Am I wrong for being upset?

[Rufio]

your best friend is f*cked up for doing that crap.

 

[whiteboy81]

Well I am back from talking with him...and lets just say things went as bad as they could possibly go. I lost my best friend and he meant so much to me...he basically chose her over me after 10 years. I have been throwing up for the past hour...this may be just about the worst I have ever felt in my life.

 

[bujuranks]

I guess that maybe he wasn't your best friend afterall. Good luck and go make some new friends.

 

[Zugzwang152]

he should have said something before it happened the first time. you then, as a friend to both of them, should have accepted it, and been happy for them. if you still hold strong enough feelings for her to be jealous, you shouldnt have ended it the way you did. deal with it.

 

[ragazzo]

he was your best friend and a loyal one at that. if this was the case, he should have realized that by sleeping with your ex, it would have been a bad thing for your friendship. he could've asked you for your ok before doing anything, but he didn't. he is not your best friend.

you were his best friend (?), after 10 years of loyalty & companionship with him, one would think that you would want him to be happy and for your ex to be happy. why not let them be happy together? your not his best friend.

sorry for the loss, but your daughter needs you. you can find a good woman closer to her, so don't sweat it. good luck.

 

[caitlion]

im suprised at all the "you made the decision" replies...

yeah, you let her go and shes free to do what she wants.. but best friends DONT do that.

 

[SackOfAllTrades]

haha just punch him really hard

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: caitlion
im suprised at all the "you made the decision" replies...

yeah, you let her go and shes free to do what she wants.. but best friends DONT do that.

Yeah they do.

 

[Geekbabe]

You dumped her,your right to anything ended then.What did you want,her sitting home alone crying over you?

 

[JoeKing]

Hey if your into it..... you've got a prime opportunity for a threesome. Next time you see your ex ask her if shes into "one in the poop and one in the chute"

See you in two weeks
Make it a month for signing up with a new account

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: Ninjja

Originally posted by: MustangSVT
you are upset. but you broke up with her.

move on.

yeah, so what if he broke up with her? he gave his reasons for why, and it wasn't because he didn't love her anymore. He had to put responsibility before himself, which is extremely honorable. Yeah, so they're technically broken up, but friendships are based on emotion and loyalty over technicalities, so while, no, you can't do anything about it, you completely have the right to be upset in my opinion.

EDIT:For all the rest of you, you're lying in my book if you wouldn't be jealous or hurt if your best friend was boning a chick that you had been with, and still loved, even though extenuating circumstances prevented you being together.

Fock it if it happened to me I wouldn't care.

I split up with her she can bone who she wants. I would expect her to bone someone sooner or later.

You shouldn't have split with her if you were worried about things like this.

Life goes on.

Also note it wasn't just your best friend SHE chose to bone him also...

Koing

 

[GermyBoy]

Originally posted by: Ninjja

Originally posted by: DOSfan

Originally posted by: whiteboy81 If I had died and two months later my BEST friend slept with the girl I was with at the time, I couldn't be pissed in a mortal sense, but if there is any kind of afterlife I'm sure I wouldn't be too happy about it. As far as him being upfront about everything that is not true, he was doing it behind my back and I had to confront HER about it after there were many signs, it's not like he came forward and asked. Everyone saying that I broke up with her and she is free to do what she wants, you're right she is. But in my mind my best friend should have a certain loyalty to me, considering how close we are. I mean he was one person who encouraged me to break up with her to begin with, and now he is with her.

OH DAMN! :disgust: Nevermind. I retract what I posted earlier. Either you did not post it, or I missed that part of the story where you "friend" encouraged you to break up with her. He is scum. He planned this out. Your ex may not be better, but you can at least give her the benifit of the doubt. You are no longer wrong to be pissed at your "friend."

Yeah, you're not wrong.

Your friend deserves a thank you...in the form of MURDER!

 

[skyking]

It is natural to be upset and grieving at the loss of a good friend, but you need to get this all out and move on, considering why you moved in the first place. Focus on being a good father for your daughter, the reward for that will overshadow the loss of your friend.

 

[FelixDeCat]

Originally posted by: whiteboy81
Well I am back from talking with him...and lets just say things went as bad as they could possibly go. I lost my best friend and he meant so much to me...he basically chose her over me after 10 years. I have been throwing up for the past hour...this may be just about the worst I have ever felt in my life.

Dr. Phill.

 

[MrColin]

You might feel a little better if you tell your friend how you feel and talk it out. You gave up the girl on purpose but you don't have to lose the friend.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
You dumped her,your right to anything ended then.What did you want,her sitting home alone crying over you?

Hey give the guy a break. Sometimes it takes a lot for the ego to finally die and for people to realize just how insignificant and unempowered they really are.

 

[Rufio]

at least you found out the true colors of your "friend."

i hope he has a fun life w/your ex, because once they break up, he will be screwed!

 

[GBRudy16]

man you can be upset just don't let it ruin things with your friend. If you don't think he already has... I mean its crap but it happens in life. "builds character" as my father would say.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: whiteboy81
Well I am back from talking with him...and lets just say things went as bad as they could possibly go. I lost my best friend and he meant so much to me...he basically chose her over me after 10 years. I have been throwing up for the past hour...this may be just about the worst I have ever felt in my life.

Jesus Christ, grow a pair and stop being such a Drama Queen!

 

[dabuddha]

No you are not wrong. He should not have gone after your ex. Don't forget though, you have to hate her equally.

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
You dumped her,your right to anything ended then.What did you want,her sitting home alone crying over you?

You completely missed the point. It's not about her, it's about his friend.

 

[Nitemare]

I did not know that you had marked her as your territory and forbid all other males from hitting it.

Dude, you dumped her, be lucky she's not banging your dad or brother

 

[Pliablemoose]

Am I wrong for being upset?

No, applying logic/morals to feelings is useless.

You feel hurt, bertayed, cheated & you had to make a crappy choice between your child & your GF.

You made the right choice.

The fact that you brought a child into this world trumps a GF. My GF's always knew my daughter came first.

Give the situation time, ex was obviously close to your friend, rebound relationships (sounds like this is one) usually fall apart.

If you really like these folks, you'll forgive them eventually.

 

[MrDudeMan]

what did he actually say whitey? i hate to be like this, but a lot of us are probably dying to know...the story cant just end like this.

btw, im sorry about all of this. what a bastard friend.

 

[Rufio]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
what did he actually say whitey? i hate to be like this, but a lot of us are probably dying to know...the story cant just end like this.

btw, im sorry about all of this. what a bastard friend.

off topic -- i love your first sentence! AHHAAHHAHA