Michael -
I wasn't aware the French and German governments threatened Turkey with denial of EU membership if they let the Americans open a northern front. Assuming this is true, I'm sure it had some effect on Turkey's decision, but I doubt it is the only reason they denied us access. The fact is, they had a open vote in the method employed by their government, and they voted against us using their country in a fair manner. While this decision made us need to adapt our war plan, we still won the war in like three weeks with minimal casualties. In fact, a good deal of our casualties were from friendly fire incidents or from our helicopters breaking right and left. I understand while you feel they caused us more casulaties, but I feel that is more your opinion than a fact. The only way we would know for sure would be to have seen the war undertaken with a northern front launched from Turkey.
Regardless, in my opinion, the deaths of our soldiers soley rest in the President's hands since he is the one that gave the order to attack Iraq. To blame France seems a little strange since they ultimately had no say in what we did. If we never attacked Iraq, we wouldn't have had any casualties, but our President decided we needed to, so the responsibility rests with him IMO.
As far as you deciding to boycott French products, I agree it is totally your choice, and if you feel you are doing it for a reason, then it is not for me to say whether you are right or wrong. I have only been to Paris once in my life, so I can't really say with any accuracy from my experience how the French feel toward us. From what I heard, they are not a fan of us either. I just feel to hate another country, just because their government didn't fall in line with what the US wanted to do, is a pointless endeavor. Sure, right now it's the "in" thing to do to hate France, but it never hurts to have friends around the world, and holding a grudge benefits no one. I can respect your feelings since you have a well thought out reasoning behind your feelings, whereas most people in this country are just jumping on the bandwagon. I feel both countries could have handled the situation better, but the past is the past and it is time to move on.