Annoying sister/roommate

[RandomFurlong]

I recently moved in with my sister in a rent house and it has been awful living with her. First she has a little dog that yips and growls all the time and she refuses to put a shock collar on him. Secondly, she has people and “friends” come over frequently and does not bother to tell me about it. Thirdly, I don’t make enough to always buy groceries and toiletries and she will but makes a point about how annoyed she is to do it. Lastly, she watches videos at all hours of the night with sound full blast. Basically she treats me like she owns the house, that I don’t help out (which I generally get the groceries, do chores, and I pay half the rent), and sometimes like I don’t even exist. So how should I deal with this? I’ve confronted her about most of those issues and she just shrugs it off like she could really care less. Our lease is ending in a month or two so should I try to get things sorted out or get out while I can? I’m 20 and she’s 23 btw so she’s older and very bossy even though I don’t do what she says because I’m old enough to make choices without her input.

 

[herrjimbo]

Is this Mayne?

 

[MixMasterTang]

TTIWWOP

 

[RandomFurlong]

Is this Mayne?

No

 

[Paladin3]

A. People don't change. Either deal with the situation or get out and get your own place. If you can't afford to pay the entire rent then you are stuck dealing with some kind of roommate and their ish, but don't waste your time creating fights in a vain attempt to change their behavior. It's a no win situation. Instead, direct that effort towards earning enough to get your own place. Remember, you really only have control over your own actions. It's a lazy and a waste of time to try and change someone else rather than putting the work necessary to get yourself to where you want/need to be.

B. Fuck you for wanting to put a shock collar on a dog to keep it from speaking. Maybe you need one that shocks you when you can't pay rent or buy groceries?

C. CanIHaziPodNow?

 

[herrjimbo]

I don't know, it's got Mayne written all over it

 

[Kaido]

I recently moved in with my sister in a rent house and it has been awful living with her. First she has a little dog that yips and growls all the time and she refuses to put a shock collar on him. Secondly, she has people and “friends” come over frequently and does not bother to tell me about it. Thirdly, I don’t make enough to always buy groceries and toiletries and she will but makes a point about how annoyed she is to do it. Lastly, she watches videos at all hours of the night with sound full blast. Basically she treats me like she owns the house, that I don’t help out (which I generally get the groceries, do chores, and I pay half the rent), and sometimes like I don’t even exist. So how should I deal with this? I’ve confronted her about most of those issues and she just shrugs it off like she could really care less. Our lease is ending in a month or two so should I try to get things sorted out or get out while I can? I’m 20 and she’s 23 btw so she’s older and very bossy even though I don’t do what she says because I’m old enough to make choices without her input.

1. Legally, you are of independent age. The only way she can be bossy is if you decide to continue living there.

2. Find another roommate on Craigslist. Or, consider buying a van or used RV and live mobile. There are plenty of parks that are super-cheap that have facilities & hookups.

3. She pays half the rent & is fully entitled to living there too. The problem with roommates is that sometimes you get annoying ones, family included. I've had bad roommates in the past, so I feel your pain.

4. You are only as stuck as you decide to be. You may not be able to change your situation immediately, but you can make a plan, get out of there, and move on with your life, if it's bothering you this much.

5. You want her to change, which is not gonna happen. You want her to put a shock collar on her dog, you want her to stop acting annoyed when you mooch off her financially, you want her to turn down her loud music at night. Mature people wouldn't act like that. It sounds like you're not dealing with someone who is acting maturely. She is an adult now (23), and since she's already given you pushback from trying to change her behavior, your choice is either to stay in your rental with her, as-is, or move on. Sounds like your best bet would be to move on!

 

[Exterous]

TTIWWOP

Yes - to be able to give appropriate advice we really need pictures and at least one of them should include a good view of the elbows

 

[Mayne]

It's not me. My new sister roommate is the exact opposite of op.

She does most of the cooking/cleaning/pays almost half the rent. I buy the groceries etc etc and pay a larger chunk of the rent. My sister is a neat freak and always lets me know if she has company coming over...heck! half the time she is at her boyfriends. It's a win/win for me

No drama anymore though..so my threads suck now.

 

[IronWing]

No drama anymore though..so my threads suck now.

Start an outdoor pot garden. That should provide drama.

 

[zinfamous]

pics of sister and her "friends" are required before advice is given.

 

[clamum]

Will need pics of the house (ensure sister is in them as well) to provide proper answers

 

[nakedfrog]

You'll have plenty of time to think about your life choices when you're living in a VAN down by the RIVER!

 

[BurnItDwn]

Start an outdoor pot garden. That should provide drama.

Tis legal in Canada now. Not sure if it will provide much drama, or, if it will just make his life even nicer/better with even less drama.

 

[DigDog]

Be worse than her.

 

[GrumpyMan]

Maybe she doesn't have the heart to ask you to move out, so she is laying it on thick to have you make that decision for yourself. Man up and get out, even if you will be in less than desirable conditions at first.

 

[Oyeve]

Move.

 

[rh71]

I can only imagine the creepyness factor in the OP's head as strangers ask for pics of his own sister.

But I mean, this is AT. So OP, just do it.

 

[snoopy7548]

The fact that you answered "No" and not "Who is Mayne?" means you're Mayne.

 

[Red Squirrel]

The best way to deal with that is to make sure your living situation involves living alone.

 

[JEDIYoda]

I recently moved in with my sister in a rent house and it has been awful living with her. First she has a little dog that yips and growls all the time and she refuses to put a shock collar on him. Secondly, she has people and “friends” come over frequently and does not bother to tell me about it. Thirdly, I don’t make enough to always buy groceries and toiletries and she will but makes a point about how annoyed she is to do it. Lastly, she watches videos at all hours of the night with sound full blast. Basically she treats me like she owns the house, that I don’t help out (which I generally get the groceries, do chores, and I pay half the rent), and sometimes like I don’t even exist. So how should I deal with this? I’ve confronted her about most of those issues and she just shrugs it off like she could really care less. Our lease is ending in a month or two so should I try to get things sorted out or get out while I can? I’m 20 and she’s 23 btw so she’s older and very bossy even though I don’t do what she says because I’m old enough to make choices without her input.

Sounds like both of you need to grow up!!
Hey Mayne -- only one name allowed!

 

[JEDIYoda]

1. Legally, you are of independent age. The only way she can be bossy is if you decide to continue living there.

2. Find another roommate on Craigslist. Or, consider buying a van or used RV and live mobile. There are plenty of parks that are super-cheap that have facilities & hookups.

3. She pays half the rent & is fully entitled to living there too. The problem with roommates is that sometimes you get annoying ones, family included. I've had bad roommates in the past, so I feel your pain.

4. You are only as stuck as you decide to be. You may not be able to change your situation immediately, but you can make a plan, get out of there, and move on with your life, if it's bothering you this much.

5. You want her to change, which is not gonna happen. You want her to put a shock collar on her dog, you want her to stop acting annoyed when you mooch off her financially, you want her to turn down her loud music at night. Mature people wouldn't act like that. It sounds like you're not dealing with someone who is acting maturely. She is an adult now (23), and since she's already given you pushback from trying to change her behavior, your choice is either to stay in your rental with her, as-is, or move on. Sounds like your best bet would be to move on!

6. Purchase a tent...…..

 

[BudAshes]

Sleep with her friends /thread.

 

[snoopy7548]

Sleep with her /thread.

Fixed.

 

[lxskllr]

My roommate pees on the floor when her bathroom doesn't meet her stringent expectations. You got it pretty easy.