Are you a "loner"?

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Kaido

Elite Member & Kitchen Overlord
Feb 14, 2004
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This. I remember breaking down in tears about how I had no friends in 3rd grade. Today I don't care so much. My honest goal in life is to get a decent paying cubicle-type job of minimal human interaction, so that I may spend the rest of my time in a home all by myself, with money to spend on collections and entertainment all for myself.

I take it you had siblings
 

Mixolydian

Lifer
Nov 7, 2011
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Growing up my family lived in a small house. Everyone was always getting in each other's way and on each other's nerves. I love being alone now.
 

badb0y

Diamond Member
Feb 22, 2010
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I have around 4 real friend and a girl friend but I seriously prefer to be alone. I have no problem holding a conversation if I have to but most of the time I would rather not. I seriously don't give a shit about what most people talk about so I guess that's why I like to be left alone.
 

sandorski

No Lifer
Oct 10, 1999
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I wonder how many were Only Children or The Oldest Child with a large gap between them and their first Sibling?

I am the Oldest of 3, but there is 4 years separating me and my first Sibling. By the time he arrived, I was quite content with being alone, in fact it was annoying to me to have to play with those rugrats. Until I was a Teen anyway, then I could relate to them better.
 

purbeast0

No Lifer
Sep 13, 2001
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i wouldn't call myself a loner but i definitely enjoy my time alone so i can do things i like to do such as watch some tv shows, go fishing, or play some video games. but i also like to do things with groups of people such as travel, i play on a football team, and i'm also married.

but i know some people who can't find anything to do on their own and HAVE to be out and about with others. im definitely not like that.
 

Baked

Lifer
Dec 28, 2004
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LEGO and fleshlight give me more joy than backstabbing cheatin' hoes. With that said, I don't have the patience to watch movies and TV by myself, I just fast forward everything when I watch by myself.

I do go to yoga class a few times a week. Sometimes there are a lot of students, sometimes there aren't. I'm not a huge conversation starter though.
 

JM Aggie08

Diamond Member
Jan 3, 2006
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No, because I have a family and friends that love me, and a girlfriend whom I love and intend to marry in the near future.
 

Paul98

Diamond Member
Jan 31, 2010
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Not at all, but these poll results do explain a lot about how so many of the people here think.
 
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i prefer to keep to myself but i can't lie, i love people too. i can be social when needed, etc. i prefer to be around people during work hours, etc.
 

destrekor

Lifer
Nov 18, 2005
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isn't there some really wise saying about someone who has many friends has no real friends?


Or maybe that was on a fortune cookie...

Well, if you go by the word of some psychologists, the more intelligent, more "in-tune" with the world, and the happiest people on the planet, are most likely to have a handful of "I'd kill or die for them" friends, as opposed to a lengthy list of acquaintances.


Personally, I definitely accept the fact that I am introverted. I would like to have more time with my close friends, perhaps find a few more friends to get close with, but schedules don't always work out that well. But in general, I prefer my alone time and am happy with it. But there comes the time when it's also like "all right, I need to get out and do something, anything."
I don't think I could entirely live like a hermit/recluse, but the majority of the time I'd be most comfortable emulating such; so long, that is, as I can get out and enjoy friendship and social entertainment on an infrequent basis. More often than not, I don't want to be around people.

I'm just so cynical I hate most people. That naturally restricts the amount of people I'd even care to be friends with, and it also limits how often I want to be surrounded by such types.
 

Thebobo

Lifer
Jun 19, 2006
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This. I remember breaking down in tears about how I had no friends in 3rd grade. Today I don't care so much. My honest goal in life is to get a decent paying cubicle-type job of minimal human interaction, so that I may spend the rest of my time in a home all by myself, with money to spend on collections and entertainment all for myself.

:thumbsup:
 

Platypus

Lifer
Apr 26, 2001
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Yes and no. I prefer the company of myself a lot of times as I'm naturally introverted but I am very comfortable in social settings and around people as well.
 

OverVolt

Lifer
Aug 31, 2002
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I'm the youngest by 7 years. A mistake child one could say I basically had to watch the 'adults' take care of everything and they trainwrecked the family without taking my input.

Except for my older sister who got lucky.
 

Sixguns

Platinum Member
May 22, 2011
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I like being around others but I really enjoy being left alone. My wife has a hard time with this though. If I am around the some people to much I start to get annoyed with the smallest of things too. I like the peacefulness of solitude very much.
 

Jeff7

Lifer
Jan 4, 2001
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i moved beyond loner years ago right into recluse territory
*waves*



Well, if you go by the word of some psychologists, the more intelligent, more "in-tune" with the world, and the happiest people on the planet, are most likely to have a handful of "I'd kill or die for them" friends, as opposed to a lengthy list of acquaintances.


Personally, I definitely accept the fact that I am introverted. I would like to have more time with my close friends, perhaps find a few more friends to get close with, but schedules don't always work out that well. But in general, I prefer my alone time and am happy with it. But there comes the time when it's also like "all right, I need to get out and do something, anything."
I don't think I could entirely live like a hermit/recluse, but the majority of the time I'd be most comfortable emulating such; so long, that is, as I can get out and enjoy friendship and social entertainment on an infrequent basis. More often than not, I don't want to be around people.

I'm just so cynical I hate most people. That naturally restricts the amount of people I'd even care to be friends with, and it also limits how often I want to be surrounded by such types.


And it makes it so tough to meet people without them hating you.
"I'm smart, so I've realized that most people are just assholes who aren't worth my time or effort. So, you wanna be my friend?"

What's a cynical introverted misanthrope to do?
 
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monk3y

Lifer
Jun 12, 2001
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I definitely was a loner for most of my early life. I got into a serious accident when I was in my first year of college and really had no support present (parents and sister lived far away).

After the accident I changed my life and sought out human companionship as opposed to online gaming or whatever else consumed my time. Since, I've been able to form a strong core of friends that I can talk to and count on for anything. I also have a beautiful wife and a one year old. I couldn't be happier.
 

olds

Elite Member
Mar 3, 2000
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Nobody is OK with it. They just pretend they are.
Not the least bit true. I find a majority of people to be uncouth, stupid or a combination of both. As such, I tend to not hang out with people unless it is necessary.
 

akahoovy

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May 1, 2011
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And it makes it so tough to meet people without them hating you.
"I'm smart, so I've realized that most people are just assholes who aren't worth my time or effort. So, you wanna be my friend?"

What's a cynical introverted misanthrope to do?

Hehe, very funny and pretty accurate for myself.

At the moment I'm a loner, mostly because I'm Ok with being independent, but I am a social introvert. I don't mind talking/partying with people but I need time away to recharge.
 

HeXen

Diamond Member
Dec 13, 2009
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Can you have a wife and be a loner?

yep, i do and still am one.
I"m such a loner, i don't even like to play Multiplayer. i tried to get into them, even BF3 is a rarity for me to play, but i just always go back to SP games.

basically i hate people. yes that includes anyone here.
 

Zeze

Lifer
Mar 4, 2011
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The poll result is bit.. disheartening to me. I mean, I didn't expect better in a tech forum, but 85%?

This forum is just a big circle jerk of hating people.
 
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