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ColdFusion718

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I'd create 2 accounts. One for shopping for potentials and one for actually writing to them. Use one to rack up a list of women in your area then sort that list for rejects/potential psychos (read their profiles, not just look at their pics).

Usually busting them on something they wrote in their profile will usually get you a response. The idea is to be witty and show that you have a sense of humor (this is different from an insult). It's also a way for you to gauge if the woman you are writing to have the following qualities:

1). intelligence -- dumb ones won't understand/remember witty references to what they wrote in their profiles
2). sense of humor
 

pontifex

Lifer
Dec 5, 2000
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Originally posted by: Marlin1975
Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: slsmnaz
Used match and yahoo a couple of years ago and had decent success. Actually went out on multiple dates with a couple of them too. None of them were really "the one" but they weren't psycho either. You have to make an effort for it to work. Don't send out a blanket email to everyone of them, try and personalize it to their profile. And adding a pic is a must

maybe thats why i never got any responses?



YEP!!!

When I first moved to Raleigh I used Match and Yahoo as I knew no one here. I put up about 4-6 pictures. Some in doors some out. I had 2-3 contacts a week and went on at least 1 date every other week on average.

No pic = no chance. And only having 1 single pic that is either blurry and/or very close up is almost as bad as no pic.

bah, that didn't come out right. i did add a pic, maybe thats why i didn't get responses. i'm putting myself down.
 

Vette73

Lifer
Jul 5, 2000
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Originally posted by: Jnetty99
Originally posted by: Marlin1975
Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: slsmnaz
Used match and yahoo a couple of years ago and had decent success. Actually went out on multiple dates with a couple of them too. None of them were really "the one" but they weren't psycho either. You have to make an effort for it to work. Don't send out a blanket email to everyone of them, try and personalize it to their profile. And adding a pic is a must

maybe thats why i never got any responses?



YEP!!!

When I first moved to Raleigh I used Match and Yahoo as I knew no one here. I put up about 4-6 pictures. Some in doors some out. I had 2-3 contacts a week and went on at least 1 date every other week on average.

No pic = no chance. And only having 1 single pic that is either blurry and/or very close up is almost as bad as no pic.

You think having pictures of you and your buddies having some drinks is bad? Its not like it shows me wasted or anything.

As long as you have at least 2 other pics of you so they know which one you are. Also some women don;t want a guy that drinks a lot so they MIGHT think this is your way of saying I drink a lot so you better get use to it if you want me.
 

IeraseU

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I may go against the grain by saying this, but I do not advise the use of any online dating services. I think you should try to be more active in local activities (definitely does not have to be the club/bar scene).
 

torpid

Lifer
Sep 14, 2003
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JDate is geared towards jewish people.

I have tried match, yahoo, and eharmony. Match has yielded the most dates and most rewarding conversations. eHarmony, it took forever to get to the final stage and eventually we lost interest in each other. Plus eHarmony places too little emphasis on geography even if I say it's really important. Yahoo has the most rejects of those three sites.

With all the sites you have to put considerable effort into them. The response rate is maybe 5% or less. Also you get a lot of russian scam artists emailing you on yahoo and match.
 

davestar

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Oct 21, 2001
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Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
I've never done the online dating thing....really I haven't had too much trouble finding women, but I'm getting older, and my job is not conducive to meeting girls. Thinking of trying the online thing.

I'm not the type who is looking for one night stands or quick hookups, either. I like to get to know someone and kinda take it slow and see how i feel about them.

Looking for age range like 22-27.

What site is the best for that sort of thing? Match.com? Eharmony? Anyone have experience with the different options out there?
i was in pretty much the same position. last fall/winter i was involved with 3 girls (all met through "normal" means) and in the end decided i was wasting my time on crazy girls. i thought that maybe the online route might land me a saner girl... and i knew enough normal people who'd met others online that i wasn't too ashamed to try it out. :beer:

maybe i got lucky, but i'm 1 for 1. i hopped on OKCupid, found who i thought to be the hottest/most interesting girl in my area, and emailed her. we've been dating for a couple months now.

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
Usually busting them on something they wrote in their profile will usually get you a response. The idea is to be witty and show that you have a sense of humor (this is different from an insult). It's also a way for you to gauge if the woman you are writing to have the following qualities:

1). intelligence -- dumb ones won't understand/remember witty references to what they wrote in their profiles
2). sense of humor
^ yup
 

StevenYoo

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Jul 4, 2001
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I'm currently subscribed to match.com

I've sent out like 30 e-mails in the past 2 and a half monhs, gotten maybe 1 or 2 responses, both expressing no interest.

I guess they're just too intimidated by my dashing debonair looks.
 

torpid

Lifer
Sep 14, 2003
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I once replied to a girl who had written that "House on the Rock" was one of her favorite locations. I emailed her something kind of making fun of house on the rock because as a kid it seemed like 3 miles of dolls. She was really offended by that one. So be careful when you "bust on" someone for their profile.
 

ColdFusion718

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Mar 4, 2000
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Originally posted by: torpid
I once replied to a girl who had written that "House on the Rock" was one of her favorite locations. I emailed her something kind of making fun of house on the rock because as a kid it seemed like 3 miles of dolls. She was really offended by that one. So be careful when you "bust on" someone for their profile.

That just shows you that she couldn't take a joke or doesn't have a sense of humor. Either way, you did yourself a favor.
 

davestar

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Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
Originally posted by: torpid
I once replied to a girl who had written that "House on the Rock" was one of her favorite locations. I emailed her something kind of making fun of house on the rock because as a kid it seemed like 3 miles of dolls. She was really offended by that one. So be careful when you "bust on" someone for their profile.

That just shows you that she couldn't take a joke or doesn't have a sense of humor. Either way, you did yourself a favor.

...or that what he said had an insulting (rather than joking) tone. or that it just wasn't funny
 

VengefulActs

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I've only used Match, but my experience has been pretty good.

I don't send out emails all over the place; I choose the ones I write to pretty selectively. Not everyone responds, and you need to not take that personally. You need to have decent pictures that are accurate to what you look like, and you can't send out canned emails to women. They're getting a lot of those already and they can see through it.

I joined about three years ago for one month. In that one month, I met six girls.

1 - Really hot Asian girl who liked to party. We went out on a few dates and I'm guessing she found someone else because she dropped me.

2 - Crazy chick who brought her ferocious dog with her on every date to coffee shops and book stores. I stopped calling her.

3 - Girl who didn't have accurate pictures. I didn't have the heart to just walk away and had dinner with her. We then went back to her place and had a one night thing.

4 - Quirky Asian girl who wasn't as hot as I wanted, but we dated and made out a lot. I kept dating her for about a year after meeting her and then we drifted apart.

5 - Eccentric Asian girl who took a long time to warm up to me. We emailed for a few months before she agreed to meet me. We dated and slept with one another casually for over two years. I imagine we'd still be doing that except she moved away to a better job.

6 - Super hot Korean girl was pretty serious for about four months. I count her as one of my girlfriends. We had a bad falling out, but we're friends now. I wish we were still sleeping with one another, but it's strictly friendship. We talk a few times a week even as she has a boyfriend and I have a girlfriend.


A joined again before Christmas with a three month subscription. I met four girls the first two weeks and then cancelled my subscription because I found someone.

1 - The first one was a lot hotter in her pictures than in real life. I know understand that the head shots that actors take don't look as good as the actual people. We got along great over email, but she wasn't as friendly in person. We went out once and then didn't call one another again.

2 - I like this girl a lot. We met a few times and got along great. She lives kind of far away, though, and I didn't keep up with her because I found someone I liked just as much who lives closer.

3 - I still go out with this quirky, nerdy Asian girl every now and then. It's always just dates, nothing physical, and we don't have much to say to one another. She's just someone to go out with.

4 - Pretty, sweet, loving, nympho girl. We've been together for four months. She's my girlfriend (for right now).


$50 for three months of Match is a steal in my eyes. That's a lot of entertainment that I wouldn't have had if I hadn't joined.
 
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I - deep breath - met my girlfriend on Match.com. She is the coolest woman I've ever dated, in 20 years of dating, and I think I'm in love with her.
 

yllus

Elite Member & Lifer
Aug 20, 2000
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Originally posted by: DonVito
I - deep breath - met my girlfriend on Match.com. She is the coolest woman I've ever dated, in 20 years of dating, and I think I'm in love with her.
I just lost what little shred of respect I had for you. Even after finding out you were a career lawyer.

I think there's going to be an ongoing trend towards meeting people online. Nothing wrong with it at all IMO.
 

RagingBITCH

Lifer
Sep 27, 2003
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Match. Over the past year or so I finally "figured" out the right way/method of meeting women on there. A lot of it has to do with how much, if any, interest they have in you...but there were times where I had too many women to go out with. (About 7-8 on the looks scale)

Due to a circumstance in my life I was kind of forced to call off my 4x dates a week lifestyle...and actually as it turns out, ended up with a woman who has been so kind and good to me that I find myself the luckiest guy in the world. It's been almost 7 months now (my previous longest relationship had been 3.5 months, but only b/c I had dragged that one out one month longer than it should have gone) and find myself liking her more and more everyday.
 

ultimatebob

Lifer
Jul 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: torpid
JDate is geared towards jewish people.

I have tried match, yahoo, and eharmony. Match has yielded the most dates and most rewarding conversations. eHarmony, it took forever to get to the final stage and eventually we lost interest in each other. Plus eHarmony places too little emphasis on geography even if I say it's really important. Yahoo has the most rejects of those three sites.

With all the sites you have to put considerable effort into them. The response rate is maybe 5% or less. Also you get a lot of russian scam artists emailing you on yahoo and match.

Yeah... You really need to restrict the geographic settings with eHarmony. They set the default search radius out to 120 miles! Even at 60 miles, they were giving me matches in Long Island... that's a haul from Connecticut!
 

Vette73

Lifer
Jul 5, 2000
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Originally posted by: VengefulActs
I've only used Match, but my experience has been pretty good.

I don't send out emails all over the place; I choose the ones I write to pretty selectively. Not everyone responds, and you need to not take that personally. You need to have decent pictures that are accurate to what you look like, and you can't send out canned emails to women. They're getting a lot of those already and they can see through it.



$50 for three months of Match is a steal in my eyes. That's a lot of entertainment that I wouldn't have had if I hadn't joined.


I take it you are asian yourself? I went out with a couple asian women but nothing came from it. I think a lot of asian women stay asian only. Upbringing I think is for that mostly as even my wife, asian, was told by her dad you ONLY date/marry vietnamese. Of course her "good" asian boyfriend in college kinda hurt her so she brought me, captain whitey, home and we got married later. Yep of course I got a pic. This IS atot, I know the rules.

Been married a little less then a year now. I did the vietnamese wedding as most guys like myself don;t care its mostly for the woman. Heck my tux cost less then her hair/makeup did for the wedding. And no my tux is not poly or baby blue.

But I use to be one of those "online dating is for losers...". But after moving and working in a new city I tired it and can say don't knock it. Yea there will be weird people, but same can be said for meeting someone anywhere.


 

Cerpin Taxt

Lifer
Feb 23, 2005
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I'm currently active on Match.com, plentyoffish.com and okcupid.com

I'm still in the early stages, but I've definitely had enough success to make it worth it. I met one girl that I really liked, but it turned out she had decided to move to Honolulu (why keep your profile up if you're not sticking around?). She's still pretty cool and we've hung out a couple of times just as friends. That was from POF.

I met another that isn't quite as hot as the first, but I get along with her really well, and she's definitely not ugly. I could probably keep something going with her for a while. She was from Match.

I met still another that girl is frikkin smokin' hot but has a case of what I call "hot girl personality disorder." She's just kinda young (barely 21, I'm almost 28) and immature. She was also from POF. I'd like to work something out, but she has some growing up she'll have to do if she wants to stay with me (which, oddly, it seems like she does want).

There's still another girl that I'm still emailing and working up to setting up a date. So far, I have the highest hopes for this one. She seems the best all-around package of all of them. This one is from Match.
 
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