palad: Same here.
vi_edit:
I think the book you read was written in an exaggerated and inflamatory manner, but a poorly written book does not make the stance that sex is for marriage an invaild one. It is a stance I personally believed in, and followed. I'm not out there, or in here, trying to force it on you, or on anyone else, but it is a valid stance for an individual to have and one that does not deserve to be mocked.
Its my life, and my body (and in my faith, its my soul) and it is a valid choice for myself or anyone else who chooses it.
Would I have married a non-virgin? Yes, if I loved her as I do Elita (Elita and I both waited for our marriage). Her past in that area would have been hers, and as long as there were no lasting effects (STDs, etc) then it would really not be my business to judge it. My still devout Roman Catholic brother is happily married to a great girl who had her own history in that area - it was never any issue for anyone!
I think your reaction to the book is more about the tone and delivery, which is indeed an exaggerated one. But I would still say that that bad delivery does not invaildate waiting for marriage if thats someone's choice.
It was my choice, it may not be yours. But I won't mock, accuse, or belittle you for your path and I ask that you have the same respect for mine. Thats all.