decided that I was going to try to be as cool about it as possible because I love my best friend and I love my ex as well, I didn't want to lose the friendship that I had with either of them. So, I told my best friend that as long as he promised me it wouldn't happen again, I would just forget this ever happened and forgive him. He then emails me a couple days later saying that he has feelings for her and he can't stand to not be with her, so in my mind he is choosing a relationship with her over a friendship which has lasted 10 years now with me, does that seem right to you?
I fully expected my ex to move on with her life and I don't blame her for doing so, but to do it so that it is right in my face with my best friend who has always been so close to me, it just doesn't feel right. Am I totally an a-hole for being upset about this? I just can't be a friend to him while he is nailing the girl I still love, is that wrong?