MagnusTheBrewer
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- Jun 19, 2004
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I look at it as being in the same category as the old saw about lending $20 to someone and, never seeing them again, being a good investment.
Maybe you shouldn't force your friend to fly halfway across the country to attend your wedding when he hates weddings and doesn't want to go to one and wearing stupid tuxedos fucking sucks and I hate weddings goddamnitsomuch Matthew!...
I mean, I don't know why that kind of thing would happen is what I'm saying.
Yes and you shouldn't care or bother frankly.
You have no idea what is happening in someone's head, so let it be.
Also, I wouldn't have pleaded or begged anyone. Send out a message or two and be done with it. I understand your attachment to these folks, but the very glaring evidence that they don't want to be part of your life is paramount.
Why? Who knows and it's not your problem. Sure, you can ask; "everything cool with us?" - and if they don't answer, move along. But, don't agonize and torture yourself over these things.
yea. one good friend just stopped communicating sometime during our mid 20's. Prior to this, he was one of my closest friends, and we'd known each other since 7th grade. At first, it made me sad that we lost touch for whatever reason and I tried reaching out to him a few times. I missed all the good times we had together. But we haven't had any contact for 8 or so years. He's a distant, but fond memory by now. I do wonder every now and then about what he's upto now.
When I was getting married, I wanted to ask a good friend of mine to be one of my groomsmen. But he ignored my calls & voicemails. It's obvious he received it and also knew I was getting married via FB. I called again and again. Even pleaded with him via voice mail that I wanted to him to be part of this event.
We never had any fights or arguments prior- nor during the entire course of the friendship. I haven't heard from him at all- it's many years since. I'm baffled as to why. We used to hang out quite frequently. If I HAD to speculate, maybe because I was getting married while his GF broke up with him? (But why would that be the reason to sever ties?)
It happens. People are constantly changing and as time goes on you have less and less in common with those you once did...so friends naturally drift apart.
But in this case the fact that he also cut ties with other mutual friends seems to indicate he was going through something in his life. Perhaps he wanted a fresh start?
When I was getting married, I wanted to ask a good friend of mine to be one of my groomsmen. But he ignored my calls & voicemails. It's obvious he received it and also knew I was getting married via FB. I called again and again. Even pleaded with him via voice mail that I wanted to him to be part of this event.