Bride becomes dictator in letter to bridesmaids

[sigurros81]

You don't need to go buy new ones. You could use old ones, or even pop-can rings, if you're kickin' it old school.

I'm guessing you're single?

 

[torpid]

"Youre" is a typo; "your" is a grammatical mistake.

Both are possible typos with the advent of auto-correcting devices (youre gets corrected to you're but not if you forget the e). It's highly unlikely in this case, though, because it happened repeatedly. Also, she would have to be insane to type all of that up on a touch screen. Oh, wait...

 

[SagaLore]

I'm guessing you're single?

How does that relate to what she said?

 

[Anubis]

So nobody picked up on this yet?



I don't know about you all, but I sure as hell don't plan my YEAR in advance.

TBH i dont even know what im doing in 2 weeks let alone 8 months.

actually i found out yesterday that im travleing for work on monday

 

[Ns1]

the Gawker article had some great commentary

 

[AreaCode707]

++ for being upfront about the responsibilities of the bridesmaids. The most recent weddings I was a part of had:

& A maid of honor that didn't show up for the bridal shower, backed out of the bridal party the day before the bachelorette and didn't even show up for the wedding

& A bachelor party where only 3 out of the groom's friends attended after 8+ people had committed. All plans and costs were arranged for 8. The three who went got BATTERED by the expense - was supposed to be about $150 per person for a weekend away, was really well arranged.

& A bridesmaid who ordered her dress literally exactly 6 weeks to the day before the wedding, which was the shipping timeline, and it didn't arrive, didn't tell anyone until the day before the wedding, forcing a panicked rearrangement of mismatched clothes on the morning of the wedding

& Bridesmaids who bailed on the dinner cheque at the bachelorette dinner; I picked up the whole damn tab for the group. :/

People are a bunch of irresponsible fvcktards, honestly. Making it clear that they need to actually order dresses on time or they have to sit in the crowd is not unreasonable.

HOWEVER
-- for being an unreasonable bitch about the plans. It is SUPER tacky to do her own planning.

& She doesn't get to decide where the shower and bachelorette party are. That's the responsibility of the bridal party, and they are supposed to do it based on what they can afford. She's supposed to be appreciative of their efforts no matter what they do.

& Asking for commitments to show up at a few events of the year is reasonable; demanding their year-long schedule and requiring permission to go out of town is not.

& Asking the bridesmaids to be ok with spamming them with wedding email is fine, defining a turnaround timeline for response is not.

 

[Slew Foot]

Lol @ white chicks

 

[Ns1]

++ for being upfront about the responsibilities of the bridesmaids. The most recent weddings I was a part of had:

& A maid of honor that didn't show up for the bridal shower, backed out of the bridal party the day before the bachelorette and didn't even show up for the wedding

& A bachelor party where only 3 out of the groom's friends attended after 8+ people had committed. All plans and costs were arranged for 8. The three who went got BATTERED by the expense - was supposed to be about $150 per person for a weekend away, was really well arranged.

& A bridesmaid who ordered her dress literally exactly 6 weeks to the day before the wedding, which was the shipping timeline, and it didn't arrive, didn't tell anyone until the day before the wedding, forcing a panicked rearrangement of mismatched clothes on the morning of the wedding

& Bridesmaids who bailed on the dinner cheque at the bachelorette dinner; I picked up the whole damn tab for the group. :/

wow

 

[gorcorps]

Yeah....nothing wrong with acting like a dick towards your friends.

Like somebody else said, if they're already her friends then they're used to this bullshit and probably saw it coming. For all we know she's the only one of the group who has the decency to warn people in advance at all and the rest are worse. You and I might not put up with that crap but it looks like people do.

 

[torpid]

Like somebody else said, if they're already her friends then they're used to this bullshit and probably saw it coming. For all we know she's the only one of the group who has the decency to warn people in advance at all and the rest are worse. You and I might not put up with that crap but it looks like people do.

I'd say there's a pretty good chance at least a couple of them are family members on the groom's side who are now urging him to break up with her.

 

[sygyzy]

++ for being upfront about the responsibilities of the bridesmaids. The most recent weddings I was a part of had:

& A maid of honor that didn't show up for the bridal shower, backed out of the bridal party the day before the bachelorette and didn't even show up for the wedding

& A bachelor party where only 3 out of the groom's friends attended after 8+ people had committed. All plans and costs were arranged for 8. The three who went got BATTERED by the expense - was supposed to be about $150 per person for a weekend away, was really well arranged.

Just curious, did you cut and paste this from somewhere and had a formatting problem or are you really using ampersands (&) as a number or bullet feature?

 

[sigurros81]

Like somebody else said, if they're already her friends then they're used to this bullshit and probably saw it coming. For all we know she's the only one of the group who has the decency to warn people in advance at all and the rest are worse. You and I might not put up with that crap but it looks like people do.

But I don't see how you put the two together: Because you have friends that put up with your douchebaggery does not mean you should act like one.

 

[paperfist]

Do women suffer from small penis syndrome too?

 

[x-alki]

I don't know which is more pathetic, the bride's letter or the people who actually think its a good idea.

 

[AreaCode707]

Just curious, did you cut and paste this from somewhere and had a formatting problem or are you really using ampersands (&) as a number or bullet feature?

Eh, was on the phone for work and just trying to finish the post. Can't blame a copy and paste.

 

[brianmanahan]

i dont know, this woman seems reasonable, i think shed make a good wife and a manager

i approve

 

[RaistlinZ]

She sounds lovely.

 

[The_Dude8]

Just curious, did you cut and paste this from somewhere and had a formatting problem or are you really using ampersands (&) as a number or bullet feature?

maybe it's the new version of twitter, instead of using #, it uses &yolo.

 

[Baked]

Weddings are retarded. It's a huge announcement to anyone who gives a fuck who you'll divorce in a few years, because God forbid you actually work out the issues you both have rather say fuck it and split. Just go register for a marriage license at city hall and be done with. And when you can't stand each other's flaws, after you don't get excited about your partner, or get cheated on like all the other dumbasses who end up marrying, you can just get an annulment.

 

[Lobotomized]

Jake. Run away. Run away now. Run far away now.

 

[Ns1]

Jake. Run away. Run away now. Run far away now.

Finally caught one!

0.00871080139372822 PPD

 

[dr150]

& Asking for commitments to show up at a few events of the year is reasonable; demanding their year-long schedule and requiring permission to go out of town is not.

I have countless examples of people not attending Saturday/Sunday wedding events b/c it interferes with their season ticket football schedule.

A lot of people won't even talk to each other afterwards due to this so-called effrontery.

The reply from the football families:
"Well, they should know better than to schedule a wedding in the Fall." :biggrin:

 

[The_Dude8]

Had the email been posted on 4chan yet? someone over would find the picture of the bride and see if she's hot or not.

 

[Wreckem]

I think the "10" refers to bridemaids + groomsmen. Probably 5 on each side. Nobody has 10 bridesmaids, not even the worst Bridezilla.

And I bet it's going to cost more than $1000-2000 to be her special friend. It implies 3 plane trips and a dress (not a $25 dress, mind you). Hotel + meals @ each venue. Plus the subtle mention of "contribute to the bachelorette party" which is in Vegas. The reason she keeps saying you better have the money is that she's planning on doing everything 4-star, so once they accept, nobody will dare question any of the related expenses later. But she's not going to tell them now what it's going to cost.

You would be mistaken. If you ever go to a wedding that involves a sorority member, she will have 10+ bridesmaids, Ive seen photos on my facebook news feed with 13 bridesmaids...

In general all bridesmaids are flaky to deal with. The bigger the group the hard it becomes. Its worse than trying to herd cats.

 

[Skillet49]

In general all bridesmaids are flaky to deal with. The bigger the group the hard it becomes. Its worse than trying to herd cats.

I guess I find this surprising. I have been a bridesmaid in a few weddings and married last year. I have never encountered any of these types of problems. I don't see why people make such a big deal out of people going to every single event, especially if there are a bunch of things. My husband and I tried to be more conservative for our bachelor and bachelorette parties because we had a lot of couples in our wedding part (all of our siblings and their spouses) and we recognized that it's not cheap to be in a wedding. We did have a larger wedding party because we felt we couldn't really choose between family members so we just had them all in the wedding party.

I would not want to go to this lady's wedding!