Breaking up is hard to do.

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: sash1

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl

Originally posted by: Aztech

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Well now there's too many replies to answer them individually. Things are still okay. It's sort of weird, as I'm sure you would expect. It makes it feel even more weird that we still love each other. But, I'm happy it's that way. Ya know? We all (Tim, me, my mom, his parents, his younger brother & his girlfriend, and our friend) went to Olive Garden and I wanted to dress up. I don't have the opportunity to dress up that often, so I took advantage of the situation. I don't know why I like to dress up, but I do. lol I have pics, if you're interested.

Oh, and thank you to EVERYONE for all your help/advice/comfort/etc. . .

Wow, let me be the first to ask why? You love each other, so why break up? It won't work, you'll be back together

Edit: And, I'm interested in those pics.

Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you can live your life together as a couple. That's about the best explaination I can give to that. I care for him, but there are some issues that are too big to surpass.

~Heather

Definitely a fair reason. Sometimes you have to love someone enough to know when to let them go if you think that is what is best.

Cheer up, darlin'

Thank you for understanding. Sometimes it's hard to explain.

cKGunslinger - Thank you.

 

[JM Aggie08]

welcome to life

 

[bacon333]

"I just can't be with you right now, but I can see myself marrying you" - 3rd Ex-GF

 

[PinmasterJay]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you can live your life together as a couple. That's about the best explaination I can give to that. I care for him, but there are some issues that are too big to surpass.

~Heather

Just stumbled upon this, sorry to hear that....

I agree with this, I dated a girl for a couple years, but after about 6 months of living together just knew it wasn't going to work out, and it was a hard breakup because we did still have feelings for each other

 

[PricklyPete]

Sorry to hear about this Hzl Eyed Grl...relationships can be really tough. I broke up with my previous girlfriend for similar reason's. I truly loved her...but we had some major hurdles I was not willing to live with...so I broke it off with her. The toughest part was knowing I still had feelings for her.

It turned out for the best. I'm now engaged to the woman of my dreams and we couldn't be happier. So don't worry, your life will quickly rebound and you'll be back to your normal cheery self.

Best of luck....oh yeah...and you need to post the pics...

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Thanks, guys. I'm still packing. UGH It's hard because I get tired and hurt so easily from my fibromyalgia and arthritis. I'm glad I gave myself three weeks to do it. haha

As for the pics....I had posted them yet because I didn't want y'all to think that I wanted this to turn into some kind of dating thread because that's not what it is. But, I can post the pics. They aren't the best and I'm not saying that I'm the sexiest on earth....but I did try to look good.

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There ya go.

 

[Hyperblaze]

barely know you at all, but best of all to you. It takes a lot of maturity to do what you did. No idea how long you two were together, but sometimes it just doesn't work out.

Relationships are the most complex things ever.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
barely know you at all, but best of all to you. It takes a lot of maturity to do what you did. No idea how long you two were together, but sometimes it just doesn't work out.

Relationships are the most complex things ever.

We were together for about 3 1/2 years. And yes...they are complex.

 

[mobobuff]

I Hear Laughter In The Rain




... Oh I thought we were playing a game.

 

[DukeN]

That's terrible. Happened to a really, really nice guy I know, very similar scenario. Poor guy was devastated and is still not the same after quite some time. Though I personally believe time heals all, but it can be a long time.

Without reading the other posts, whats the issue at hand??

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl

Just don't post a YAGT about it. That's been my downfall more often than I care to count.

Uhhh I'm a girl. So, I don't think YAGT is going to happen since it's guys talking about their women.

I won't take up drinking. It's a waste of time and engergy.

This is very hard. He and I were engaged. We still love each other, but we know it won't work out. We decided to end it while we still liked/loved each other and not when we started to hate each other.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: DukeN
That's terrible. Happened to a really, really nice guy I know, very similar scenario. Poor guy was devastated and is still not the same after quite some time. Though I personally believe time heals all, but it can be a long time.

Without reading the other posts, whats the issue at hand??

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl

Just don't post a YAGT about it. That's been my downfall more often than I care to count.

Uhhh I'm a girl. So, I don't think YAGT is going to happen since it's guys talking about their women.

I won't take up drinking. It's a waste of time and engergy.

This is very hard. He and I were engaged. We still love each other, but we know it won't work out. We decided to end it while we still liked/loved each other and not when we started to hate each other.

Well, he and I just had differences that we couldn't get through. We decided to end out relationship while we still cared for each other and weren't married with kids and hated each other. I'm leaving on the 22nd of August to move to Arizona with a friend that I've known for 18 years. Then I was asked to post pics. That's really the jist of it. If you have questions, just ask.

 

[meltdown75]

Hang in there.

 

[winr]

No.............................:Q

Not yall????.............


Yall are like Ozzie and Harriet..


Well, best wishes to both of you...:sun:


Richard

 

[tyler811]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl

Just don't post a YAGT about it. That's been my downfall more often than I care to count.

Uhhh I'm a girl. So, I don't think YAGT is going to happen since it's guys talking about their women.

I won't take up drinking. It's a waste of time and engergy.

This is very hard. He and I were engaged. We still love each other, but we know it won't work out. We decided to end it while we still liked/loved each other and not when we started to hate each other.

A good mature call on both your parts Hzl, that is something to be proud of instead name calling and hating each other. Sorry to hear it about and yes it will hurt for a long time:brokenheart:. Just remember to pamper yourself because you deserve it

. Keep yourself busy and surround yourself with people who love you:heart:. BTW The pictures quality is ok but your beauty still stands out and shines

 

[hzl eyed grl]

meltdown - I'm trying to.

winr - Yes, unfortunately, it's true. We still care about each other.

tyler811 - No name calling as of yet. Frustration? Sure, but that's inevitable. And....thank you.

 

[tyler811]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
meltdown - I'm trying to.

winr - Yes, unfortunately, it's true. We still care about each other.

tyler811 - No name calling as of yet. Frustration? Sure, but that's inevitable. And....thank you.

Hang in there girl, you will be okay. If you need a shoulder, just give a shout.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: tyler811

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
meltdown - I'm trying to.

winr - Yes, unfortunately, it's true. We still care about each other.

tyler811 - No name calling as of yet. Frustration? Sure, but that's inevitable. And....thank you.

Hang in there girl, you will be okay. If you need a shoulder, just give a shout.

I'm sure I'll need plenty of shoulders. lol I know I did at first. It's getting better, but once I'm gone and realize, yet again, that my relationship didn't work out, I'll start crying again.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

tyler811 - YGPM

 

[Lola]

You look fantastic!!! I love the dress too!

 

[tyler811]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
tyler811 - YGPM

ditto

 

[Amused]

hzl,

Wow! When did you drop the weight? Fantastic job!

I'm usually out of the social loop here, sorry. Those pics took me by surprise.

 

[ohtwell]

I am so sorry to hear that, Heather! You def. look great and it shouldn't be too hard for you to find a man worthy of you!!

Oh, and as usual here at the new and improved ATOT, ignore the intellect deficient morons who tend to post here.


: ) Amanda

 

[Toonces]

another 3 1/2 year relationship ends? And here I thought I was the only one...

I can symphathize with your position, Heather. But instead of Arizona, I'll be moving to Vancouver in a few weeks to try and start anew. I hope everything works out for you as well.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
You look fantastic!!! I love the dress too!

Thank you.

Amused - Over the last 1 1/2 years I've lost about 120 pounds or so.

Amanda - Thanks, hon. I appreciate it.

UNESC0 - I hope things work out for you too.

 

[lokiju]

Wow you look great hzl eyed grl!

You'll have no issue getting a man, shyte if I wasn't spoken for I'd be giving you a call!