Buying a guy dinner for birthday?

[VAisforlovers]

Looking for your thoughts. There's this guy that I'm somewhat friends with and I wasn't able to make it to his 30th birthday dinner. To be nice, I told him I'll get him next time. He keeps pressing to get dinner together and he names these expensive places. I would only go to those places if I was taking a girl out that I really liked. Is this guy serious?

I'm finding it hilarious because most guys would just be happy if someone bought him a shot at a bar and call it a day. He "isn't into the bar scene" so I don't know what to do with this guy. How to best handle this situation? I am not going to drop $100 for a sushi dinner (like he wants). I'm broke.

 

[RossMAN]

http://www.thecheesecakefactory.com/

 

[amdhunter]

Well VAisforlovers...do that.

 

[wischeez]

Candles,soft music,low lights,champagne,hamburgers at your place?

 

[GrumpyMan]

He cares more for you than you for him. Tell him to go away and do him a favor, be firm. He sounds too needy for you.

 

[Miramonti]

I'd tell him that to buy someone dinner at one of those places, I'd expect to get laid afterwards and he's not your type. Then suggest a burger and a beer somewhere.

/edit: and it doesn't hurt to say you're broke but want to do something for his birthday, or something like that.

 

[Hugo Drax]

Take him to sports grill since your in Miami. Couple of beers good chicken wings and some fine looking waitresses.

 

[RossMAN]

Take him to sports grill since your in Miami. Couple of beers good chicken wings and some fine looking waitresses.

I swear his location said NYC a few minutes ago, I could be losing it though.

 

[Away]

Take him to a shithole like Applebees and ditch him there, he'll get the hint.

 

[Baked]

Somewhat friends with = tell him to jerk himself off.

 

[Xcobra]

Seriously, just say you're broke and go elsewhere... unless he gets a period every month and gets sensitive about it... Cut him off. Most dudes would be fine with a beer.

 

[mnewsham]

Tell him you're broke and offer to let him pay for the more expensive place, or let you take him where you want with your money

 

[Bryophyte]

If this is a first date, don't take him somewhere expensive. It might impress him but that will backfire on you as he will expect to be wined and dined on future dates before he puts out.

 

[dave_the_nerd]

I'm confused - are you buying him dinner for his birthday, or is he buying you dinner as a date?

There are different rules, dammit. Unwise to mix the two.

If you're buying him dinner for his birthday and he's trying to turn it into a date: run. If you think it's a first date, you get the check, period. That's NPAS* 101.

If he's just trying to get an expensive dinner out of you, though, it's probably best to be firm on the price (maybe give him a gift card instead.)

NPAS = "Now Pay Attention, Son." It's a non-credit class taught by your father. It's just a pass/fail. The penalty for passing is having to teach it.

 

[Corporate Thug]

http://www.thecheesecakefactory.com/

went here with my parents tonight...sucked as usual.

 

[Fayd]

went here with my parents tonight...sucked as usual.

cheesecake factory always sucks.

i don't know why people malign applebees as the epitome of american crappiness. cheesecake factory is definitely worse.

 

[Ms. DICKINSON]

Not sure if Hooters still running unlimited wings on Wednesday. In this case, just get a plate and both of you share it. Yucky stuff.

 

[Jeeebus]

Not sure if Hooters still running unlimited wings on Wednesday. In this case, just get a plate and both of you share it. Yucky stuff.

Hooters down here seems to have "Wingsday" Wednesday, which is 10 boneless wings/french fries for $5.99. I often partake. Lunchtime Hooters waitresses, however, are teh

 

[mafia]

Give him a blow job he will never forget. That will make his day more than any stupid restaurant.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Take him to a bar and buy him some beer and wings.

 

[clamum]

cheesecake factory always sucks.

i don't know why people malign applebees as the epitome of american crappiness. cheesecake factory is definitely worse.

Never ate at Cheesecake Factory, but I don't see what the hell is wrong with Applebees?

OP: The guy sounds like a bitch. Keeps bugging you to take him on a $100 dinner? Tell him to suck a fuckin dick.

 

[shortylickens]

24 ounce porterhouse and strawberry shortcake.

 

[Dari]

Are you both gay? If not, WTF are you offering to buy him dinner? Men don't do that.

 

[KidNiki1]

Are you both gay? If not, WTF are you offering to buy him dinner? Men don't do that.

uh, what?

im pretty sure two guy friends can go out for dinner if they want. op missed his buddy's b-day and wants to take him out somewhere as a gesture of friendship. im pretty sure that is no big deal.

 

[deadlyapp]

uh, what?

im pretty sure two guy friends can go out for dinner if they want. op missed his buddy's b-day and wants to take him out somewhere as a gesture of friendship. im pretty sure that is no big deal.

Not to a nice restaurant.