- Mar 15, 2003
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Hello my fellow asian people...While I'm indian and most of you guys are probably chinese or korean we all have very similar social structures (indians are the lost asians.. from asia but never grouped with the rest because we're brown and have rounder eyes).. Anyways, my problem is dealing with asian(indian) parents that refuse to adapt to american culture.. A cliched, age old problem but it's been getting on my nerves lately.. I'm 22 and have had a stable gf since I was 16.. We've been going out for 6 years - most people aren't even married that long anymore! - yet our relationship continues to be invalid in the eyes of my parents (and even my sister)... They find it weird that I invite her to family events, constantly treat her as an outsider, and generally make me feel like a whore even though I don't sleep around nor do anything illegal/"immoral" (I'm not knocking drugs but I don't use em, I don't even drink).. I'm a pretty stable guy in a loving relationship with a wonderful, brilliant (ivy leaguer) girl yet they always look down on me because dating is not part of indian culture... I honestly think that arranged marriages are FAR more immoral but that's a whole other can of worms.. So how do I make them get with the times? I will definately marry this girl but I feel terrible every time they suggest taking me out for an event (b-day, etc.) and give me the "what's she doing here?" glance when I bring her along.. Grr.. they should just grow up..
Also, I should mention that she's white (and jewish).. Indians HATE jewish people even though I've always lived in a jewish neighborhood and my relatives tease me by calling me a jewish boy (I like conversations and art - sue me!).. Anyways, this adds another layer to my problem.. FYI most (not all) indians are very racist... My mom was about to disown my sister for marrying an indian guy from another part of india (he's from the north, we're from the south)! In the end, I don't care if I get disowned... But I do love my parents and just want peace..
Also, I should mention that she's white (and jewish).. Indians HATE jewish people even though I've always lived in a jewish neighborhood and my relatives tease me by calling me a jewish boy (I like conversations and art - sue me!).. Anyways, this adds another layer to my problem.. FYI most (not all) indians are very racist... My mom was about to disown my sister for marrying an indian guy from another part of india (he's from the north, we're from the south)! In the end, I don't care if I get disowned... But I do love my parents and just want peace..