Bastardly to pass time on a girl you aren't interested in?

[OS]

Is it bastardly to ask out a girl even though you really aren't that interested in her, just to fill in your social life?

There's this girl that flirts with me fairly often, and she is kind of cute, but I don't feel drawn to her like I do with the few girls that I do like.

Well, I've never dated a red head before, I guess now is as good a time as any?

Ladies input especially appreciated

 

[neovan]

why not? just as long as you don't lead her on and let it progress further then you would want...if it does then just let her know.

 

[fastz28]

No.

Go out with her. Who knows? Maybe you'll get to like her when you know her better.

 

[Robert01]

Go ahead, as long as you let her know up front that it's "just as a friends."

 

[GoldenGuppy]

<< Is it bastardly to ask out a girl even though you really aren't that interested in her, just to fill in your social life?

There's this girl that flirts with me fairly often, and she is kind of cute, but I don't feel drawn to her like I do with the few girls that I do like.

Well, I've never dated a red head before, I guess now is as good a time as any?

Ladies input especially appreciated >>



Weird... why would you even date somebody you're not interested in?? Why would you commit to something you don't like? If you drink water, and you don't like water, why drink water? why not drink, say, Soda?

Unless you're afraid of getting rejected by a girl you're interested in, by going out w/ a chick on a lower status to boost your ego... I dunno

I just don't see the point.

 

[crabbyapple1]

no. but there's one condition. I want to know if the carpets match the drapes. seen a few redheads and some did and some didn't. just curious is all

 

[GoldenGuppy]

<< no. but there's one condition. I want to know if the carpets match the drapes. seen a few redheads and some did and some didn't. just curious is all >>



Curiousity killed the cat... or in this case, the pussy - cat that is

 

[tweakmm]

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<< no. but there's one condition. I want to know if the carpets match the drapes. seen a few redheads and some did and some didn't. just curious is all >>



Curiousity killed the cat... or in this case, the pussy - cat that is >>


lol

 

[PliotronX]

No, it's not bastardly to ask her out in your situation. But what is bastardly, is that you didn't include pics!!!

 

[GoldenBear]

<< Weird... why would you even date somebody you're not interested in?? Why would you commit to something you don't like? If you drink water, and you don't like water, why drink water? why not drink, say, Soda? >>

Because the vending machine is out of soda and you don't have any access to any.

 

[GoldenGuppy]

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<< Weird... why would you even date somebody you're not interested in?? Why would you commit to something you don't like? If you drink water, and you don't like water, why drink water? why not drink, say, Soda? >>

Because the vending machine is out of soda and you don't have any access to any. >>



Yes, my point exactly, either that, or you can't afford the soda.

 

[DannyLove]

i see nothing wrong with it. you both have something you want. whats wrong in fullfilling that desire. just get what you want (this applies to her as well) and move on, if she wants more, then you are in a different situation.

danny~!

 

[Napalm]

Weird... why would you even date somebody you're not interested in?? Why would you commit to something you don't like? If you drink water, and you don't like water, why drink water? why not drink, say, Soda?

Because sometimes there is no soda and a man gets thirsty...

Napalm

 

[Passions]

i wouldnt do it. girls seem to be too emotional, and you will end up hurting her.
unless, shes pretty strong willed and likes to play herself. HEHEHEHE.

 

[OS]

<< Who knows? Maybe you'll get to like her when you know her better. >>



Good point, but I've never really had a reversal like that. I guess in the past I could afford to be rather picky, but as an engineering student now, the dating pool just isn't the same anymore. Oh well, first time for everything I suppose.

 

[GoldenGuppy]

<< Weird... why would you even date somebody you're not interested in?? Why would you commit to something you don't like? If you drink water, and you don't like water, why drink water? why not drink, say, Soda?

Because sometimes there is no soda and a man gets thirsty...

Napalm >>



LOL , awesome response.

 

[Forever42]

I dunno, I personally think it's a horrible thing to do, from my female point of view. But then I could be called "different" in my dating views, at least for me dating isn't something that's casual. I won't go out on a date unless I know that a relationship will come of it.

But then I've only had 2 relationships (two dates, two boyfriends) and I'm 20...but two relationships where there was mutual love, and I've been VERY happy about my love life.

Though I don't think I've been asked out more than 6-7 times, because I don't consider myself too attractive and I'm very shy and quiet around people I don't know.

 

[Azraele]

It seems kind of cold to ask someone out for the sole purpose of using them.

 

[kami]

So let me get this straight...you'd just take her out for your benefit...and her feelings or what she wants means nothing? Seems a little bastardly to me...

You can be social without a girl. Go have some fun with the guys. Get drunk.

 

[tweakmm]

<< So let me get this straight...you'd just take her out for your benefit...and her feelings or what she wants means nothing? Seems a little bastardly to me...

You can be social without a girl. Go have some fun with the guys. Get drunk. >>


or smoke the green sour cream

 

[b0mbrman]

pics yo

 

[sash1]

<< It seems kind of cold to ask someone out for the sole purpose of using them. >>

I'd have to agree. And if the girls that you actually ARE going after learn about this, then your in deep water (not soda )

 

[PalmettoTiger]

<< Well, I've never dated a red head before, I guess now is as good a time as any? >>



"Gentlemen prefer blondes, marry brunettes.... and have affairs with redheads." or the ever popular "A blonde won't let you go until you're satisfied; a redhead won't let you go until she's satisfied." :Q



Seriously though, there's nothing wrong with taking her out and having a good time as long as you don't promise (or seem to promise) more than you're willing to deliver. Don't try and string her along, as imho most people are more perceptive than you give them credit for, but by the same token don't leave her alone just because you're not completely into it. How many times have ppl here had a thing for someone else who wasn't "really interested in them"? Wouldn't you wan't him/her to at least give you a chance?

 

[rudds]

tweakmm, i'm in raleigh. we should get together and spark a bowl

edit: i guess that belongs in the other thread really

 

[ImTyping]

You bastards are slowing down! It took seven? 7! replies before someone asked for pics????

Shame on all of you! Shame shame shame!


BTW, where are the pics?


My advice: Get her naked. Then see how interested you are in her.