Alright, so basically this is what went down. Me, my other best friend, and the best friend who is currently banging my ex met up at one of our local hangouts to try and talk things through and come to an understanding. We failed miserably...
I told him that I wished I could tell him that I could just be cool with all of this, but I couldn't...if I saw them together I would be really unhappy and it is not something I can deal with. More of the story that you guys haven't heard yet is that I currently work with this girl...at least until June...I share an office with her and I have to see her everyday, so it's not like I could just not see her at all or forget that she is having sex with my best friend, which makes this even harder.
My best friend told me (while looking at the table), that he couldn't deal without seeing her anymore in a romantic fashion and that he was willing to lose his 2 best friends because of this. We were all very civil and spoke our feelings, there weren't any harsh words or put downs, we were just honest about what we thought and felt. At this point, my other best friend (the one who is not with my ex) asked if he could have some time alone with my other friend...I agreed, hoping that perhaps he could try to talk him out of his decision. I left for a while, and when I came back the best friend not doing my ex told me "I guess we are done here, lets all shake hands and be on our way". The best friend banging my ex went to shake my hand, I shook his hand and pulled him in and hugged him (in a guy way) and told him that I was sorry that I couldn't deal with this and I would miss him. Then he left, and my other best friend said he had something serious to ask me, one of those life or death kind of questions...he asked me that since he was leaving (he is planning on moving to Vietnam for an indeterminant amount of time in June) that if my other friend ever needed anything that I would take care of him...I said of course I would...I would always be there for my friend if he needed anything.
The whole thing was really emotional and may sound a bit gay, but we are talking about friendships that go back 10 years here...not the kind of thing that you come by everyday...especially in the transitional years from when you are a teenager till you are in your mid 20's. So, as it stands, I have lost one of my best friends and stand to lose another come June...my head is totally messed up right now...this is alot to deal with.
I really honestly do wish that I could just be cool with all this...it would make things so much easier...but I know that I can't be normal with my best friend watching him be with my ex...it just seems disgusting to me.
Anyway...thanks again to all the nice people out there and even the haters...more perspective on bad situations never hurts anyone.