Bachelor party secrets...

[Special K]

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: Compton
Its not ok. Anyone who thinks its ok should not be getting married.

oh so wrong you are. This is the last chance to get that last taste of fresh. After this there is no chance of experiencing that.

Bachelors parties are about getting your boy laid for the last time. That's just the way it is.

-edit- that's what the bachelor party is all about - getting your boy laid by some fresh. it's the last big woo-ha of singledom.

If the sterotype about never getting sex after marriage is accurate for the most part, and the guy wants sex bad enough that he is willing to cheat on his future wife at a bachelor party, then why even get married in the first place?

To answer the original question, I wouldn't rat the guy out, but if they were a close friend I would definitely express my disapproval.

 

[PClark99]

Unless the bride is your sister, then shut your yap and let it lie.

 

[ballmode]

I can see a Miller Lite, "good call" men of the square table commercial over this

 

[AnitaPeterson]

this is interesting, not because of the story, but because of the clear distinctions made by the two groups debating here... those who see things in black and white and those who see an infinity of grays. sadly, they're both right.

 

[HombrePequeno]

Before I comment on the story I want to say, learn how to write. It took me three times reading that scenario before I figured out what the hell it was you were trying to say. I'm still not 100% on what you're asking. You're trying to say you become friends with the bride (not significant other) right?

There's no reason to go out and tell her. That wouldn't be any of my business. Now if she comes up to me and asks if her husband boinked one of the strippers (whores) on his bachelor night, I wouldn't lie.

 

[George P Burdell]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Scenario:

Who were you before you were banned?

- M4H

^
What he said.

 

[akasha]

dont insult the writing when it took YOU 3 times to READ. I didnt want to post a LONG LONG LONG unnecessary explanation. So, if you truly need a translation, here you go...

ASSUME that you(the reader) are buddies with the groom, "as time goes on"...like years down the road (do you need more of an explanation here?) YOU and your significant other (not mentioning a wife because I dont know what the preference is for the one READING this) grow to be close "COUPLE" Friends during the years.
Better?

***BTW, for the ones who constantly ask the irrelevant question who I "was" before being banned, I was NEVER banned. geeeez :disgust:

 

[flexy]

you already say "DURING THE YEARS"...what use do you think it would have to bring up OLD **** from this bachelor's party a long time ago ?

You dont even know whether the wife KNOWS already.....if they have troubles because he already cheated once AFTER they were married...i dont think you do any good in saying "oh yeah, and you know what ? Years ago...at the bachelor's party he did this and that already"

I ASSUME that the wife knows her man better than you ? Also..what is your gain (or anyone's gain) here ?

Just to add one on top to make it clear to the wife that he is a cheater ? Then...YES...consider that it was a bacherlor's party and alcohol and drunk guys and strippers....so hell yeah...let it rest, dude/girl. (for some reason i think OP's a girl ...).

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: yobarman
What part of "sworn to secrecy" don't you understand?

I never would have agreed to keeping my mouth shut, that's just bullshit. If you're dating someone and you cheat on them, it's probably going to hurt just as much as if you're cheating on them while engaged to be married. It's just as destructive, pointless, and ass-backwards. The wife-to-be deserves to know that her husband-to-be is a ****** worthless scumbag.

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Ameesh
no way, keep your mouth shut. if you rat on this guy none of your other friends will ever trust you for anything. (they would be justified), whether you agree with the guy or not you should stay out of it. the only time i would break this rule is the bride was my sister or close friend who i had a stronger obligation to and that to i would think long and hard about it and probably talk to the guy first.

Who cares, the guy cheated on his fiancee. Like he deserves to be trusted in the first place?

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb

Originally posted by: confused1234

Originally posted by: binister

Originally posted by: Syringer
What goes on at a bachelor's party stays in a bachelor's party.

As much as it pains me I have to agree with Syringer.

since when is it ok to sleep with other women when your about to get married?

Whether it's okay or not is irrelevant. What is relevant is that it's none of anyone's business what went on at the bachelor party.
Furthermore, it's no one from the party's place to go blab to the bride about what went on.

lol... none of anyone's business? :laugh:

 

[FallenHero]

That guy doesn't deserve a wife. That being said, don't go running to her and tell all...he seems to be doing a fine job ruining his own marriage. However, if the wife comes to you and asks...well, lets just say he's not obligated to lie about it.

 

[I Saw OJ]

He maybe a scum bag for cheating on his future wife, but I still wouldnt say anything. Its none of my business.

 

[HombrePequeno]

Originally posted by: akasha
dont insult the writing when it took YOU 3 times to READ. I didnt want to post a LONG LONG LONG unnecessary explanation. So, if you truly need a translation, here you go...

ASSUME that you(the reader) are buddies with the groom, "as time goes on"...like years down the road (do you need more of an explanation here?) YOU and your significant other (not mentioning a wife because I dont know what the preference is for the one READING this) grow to be close "COUPLE" Friends during the years.
Better?

***BTW, for the ones who constantly ask the irrelevant question who I "was" before being banned, I was NEVER banned. geeeez :disgust:

I wouldn't have had to read it three times if you hadn't written the original post in retard English.

 

[OrganizedChaos]

no, you have to assume her party was the same way

 

[Aftermath]

I never realized it was OK to screw around with whomever at your bachelor party just because it's your bachelor party. I kinda thought that once you slipped an engagement ring on the womans finger (if not long before that) things were pretty solidified and you were ready to dedicate yourself to one person.

Second, if the woman was pissed enough about it to drop the marriage and leave your stupid ass, then it obviously wasn't okay to do, and I can't say I would ever disagree. I doubt many of us would be fine if the situation were reversed and we knew that our wives bachelorette parties may well have consisted of three guys simultaneously banging our bride-to-be in every orifice while her friends cheer her on.

Third, I think it's total bullshit that it's apparently ok to sit there and lie about it as an accessory so that some knuckle dragging POS can get married to a woman who has no idea what just happened, who may find out 20 years later after she spent the better part of her life with this guy that cheated on her just days before her wedding day, especially if it's some naive girl who never saw it coming.

 

[theprodigalrebel]

The best answer: What bachelor party? I was scoping out deals at RossMAN's website.

 

[d2arcturus]

Mind your own business.

 

[compuwiz1]

Originally posted by: confused1234

Originally posted by: binister

Originally posted by: Syringer
What goes on at a bachelor's party stays in a bachelor's party.

As much as it pains me I have to agree with Syringer.

since when is it ok to sleep with other women when your about to get married?

That time, and that time only!

Are you naive? What did you think went on at bachelor parties, Yatze games and Dr. Pepper drinking?

 

[Blazin Trav]

Originally posted by: JS80
my head just exploded

QFT, for sure.

Not to mention, what happens in said party stays with said party. I hate snitches.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: compuwiz1

Originally posted by: confused1234

Originally posted by: binister

Originally posted by: Syringer
What goes on at a bachelor's party stays in a bachelor's party.

As much as it pains me I have to agree with Syringer.

since when is it ok to sleep with other women when your about to get married?

That time, and that time only!

Are you naive? What did you think went on at bachelor parties, Yatze games and Dr. Pepper drinking?

as long as that disclaimer is issued along with the marriage proposal I've got no problem with it.

 

[VTrider]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Regardless of the morality of cheating on your future wife with a stripper... If you give your word and then go back on it, your word has now become worthless.

Regardless of the morality of keeping your word when your sworn to secrecy...If you accept the love your future wife has for you and disrespect it by cheating on her right before your wedding day, then your commitment has just become worthless.




You can almost pick out who is married, single, happily married, etc. based just on their comments alone. People who justify 'fooling around' right before your wedding, in light of a 'technicality' either...

1. are not really in nor have respect for love
2. don't deserve to be anywhere near the institution of marriage yet
3. have watched too many 'bachelor party' movies on cable
4. are scumbags
5. all of the above

That being said, "I" would keep my mouth shut because what would be the 'gain'? If she didn't know before, she knows now what kind of 'guy' she has married - the cards will all fall in place.

 

[ghost recon88]

Originally posted by: VTrider
You can almost pick out who is married, single, happily married, etc. based just on their comments alone. People who justify 'fooling around' right before your wedding, in light of a 'technicality' either...

1. are not really in nor have respect for love
2. don't deserve to be anywhere near the institution of marriage yet
3. have watched too many 'bachelor party' movies on cable
4. are scumbags
5. all of the above

That being said, "I" would keep my mouth shut because what would be the 'gain'? If she didn't know before, she knows now what kind of 'guy' she has married - the cards will all fall in place.

QFT! I agree 100%

 

[Exterous]

I wouldn't say anything for 2 reasons:
1) You swore you wouldn't. Know what you stand for and deal with it. If you think its wrong, grow a set and say so and don't give your word.
2) Its already in flames and most likely doesn't need your addition. Intervening in a family fight when you're outside the family is like carrying a lit flare into a a gasoline soaked shack filled with gunpowder - You're asking for trouble and WILL get burned in an explosion.

 

[BMdoobieW]

Originally posted by: akasha
dont insult the writing when it took YOU 3 times to READ. I didnt want to post a LONG LONG LONG unnecessary explanation. So, if you truly need a translation, here you go...

ASSUME that you(the reader) are buddies with the groom, "as time goes on"...like years down the road (do you need more of an explanation here?) YOU and your significant other (not mentioning a wife because I dont know what the preference is for the one READING this) grow to be close "COUPLE" Friends during the years.
Better?

Both your original post and your clarification above are hard to understand. For one thing, what does you and your S.O. being close have to do with anything???