Another bad ATOT gf thread...

[TallBill]

yeah.. i aint just givin up.. but this is weird..

 

[yllus]

<< dude that bites. you can im me if you need someone to talk to...

who are we going to kill? ze germans? >>

Yeah, we'll do some Counter-Striking if you say the word.

Alternatively check your PM and join some of us ATOTers in IRC, the lot of us probably have 1,000,001 comparable stories.

 

[Keego]

I've said it before, and I'll say it again. Damn mormons.

 

[TallBill]

decided not to kill.. not beneficial

 

[gopunk]

but highly satisfying

btw, i was actually just making a joke in reference to snatch

 

[TallBill]

oh.. haha.. got it now

 

[Verronda]

If you love her, respect her decision. If you don't, move on.

 

[silverpig]

Dear baby,

Welcome to dumpville. Population: you.

Me




Hehehehe


How old are you? If you're under 25, you'll have PLENTY of time to give little gifts and stuff later in life. Go get some action.

 

[badluck]

If she believes in something that doesn't exist, you probably didn't need her anyway....heh....

let the flames come!!!!

 

[jjones]

<<
Viper GTS is correct. You should reevaluate for a moment: what good does it do to break basic human morals for physical gratification? When couples do decide to break such morals, they cross a line which they can never return to, and the human conscience may not permit one to live a normal life again...ever. Reevaluate and you may see why she and her faith support abstinence.
>>


since when is having sex breaking basic human morals? since when is abstinence considered living a normal life? i must have woke up this morning on a different planet.

btw, dump her and find someone you have more in common with.

 

[Bobomatic]

Maybe you could convert her to a religion that suits your needs.

 

[Kadarin]

<< did ya read at all what i just posted... its necessarily the abstinence.. its the reason why.... i still feel STRONGLY that its not her opinion or rules.. shes just following what shes been told... i catch her a lot saying "we believe" this or that... instead of "i"... >>



If you stay together with her, I'm guessing that you should probably expect her religion to play a larger role in your life than you may want it to. If she's just following what she's told without evaluating these values based on their own merit and making her own decisions, it doesn't bode well for the future. Anyone remember that movie Steel Magnolias (chick flick alert!)? Remember that weird geeky lady who became a bible thumper?

-j

 

[uclaxman]

so u aient gettin any?

 

[ThisIsMatt]

eh, I think your relationship skillz suck. You obviously don't care enough about *her*...

 

[Option1]

<< If you stay together with her, I'm guessing that you should probably expect her religion to play a larger role in your life than you may want it to. If she's just following what she's told without evaluating these values based on their own merit and making her own decisions, it doesn't bode well for the future. Anyone remember that movie Steel Magnolias (chick flick alert!)? Remember that weird geeky lady who became a bible thumper?

-j >>

Good point, but you had to go and mention Steel Magnolias didn't ya? You just had to!! I've spent YEARS trying to scrub that movie from my synapses after being dragged to it by then girlfriend (who was shortly thereafter replaced).

/me grabs security blanket, sucks thumb, rocks back and forth.

Neil

 

[MajesticMoose]

<< If she believes in something that doesn't exist, you probably didn't need her anyway....heh.... >>


Go away troll.


Bob: Hope you feel better. Killing some germans or terrorists sounds like it might help ya feel a bit better, if not just occupy your mind.

m00se

 

[thomsbrain]

She has spent her entire life being programmed by the "faith." It will take a lot of work and care to get her to start thinking with her brain instead of her Tabernacle's. Don't give up on her if you love her. But also know that the Mormon faith is one in which the elders go out of their way to brainwash the children into not choosing the faith on their own.

 

[Rent]

<< She has spent her entire life being programmed by the "faith." It will take a lot of work and care to get her to start thinking with her brain instead of her Tabernacle's. Don't give up on her if you love her. But also know that the Mormon faith is one in which the elders go out of their way to brainwash the children into not choosing the faith on their own. >>



You're so full of sh!t

I used to be mormon. I'm agnostic now. You know why I left? Because I found fundamental flaws with some of their beliefs that I couldn't accept. Mormon elders do not go out of their way to brainwash you. Perhaps the weak people who use the religion as a crutch could see it that way, but if you look at it objectively they give you every opportunity to turn the faith down if you so desire.

Bob

Its really hard man. There are some REALLLLLY good women that are part of faiths like mormonism (hell, I almost, almost dated a few of them). What you need to find out from her is what comes first - you or god. If god comes first, then I'd move on.

Its more than likely that her parents/siblings/church peers are putting pressure on her. My sister dated a guy for almost a year and then broke up with him because he was not going to become mormon and she felt so strongly in the faith that she felt she had to do it.

I'm sorry you had/have to be a casualty of this I know what you mean when they start saying "we believe in this". Best of luck man, if she is willing to look past her religion, then you will have to fight a lifetime of ingrained religion within her.

 

[TallBill]

<<

<< If she believes in something that doesn't exist, you probably didn't need her anyway....heh.... >>


Go away troll.


Bob: Hope you feel better. Killing some germans or terrorists sounds like it might help ya feel a bit better, if not just occupy your mind.

m00se >>

eh.. im definitly not feeling better... grr... i feel like crap.... after little sleep last night..now i get to go to work!

 

[Jerboy]

<< dont get me wrong.. im not bashing religion or her.. or anything... and im not gonna miss the "physical stuff"... im gonna miss layin on a couch with her... planning a trip to the movies... going to dinner... exchanging little gifts... >>




sorry to hear you two broke up

 

[SaltBoy]

<< But also know that the Mormon faith is one in which the elders go out of their way to brainwash the children into not choosing the faith on their own. >>



Buzz!! Uh, Wrong. Try again, my friend.

In fact, as a Mormon, I can definitely say that Mormonism is probably the one religion that really relies on the INDIVIDUAL faith of the members. Sure, we're told what we're supposed to think is the truth, but we're also asked to sincerely and thoroughly find out for ourselves whether what we've been taught is true.

Look at Radeon's post, for example -- I honestly think he tried to find out if Mormonism was true, but what he found out just wasn't for him. I respect his convictions and beliefs a great deal because of his effort. I don't necessarily agree with them, but at least he stands by them. I've had to do a lot of soul searching myself, inspite of the fact that I was raised a Mormon -- a LOT of soul searching. There are still some things that I don't have all the answers to, but who does? Nobody, except for God. That's why FAITH is a required principle in religion. I believe it to be the first principle to follow before anything else. Without faith, your religion is vain.

Bob

I'm sorry all of this happened to you. If she belonged to any other Christian religion, then I'd think that she would still be with you. But if she believes what I believe, then marriage, physical intimacy, and all other topics related to that stuff have a very, very special meaning to members of the LDS church. But I'm sure you already know that, so I'll stop preaching.

All I can say is, good luck. There are plenty of other women out there.

 

[gopunk]

to add on to what others have said... the mormons i have known have not been as bad as described in this thread.

this whole thing against marrying people from outside the religion, as i had it explained to me, was that they believe that whlie all good people go to heaven, mormons go to a higher tier.... so if they marry a non-mormon, they can't be with that person in the after-life, which as you can imagine, would suck.

 

[TallBill]

grrr.. i sooo wanna talk to her right now.. im going nuts today at work.. im a mess... i dont get how the "lets be friends" thing is gonna work out tho.. or... bf/gf and not do anything..... isnt that just a friend that you really like? i understand its a bit more.. but...

 

[ttn1]

I have a similar situation with my fiance's parents. Nothing quite as serious as your situation though.

Here father actually looked me in the face and said, "You will cheat on my daughter
unless you accept the Lord as your savior."

That is only one of the many crazy things I have been told. Luckily she was mature enough to make her own decisions
and was not completely blinded by "faith" or whatever you want to call it. She decided that I was a good person, even though
I didn't subscribe to her particular religion. I don't subscribe to any actually.

I have been told by many people, that we are "unevenly yoked" and it will never work out.
It has been an issue in our relationship multiple times, and we have respected each others
beliefs each time it has come up. Sometimes it has been difficult, but I still believe it is worth it.
We have basically agreed to disagree.

I'ld like to say good luck. This is not an easy path, and will be impossible if she doesn't respect your beliefs.

 

[ttn1]

What exactly does be bf/gf with no "benefits" mean. Does that mean no chance of you guys ever getting married.
Or does that mean no sex right now.

I see no point in being bf/gf if she doesn't see it going anywhere. Time flies by too fast to waste time
with a relationship that is going nowhere.