<< But also know that the Mormon faith is one in which the elders go out of their way to brainwash the children into not choosing the faith on their own. >>
Buzz!! Uh, Wrong. Try again, my friend.
In fact, as a Mormon, I can definitely say that Mormonism is probably the one religion that really relies on the INDIVIDUAL faith of the members. Sure, we're told what we're supposed to think is the truth, but we're also asked to sincerely and thoroughly find out for ourselves whether what we've been taught is true.
Look at Radeon's post, for example -- I honestly think he tried to find out if Mormonism was true, but what he found out just wasn't for him. I respect his convictions and beliefs a great deal because of his effort. I don't necessarily agree with them, but at least he stands by them. I've had to do a lot of soul searching myself, inspite of the fact that I was raised a Mormon -- a LOT of soul searching. There are still some things that I don't have all the answers to, but who does? Nobody, except for God. That's why FAITH is a required principle in religion. I believe it to be the first principle to follow before anything else. Without faith, your religion is vain.
Bob
I'm sorry all of this happened to you. If she belonged to any other Christian religion, then I'd think that she would still be with you. But if she believes what I believe, then marriage, physical intimacy, and all other topics related to that stuff have a very, very special meaning to members of the LDS church. But I'm sure you already know that, so I'll stop preaching.
All I can say is, good luck. There are plenty of other women out there.