Struggle breeds the competitive spirit necessary for success. Don't fault the op for missing a vital component of self-development.
No doubt he's missing it. Without a challenge or obstacle to overcome, you cannot expect to fail, and thus eventually succeed and grow.
I disagree with you though, in that he could take at least one simple step to challenge himself and grow: move into his own place. There is nothing stopping him but excuses.
Moving into my own place is something I DO want to do. There are two things stopping me. I suppose the main one is I hate change, often leads to worse problems for me emotionally, I supposed you'd call me a pussy for that. The other thing is I'm the type that loves a rut. If I get a retail job or something like that that pays well enough for me to have my own place, pay my bills etc. I'm likely to NEVER try for anything better. I suppose I figured it would be best to try my hand again at college, though 2 days in to 2 English classes and things aren't looking good. Hate English classes to tell you the truth (never could do group presentations) so I'm probably going to switch to some other courses. But I don't really know what is transferable to where, don't know what degree I'd be working towards, etc...
No doubt he's missing it. Without a challenge or obstacle to overcome, you cannot expect to fail, and thus eventually succeed and grow.
I disagree with you though, in that he could take at least one simple step to challenge himself and grow: move into his own place. There is nothing stopping him but excuses.
Mark and I have talked about this, you're all fucking talk. Come back when you have two balls and decide to make a step forward in your life.
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I have no time for cupcakes like you who are their own biggest stumbling block to success.
Well I'm not going to argue with you on any of this. I think you are mostly right. There are some things I disagree with but as far as actions go you are right.
Moving into my own place is something I DO want to do. There are two things stopping me. I suppose the main one is I hate change, often leads to worse problems for me emotionally, I supposed you'd call me a pussy for that. The other thing is I'm the type that loves a rut. If I get a retail job or something like that that pays well enough for me to have my own place, pay my bills etc. I'm likely to NEVER try for anything better. I suppose I figured it would be best to try my hand again at college, though 2 days in to 2 English classes and things aren't looking good. Hate English classes to tell you the truth (never could do group presentations) so I'm probably going to switch to some other courses. But I don't really know what is transferable to where, don't know what degree I'd be working towards, etc...
Nut up or shut up
Many of them are happier. They deserve a fuck load more but they aren't necessarily unhappy. I'm talking about those who are not starving of course. Happiness is a subject that has been rigorously studied. They have done many surveys that show that many people living in 3rd world slums are not horribly unhappy. And similarly that millionaires are not always doing the happy dance.
Moving into my own place is something I DO want to do. There are two things stopping me. I suppose the main one is I hate change, often leads to worse problems for me emotionally, I supposed you'd call me a pussy for that. The other thing is I'm the type that loves a rut. If I get a retail job or something like that that pays well enough for me to have my own place, pay my bills etc. I'm likely to NEVER try for anything better. I suppose I figured it would be best to try my hand again at college, though 2 days in to 2 English classes and things aren't looking good. Hate English classes to tell you the truth (never could do group presentations) so I'm probably going to switch to some other courses. But I don't really know what is transferable to where, don't know what degree I'd be working towards, etc...
Mark and I have talked about this, you're all fucking talk. Come back when you have two balls and decide to make a step forward in your life.
You're the dude that's a chronic mess and wants people to listen to him all the time, well bud, after many years of listening to you whine and complain, it's all become very old. For the record, I've sat down with this guy and had a beer with him so I've seen this front and center. This is nothing personal. I could mince words, but people here have already been very polite to you, yet you still keep coming back. Me being a dick to you isn't out of malice, it's in the hope that maybe... just maybe you might see that things are simpler than you make them out to be.
You are probably the only person I know your age still at home, and still looking for excuses. Why are you likely to try for nothing better? Why? Because you're a pussy. There are a few constants in the world, gravity, the fact that NDPers gag on dick, and that you're scared of your own shadow.
So far as going back to college, why? If all you think you're destined to do is work in retail, why waste the money and time? Why did you register for English classes if you don't like them? Why not math, history or a litany of other courses available at your disposal?
You are the definition of a CHILD with no plan. By the way if you want to see what things transfer to: please look at the BC Transfer Guide's website. Seriously, you don't even do a rudimentary look, and then complain you don't know what you're doing. You really don't do anything to help yourself.
Seriously, life is only as hard as you make it... and you make it damned near impossible for yourself, and you make yourself a guy that is VERY hard to feel sorry for. Cut the shit out, seriously, we all want the absolute best for you, to get the best out of life, but I swear to god if I see you post another one of these threads, I'll track you down, and to steal a great phrase "beat you like a red headed step child". Well, not really, but you know what I'm saying.
You hate change so much, but you claim to be miserable. Well, those are bad bedfellows to have. I suppose you must have become very content in your own misery. For most though, misery is a motivational thing.
FFS. Commit seppeku already. Growing up is about CHANGE, if you don't like change go grab a soother, some diapers and go crawl back into a cradle. The world is a scary place, but you're supposed to grow up into an adult and mature, and it seems like you really don't want to do it.
BE A FUCKING MAN. The problems here are SO basic and SO fundamental, I imagine that without the basic human skills, the world must be a scary place for you, and the longer you put them off, the harder and more awkward the lessons are going to be. Everyone has hurdles they have to jump over, me, you, everyone. But life is kind of like a pan you let sit with old food in it, the longer you take to clean it, the more of a challenge it is.
You wanted to know why I was diagnosed with PTSD? Well here is part of it:
Shit son, I saw my Mom hit my Dad with a car once, my mom has beat cancer twice, and I've had to see my grandmother's brain rot while I've watched, I got my ass kicked by my parents as a child, watched my parents almost lose their house. I've had to support my girlfriend when she was poor and I moved out when I could hardly scratch two nickels together, quit school and found a full time job because while it was not PLEASANT or what I wanted to do, it is what was NECESSARY and that made me mature. It's the lessons you take from failing and persevering that make you a bigger and better person. Get out there, life is a fucking oyster, you gotta go grab your pearl. Grab life by the balls and give them a good old squeeze. Guess what? I spent 3 months in New York this summer, hooked up with more girls than I can count, and partied like a rock star. Life reaps its own rewards and if you work hard you will get them.
I also have a neurological issue from being born too early, which resulted in a learning disability. But I have never asked for favoritism, rather it's just motivation to work harder to overcome obstacles and succeed like everyone else. I also got into all of the top schools in Canada and was offered scholarships to 3 of them, and I went to one of the top 5 private schools in Canada for high school.
When life gives you an obstacle, run through, if you can't get through it the first time, take a few more steps back, run faster and you will get through.
I have no time for cupcakes like you who are their own biggest stumbling block to success.
When I got injured a life changing event, I was really down I didn't know what was going to happen or were to turn . So one day in hospital I got in wheel chair went to burn ward. There was a little girl in there 90% body 1st degree burns . It tore my heart out. It also made me stop worrying about self and family . As bad as I was this child had so much more suffering than and into the future. I remember That night I was laying in bed weeping for her and my wife came in . She seen I was distraught. She said don't worry everything will be alright and I told her it wasn't me or us that made me weep . I told her about the little girl . The next morning she went to the burn ward . When she came back she was weeping .
We sat their in silence for what seemed a very long time . I finely said to her if I ever complain about my injuries again slap . We embraced for a long while and she asked is there anything we can do for the child . I told her to please talk to the parents and extend our goodwill towards them and ask if they need anything .
No matter how bad your hurting inside. Somebody somewhere is worse off than yourself
Things don't look to good.
this blows my {{{{{hug}}}}} right the hell out of the water.Mark and I have talked about this, you're all fucking talk. Come back when you have two balls and decide to make a step forward in your life.
You're the dude that's a chronic mess and wants people to listen to him all the time, well bud, after many years of listening to you whine and complain, it's all become very old. For the record, I've sat down with this guy and had a beer with him so I've seen this front and center. This is nothing personal. I could mince words, but people here have already been very polite to you, yet you still keep coming back. Me being a dick to you isn't out of malice, it's in the hope that maybe... just maybe you might see that things are simpler than you make them out to be.
You are probably the only person I know your age still at home, and still looking for excuses. Why are you likely to try for nothing better? Why? Because you're a pussy. There are a few constants in the world, gravity, the fact that NDPers gag on dick, and that you're scared of your own shadow.
So far as going back to college, why? If all you think you're destined to do is work in retail, why waste the money and time? Why did you register for English classes if you don't like them? Why not math, history or a litany of other courses available at your disposal?
You are the definition of a CHILD with no plan. By the way if you want to see what things transfer to: please look at the BC Transfer Guide's website. Seriously, you don't even do a rudimentary look, and then complain you don't know what you're doing. You really don't do anything to help yourself.
Seriously, life is only as hard as you make it... and you make it damned near impossible for yourself, and you make yourself a guy that is VERY hard to feel sorry for. Cut the shit out, seriously, we all want the absolute best for you, to get the best out of life, but I swear to god if I see you post another one of these threads, I'll track you down, and to steal a great phrase "beat you like a red headed step child". Well, not really, but you know what I'm saying.
You hate change so much, but you claim to be miserable. Well, those are bad bedfellows to have. I suppose you must have become very content in your own misery. For most though, misery is a motivational thing.
FFS. Commit seppeku already. Growing up is about CHANGE, if you don't like change go grab a soother, some diapers and go crawl back into a cradle. The world is a scary place, but you're supposed to grow up into an adult and mature, and it seems like you really don't want to do it.
BE A FUCKING MAN. The problems here are SO basic and SO fundamental, I imagine that without the basic human skills, the world must be a scary place for you, and the longer you put them off, the harder and more awkward the lessons are going to be. Everyone has hurdles they have to jump over, me, you, everyone. But life is kind of like a pan you let sit with old food in it, the longer you take to clean it, the more of a challenge it is.
You wanted to know why I was diagnosed with PTSD? Well here is part of it:
Shit son, I saw my Mom hit my Dad with a car once, my mom has beat cancer twice, and I've had to see my grandmother's brain rot while I've watched, I got my ass kicked by my parents as a child, watched my parents almost lose their house. I've had to support my girlfriend when she was poor and I moved out when I could hardly scratch two nickels together, quit school and found a full time job because while it was not PLEASANT or what I wanted to do, it is what was NECESSARY and that made me mature. It's the lessons you take from failing and persevering that make you a bigger and better person. Get out there, life is a fucking oyster, you gotta go grab your pearl. Grab life by the balls and give them a good old squeeze. Guess what? I spent 3 months in New York this summer, hooked up with more girls than I can count, and partied like a rock star. Life reaps its own rewards and if you work hard you will get them.
I also have a neurological issue from being born too early, which resulted in a learning disability. But I have never asked for favoritism, rather it's just motivation to work harder to overcome obstacles and succeed like everyone else. I also got into all of the top schools in Canada and was offered scholarships to 3 of them, and I went to one of the top 5 private schools in Canada for high school.
When life gives you an obstacle, run through, if you can't get through it the first time, take a few more steps back, run faster and you will get through.
I have no time for cupcakes like you who are their own biggest stumbling block to success.
Well I'm not going to argue with you on any of this. I think you are mostly right. There are some things I disagree with but as far as actions go you are right.
this blows my {{{{{hug}}}}} right the hell out of the water.
it's great to show someone you care! :thumbsup:
You cared enough to post all of that, that's caring.I don't know if caring for him was the basis for my post, but basically, everyone has excuses not to succeed, and not to try, a real person looks harder for the reasons to get up and try hard and succeed.
I fucking can't stand guys like him and reading the "The Rise and Fall of the American Teenager" made my blood boil. We've been coddled so much, told that it's okay, and that being sad is a fucking 'disease' and we should be okay with our deficiencies has really caused some problems.
L0cutus needs to man the fuck up. Case and point is his thread in L&R about how to date a sociophobic guy (him), well maybe he should stop focusing on the fact that he's sociophobic because frankly, no one wants to date a guy that feels sorry for himself. He needs to change, because he can't make the rest of the world change to suit his woefully inept self.
Be like Forest Gump and start running....keep on running....Trying not to drink heavily, at all actually. Seriously I'm the type that could end up on the lower east side if I go down that route. Long walks do help but only so long as you are walking. I suppose if I walked 40,000 km maybe.
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