Originally posted by: moshquerade
or would you rather have no disputes at all?
Interesting.
My parents fought constantly, my wife's parents never fought in front of their kids. Both sets divorced after 25 years of marriage.
In our relationship, I'm more likely to be confrontational and phrase criticism negatively, she's more likely to avoid confrontation and phrase something positively.
I love her and respect her as an equal, that means we have dissagreements and work them out as adults, appraently I think that adults are assh0les a lot more often that she does.
If I COULDN'T argue with her, it would bottle up and create a distance in the relationship I couldnt' stand.
^may not be what you were looking for... just thoughts.