Originally posted by: SammyJr
Originally posted by: Mo0o
What we think and what we say are completely different. The patient has full decision making capacity in the hospital, If they dont want a treatment, they dont get the treatment. Simple as that.
In our case, if you followed the OB's explicit direction - including inducing in the morning, epidural, 4 hour birth window, episitomy, C-section over her lunch hour, and circumcision, she was perfectly wonderful.
Since we came in at 2am and didn't do any of those things, we got the cold treatment from the on-call OB and that attitude migrated to most of the staff. We were very fortunate in that one nurse who had experience at a "baby-friendly" hospital essentially took over and helped my wife through the labor. Without her, we would have been either ignored or harassed. Hard to say.
The doctor also insisted on constant fetal monitoring even though our normal OB told us we could walk around and check every 15 minutes. This made roaming the halls impossible. Labor is stimulated by movements, so who knows what this doctor was trying to accomplish by keeping us tethered to 3 feet of the bed. She said we'd be going Against Medical Advice if we opted out of the constant monitoring.
When it was finally time to push, the doc forced her into stirrups whereas my wife would have preferred a different position. My son tore her on the way out and the doctor proceeds to start stitching her up without any novocaine. The doctor claims that we didn't want pain relief, but anyone with any sense knows that was referring to the birth process, not a tear. Even the nurses looked kind of shocked when she tried that one.
So yeah, we had full decision making ability. I guess.
This is just one OB, but it doesn't take too many of these stories to scare people who want a natural birth and their wishes respected to stay out of the hospital. Our experience here made us willing to jump through the hoops in order to have a homebirth. If our hospital experience had been better, we would have done differently.