Best friend shows up at my house to tell me he just got evicted from home!

[fisheerman]

My best friend shows up at my house to tell me a horrific story about how his home was foreclosed and he "knew nothing about it".

so here is the story he threw down

He works nights so he arrived home at 7 am in the morning. Went to bed and was awoken by a knock at the door around 12:30. He said at his door were a sheriff, a real estate agent and another guy. They served him with papers and told him he had 30 minutes to clear the property. He was thinking this has got to be a mistake and started arguing with the sheriff and agent. During the conversation the sheriff mentioned that notice was provided 4 days early that the home was being foreclosed and that the eviction date was this day. his wife had thrown it away. he would later find out that she hadn't paid the mortgage since June of last year and had been blowing the money hiding it from him the entire time. obviously they aren't together

After contacting the bank and a lawyer he wasn't able to get all of his personal stuff out of the house and he and his 3 girls are living with his dad.

 

[zinfamous]

Is there a question here?

:hmm:

 

[Bateluer]

Shitty deal. He was letting his wife, I'm assuming they were separated by not fully divorced, pay the mortgage and taking her word for it?

 

[Lifted]

his wife had thrown it away.

he would later find out that she hadn't paid the mortgage since June of last year and had been blowing the money hiding it from him the entire time.

obviously they aren't together

huh? how did she throw away an eviction notice if she isn't living there? is she living there? what does "aren't together" mean?

 

[BoomerD]

One of my neighbors went through a similar sort of problem.
He got busted for DUI, and while he was in jail, his ex-wife, who lived with him (weird arrangement) and was still on the mortgage from before the divorce, took out two loans on the house...and never paid a dime on any of them...or the mortgage.

He got out of jail just in time to be served with foreclosure and eviction notices.

IMO, he deserved to go to jail for DUI, but didn't deserve the fucking he got from his ex-wife.

Theirs was a "tumultuous" arrangement anyway. The cops were at their house at least once a week because of his drinking, fighting, etc. The neighborhood is a bit quieter since they're gone.

 

[AznAnarchy99]

For some reason, it reminded me of my friends tattoo that he got on his collar line.. "Trust No Bitch". LoL

 

[Saint Nick]

For some reason, it reminded me of my friends tattoo that he got on his collar line.. "Trust No Bitch". LoL

Let me guess, it was in Olde English font.

 

[Kadarin]

This is why you should always be responsible for your own finances; never trust others to not fuck you over.

 

[AyashiKaibutsu]

I knew someone who was running their own business with his wife running the finances... and yea one day he ended up with nothing because his wife started pocketing all the money for bills as a start towards leaving him...

 

[highland145]

This is why you should always be responsible for your own finances; never trust others to not fuck you over.

At least check behind them. The wife can be forgetful(she holds the checkbook) so I've automated most monthly payments and check online to make sure there's $$ in the bank.

 

[dpodblood]

Two things I don't understand:
1) How did the wife throw away the notice if she doesn't live there?
2) Why is the wife supposed to be paying the mortgage for a home where she does not live?

 

[MisterJackson]

@BoomerD, I'm sure you've heard this saying, but it sounds like your friend "Got the fucking he deserved for the fucking he got.". Shitty deal though.

 

[V00DOO]

He must have gotten at least 1 notice of default from the last 6 months from the bank. Do he not check mail EVER?

 

[Blieb]

What kind of idiot lets a woman manage their money!?

(kidding, of course)

 

[olds]

Shitty deal. He was letting his wife, I'm assuming they were separated by not fully divorced, pay the mortgage and taking her word for it?

Baaaaad idea.

 

[Pulsar]

This is why you should always be responsible for your own finances; never trust others to not fuck you over.

Yeah, that's great advice. Don't trust them with your finances, but hell, you'll be trusting them with your kids someday. Sheesh.

 

[Pulsar]

He must have gotten at least 1 notice of default from the last 6 months from the bank. Do he not check mail EVER?

I work nights, and my wife is home with the kids and picks up the mail. I'm generally asleep when it comes, and I never get a single letter that hasn't gone through her first. So yes, it's quite possible he never checked the mail. That, generally speaking, is the way a relationship works.

My wife hasn't paid a bill in 7 years. Not because she can't, but because it's much easier to have a single person handle the finances to avoid confusion. If he was working nights and sleeping through the day, then it's not surprising his wife handled the finances since she was the only one generally awake during business hours.

There are all sorts of ramifications to working an off shift that people never think about until they're forced to actually do it.

 

[edro]

What a moron.

If you are going through a divorce, you should probably pay attention to the bills.

 

[dullard]

I work nights, and my wife is home with the kids and picks up the mail. I'm generally asleep when it comes, and I never get a single letter that hasn't gone through her first. So yes, it's quite possible he never checked the mail. That, generally speaking, is the way a relationship works.

My wife hasn't paid a bill in 7 years. Not because she can't, but because it's much easier to have a single person handle the finances to avoid confusion...

I can see one person handling the bills. But it is just foolish for the other person to never check the bills.

My wife doesn't like to get the mail and I love to do it every day (and apparantly even on days without mail, like yesterday, oops). I handle all the bills when they come in. But, I make sure that she gets to see each and every one of them and we discuss them at times.

In your case, she gets them and you pay them. Perfect. But for one person to fully trust the other and to never look at them is just foolish.

 

[Gooberlx2]

We need more clarification. I interpreted it as "obviously they aren't together...anymore".

Although it's kinda hard to believe, I can see how it could happen. I check all the mail and take care of the bills. If my wife didn't glance at our balances every now and then, I could surprise her with such a calamity.

 

[yh125d]

This is why you should always be responsible for your own finances; never trust others to not fuck you over.

Truth. When I left college to go to work, my mom said she'd pay the bill since my dad had paid for my brothers school. A month or so later I asked about it and she said it was paid so i forgot about it. 6 months later, I get a letter from the collection agency saying I owe them $5k. Turns out she was intercepting the letters from the university saying "start paying XXX a month or this goes to collections jackass!"


The worst part is that I could have easily afforded the XXX they were asking for, had I known about it.

 

[BrokenVisage]

We need more clarification. I interpreted it as "obviously they aren't together...anymore".

Although it's kinda hard to believe, I can see how it could happen. I check all the mail and take care of the bills. If my wife didn't glance at our balances every now and then, I could surprise her with such a calamity.

This. I was also under the impression they were together until she fessed up about the money, not seperated the whole time.

 

[nick1985]

He offer you $500 to live in your garage?

 

[BoomerD]

@BoomerD, I'm sure you've heard this saying, but it sounds like your friend "Got the fucking he deserved for the fucking he got.". Shitty deal though.

That's supposed to be the description of alimony..."The fucking you get for the fucking you got."

 

[MotionMan]

After contacting the bank and a lawyer he wasn't able to get all of his personal stuff out of the house and he and his 3 girls are living with his dad.

What state?

MotionMan