This is what happens when you have a generation or two that have been by and large sheltered their whole lives and live behind their keyboards. They are one of the most in person socially inept group you'll ever come across. ***and that also pertains to their shitty dating experiences and expectations.
This. In a nutshell.
I think there's a large number of men and women in current generations who simply don't know how to interact with each other, once it goes past stupid emojis on a screen and 5 word text messages.
This bit in particular amazes me:
"When Ansari told her he was going to grab a condom within minutes of their first kiss, Grace voiced her hesitation explicitly. “I said something like, ‘Whoa, let’s relax for a sec, let’s chill.’” She says he then resumed kissing her,
briefly performed oral sex on her, and asked her to do the same thing to him. She did, but not for long. “It was really quick. Everything was pretty much touched and done within ten minutes of hooking up, except for actual sex.”
I'm guessing that quick oral sex, done within ten minutes counts as a "clear, non-verbal clue".
This is a generation now where performing oral on each other isn't "actual sex".
This is whole thing is just pathetic. First and foremost, it's nothing anyone else should even know about, or would, were it not a celebrity.
Going by this account, he seems quite a bit the bumbling oaf, but the whole thing is simply NO ONE ELSE'S business. It's not rape, it's not sexual assault. It's a date that didn't go well. Dealing with this type of thing via "Let's expose 'em on social media and try to ruin 'em over it!" is a crock of shit. But that's where we are.
Many men and woman simply don't know how to deal with each other in reality. I suppose an upshot of that is eventually the population will thin out some, as I guess it's possible the ineptness may get so bad that fewer and fewer people will form relationships that create offspring. Sounds like a harsh judgement, but it honestly wouldn't surprise me.
I think the problem is multi-faceted and not the fault of one sex vs another. Too many young men are never taught how to be gentlemen and how to interact with the opposite sex. Men have always been pigs,but I think men used to be more skilled at real world social interaction. Women on the other hand I think get sent screwed up mixed messages from day one. Oral is just like holding hands now, so how dare that pig think it's leading to "actual" sex. When things go poorly and you feel hurt and violated (based on some actions you DID actually participate in yourself, but have bought into a load of HORSESHIT that it doesn't actually count and so is 100% on him) don't discuss it rationally with the person or anyone else, go straight to the media to ruin someone over it.