I might see it differently if I was some teenage loser who did nothing but smoke pot and play video games all day every day. But as a responsible young adult trying to build a life for myself, I would never put up with that kind of shit from anyone - especially my piece-of-shit parents.
I understand your sentiments. Even if you are living with your parents, and there are rules that you need to follow, there are boundaries that you need to set regarding what sort of control (if any) and what sort of treatment you are willing to tolerate. Naturally, this may lead to conflict, depending on how your parents are, and it could lead to you being kicked out, which may or may not necessarily be a bad thing. If its so bad that your choices are to either dissolve reasonable boundaries or be kicked out, then being kicked out is the better choice. I don't believe you should ever be okay with allowing others to control you (outside of some agreed arrangement like your job). Sometimes you need to be pragmatic and weigh the consequences of your decision, maybe grit your teeth and endure asshole people, but those people are still assholes.
I had reasonable parents (once I left my crazy mother and went to my father and stepmother, when I turned 18), and a good deal of my way of thinking regarding this subject actually comes from them. They pretty much never gave me orders. My dad actually never, ever gave me an order. My stepmother would complain if I, say, left dishes in the sink and forgot, and that is reasonable. If she ever tried to order me around or try to control me, I wouldn't allow it. She never did, though.