chusteczka
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- Protect yourself - Have her name removed from any credit cards or close all joint accounts then reopen for you in your own name.
- Do not act provocatively - Do not get a lawyer right away. Do not scare her with threatening statements.
- Separate - Move out if you can. This will give you both time alone to relax and think things over.
- Mediate - Split all your assets yourselves in a fair manner without threats or lawyer tactics.
- File for divorce - Once an agreement has been made on how to amicably split your assets and you both still want to divorce then file for divorce. A lawyer can be used for this step or you can do it on your own.
The main thing is to protect your credit, then you will feel safer. Do not threaten or provoke so she will not take a defensive position and "strike you back first".
Lawyers are expensive. It is possible that a single lawyer can be obtained to be used only for filing but this lawyer can only represent one party, not both. This means the person without the lawyer will have to trust and be treated fairly. The split couple can then divide the attorney costs between themselves.
Or you can skip the attorney and file your own divorce papers. This will require research to learn how to properly write the Settlement Agreement.
I suppose the first thing to do is decide if the two of you really want a divorce. This can be determined while the two of you are separated. This can take time, maybe a year or two. The two of you will figure out your own style for this situation.