skyking
Lifer
- Nov 21, 2001
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Well said.Originally posted by: yellowperil
The problem is not with overt racists. Those kind of people are easy to spot and decried by (almost) all.
I cannot count how many times I have been in the presence (or more accurately, absence) of a certain group of people and the group begins to "talk". People who say they are not prejudiced, in the absence of social pressure and strangers, show their true colors. These are individuals who have accepted tolerance (as in putting up with) of other races but do not appreciate diversity. In other words they've superficially accepted the notion that racism is bad and people shouldn't be discriminated against based on skin color but when they're by themselves they make some of the most vile generalizations I ever heard. I think it happens a lot more common than people think. I've heard it in every place I've worked among employees, and general social settings. One person will make a comment, then another will support him/her, and then all the sudden it becomes a bitch-fest. As soon as someone objects that person will be criticized for being PC. Overhearing stuff like that makes me self-conscious as hell. Call me over-sensitive and thin-skinned but it's hard to look at strangers the same way once you've heard the things they're thinking.
Our friend's 10 year old let slip "the n word" when referring to a classmate, and revealed the kind of talk that happens in their household when we are not around. the parents know our sentiments and the fact that we are offended by such talk. A 10 year old will screw up and let you know what is still going on there. Her mother took her outside to talk to her about it, but you know she learned that it was acceptable from her parents. I was not there, my wife was. She was mortifed.
These are intelligent people, and it eludes me why they do not have the discipline to bring their child up in a manner that will help her in the future. They are ignorant to just how much they are cheating and handicapping her for life.