Change Natural Hairstyle or Get Expelled, School Tells 12-Year-Old Girl

[Mr. Pedantic]

I know there will be the usual "private school" arguments going around but this girl is wearing her hair as she is born with it.

This is silly. I was prohibited in high school from wearing my beard as I was "born" with it. Nobody whipped the internet into a furor on my behalf.

 

[DucatiMonster696]

There has to be a better private school somewhere else right? The parents should take their money and seek another private school be it faith based or not and life can move on.

 

[Darwin333]

I dunno, its a private school. A private entity can make its own rules as they see fit and I am very reluctant to get involved in most cases, this one included.

 

[Darwin333]

I know there will be the usual "private school" arguments going around but this girl is wearing her hair as she is born with it.

The exact same school will and does prohibit boys from wearing their hair longer than a certain length. Are you equally outraged about that?

 

[ch33zw1z]

meh, Religious private school, not seeing the outrage..from either side. The school is over reacting, and maybe she should try to keep it tidier.

As far as the parents, you chose the damn school. stfu. either comply or change schools.

I went to Christian school from 8th-12th. Dress code was strict. Boys weren't allowed to have hair below the bottom of their ears. Girls had way more leeway, but couldn't wear their hair however they wanted.

The school admins weren't tards though, nobody got expelled if they didn't comply. You sit sat in detention for an hour everyday until you complied. That was enough motivation anyone needed.

 

[Jeff7]

It's been my experience that a large number of private schools (non-religious included) adhere very closely to the handbook even regarding dress code. A number require the boys to be clean shaven even though it is their 'natural look'

At the point where teasing and distractions occur its less about 'feelings' and 'natural' and more about following through on the expectations that both the school and parents agreed to.

Is it too strict? I don't think so but thats for the parents to decide. It does seem that a lot of people are willing to pay thousands of dollars to send their kids to strict private schools over public schools so they must see some worth there. Personally I have found the structured and expectation guided system of the private school arena a refreshing change from the barely managed chaos of student\parent run amok public schools

Valid points.

I'm no expert on the Bible but isn't there a lot about obedience in there?

Heh, yeah. And a lot of the punishments tend to be cruel or sadistic.

 

[MtnMan]

Yea, them christians, they seek out anyone even slightly different than their norm so they can hate them.

 

[trenchfoot]

Not sure what the problem is.

Yep, agreed. The only thing I noticed is that she needs to paint her fingernails a more modest color is all. So what's all the fuss?

 

[DucatiMonster696]

Yea, them christians, they seek out anyone even slightly different than their norm so they can hate them.

Are you being sarcastic? I can't tell.

But if you are not.....Who exactly sought whom when it came to making the final decision to send this girl to a private school?? I'm pretty sure the school didn't hide the fact that it was a Christian private school with a strict dress code, etc when the parents of this girl who I assume are Christian choose this school instead of sending her to a public school or some other non-religious private school.

 

[5150Joker]

Current pic, still cute though big hair for sure

Ok that is huge and distracting. She should at least clip it or use something to hold down the garden. Maybe a weed whacker or some round up.

 

[drebo]

So other students bully her mocking her hair. Family complains about other students' behavior. School solution is to force the victim to change basically claiming her hair is a distraction and thus the bullies are the real victims. Who the fuck runs this school, Incorruptible?

No, dumbass. The school's solution to the kids bullying her is to remove that which is inviting the kids to bully.

Seriously, hair styles are not a protected entity. It's a private school making a suggestion based upon their rulebook, to which the parents agreed when they sent their kid there. If they disagreed with the rule, they should send their kid somewhere else.

If the hair is causing kids to bully, it should be reigned in.

Or, what, am I supposed to believe that the school and all of the kids in it are racist because they don't like a kid's hair style?

 

[Jadow]

the one black kid in America with good grades, and she still gets shit on. ugh

Seeing no indications of joking, I'm going with trolling.
admin allisolm

 

[mikeymikec]

If the hair is causing kids to bully, it should be reigned in.

If the hair is causing kids to bully...

Hair. Causing kids to bully.

"It's not my son's fault that he's bullying your son, your son's hair made him do it!"

 

[Fenixgoon]

Parents complained that her classmate were teasing her over her hair.



Rules state: “must be a natural color and must not be a distraction”

I guess the school deemed her hair style was a distraction (which is within their rights) as the other children were teasing the girl due to her hair style.

then WTF isn't the classmate being disciplined? her hair is fine.

No, dumbass. The school's solution to the kids bullying her is to remove that which is inviting the kids to bully.

Seriously, hair styles are not a protected entity. It's a private school making a suggestion based upon their rulebook, to which the parents agreed when they sent their kid there. If they disagreed with the rule, they should send their kid somewhere else.

If the hair is causing kids to bully, it should be reigned in.

Or, what, am I supposed to believe that the school and all of the kids in it are racist because they don't like a kid's hair style?

then the school is fucking retarded.

 

[SheHateMe]

the one black kid in America with good grades, and she still gets shit on. ugh

Um.....

 

[MtnMan]

Are you being sarcastic? I can't tell.

But if you are not.....Who exactly sought whom when it came to making the final decision to send this girl to a private school?? I'm pretty sure the school didn't hide the fact that it was a Christian private school with a strict dress code, etc when the parents of this girl who I assume are Christian choose this school instead of sending her to a public school or some other non-religious private school.

Damn right I am serious.

And why send a kid to a private school? So the would get an education and not a publq skool edukashum.

 

[Londo_Jowo]

then WTF isn't the classmate being disciplined? her hair is fine.

How do you know that the classmates weren't disciplined?

If males must meet certain standards when it comes to their hair then why not similar standards for the females and enforce both?

Don't like the schools policies send the child/children to another private school or public school.

 

[halik]

Um.....

 

[Londo_Jowo]

I wonder if the school didn't make their decision based on parents of the children that were disciplined complaining about their children being required to meet certain standards and this girl was allowed to have a hair style that would not be allowed for their children.

 

[Pulsar]

I know there will be the usual "private school" arguments going around but this girl is wearing her hair as she is born with it.

So... you owned yourself in the second post of your own thread.

*golfclap*

dmc-self-owned

 

[SheHateMe]

Naw, just another example of the type of shitheads who post in P&N

 

[Fenixgoon]

How do you know that the classmates weren't disciplined?

If males must meet certain standards when it comes to their hair then why not similar standards for the females and enforce both?

Don't like the schools policies send the child/children to another private school or public school.

we dont know whether the classmates were disciplined or not. the point is that this was something that was previously not a problem until certain classmates started acting like retards. in that case, the proper solution is to discipline them. if they still act up? discipline them more severely.

this situation is merely punishing the victim and showing how toothless the school really is when it comes to disciplining troublesome students.

 

[DucatiMonster696]

we dont know whether the classmates were disciplined or not. the point is that this was something that was previously not a problem until certain classmates started acting like retards. in that case, the proper solution is to discipline them. if they still act up? discipline them more severely.

this situation is merely punishing the victim and showing how toothless the school really is when it comes to disciplining troublesome students.

However the the school is abiding by its own rules where it is stated in the article itself that the school has a policy in that any hair-style that brings a distraction or causes a issue in the school itself is also prohibited.

While those kids are wrong for bullying this girl the fact of the matter is when you look at the issue objectively her hair is causing a distraction and presenting issues for the school itself.

Hence why the school officials made the suggestion to the parents (who made several complaints) that they need to also reign in her hair-style. Furthermore you also have to consider in this story what the parents of this girl are asking for and what they were no doubt aware of when they first enrolled their child into this private school and that is the rules regarding hair styles.

In other words they want the school to ignore its own standards on grooming for their child's hairstyle that other students attending this school must adhere too, they want the school to ignore the issue and distraction this hair style created (even if it is unwarranted bullying), i.e. they want their cake and they want to eat it at the same time.

Additionally as Mr. Pedantic mentioned above in his post, why would is it not a issue when private schools require young teenage boys to reign in their "natural" hair growth that appears on their faces when they reach a certain age but in this case its a huge issue here because it involves a young girl? In the end there are many angles in this story that one has to think about IMHO and it isn't as cut and dry as you might think. However the shining positive point in this story is that the parents in this case have a choice to vote with their dollars and send their child to a different private school and this private school has a right to uphold it interpretation of its own rules and standards so as to not undermine itself in the long term whether or not you, I or the parents of this girl agree with how they applying and interpreting those rules.

 

[LumbergTech]

However the the school is abiding by its own rules where it is stated in the article itself that the school has a policy in that any hair-style that brings a distraction or causes a issue in the school itself is also prohibited.

While those kids are wrong for bully this girl the fact of the matter is when you look at the issue objectively her hair is causing a distraction and presenting issues for the school itself.

Hence why the school officials made the suggestion to the parents who made several complaints that they need to also reign in her hair-style. Furthermore you also have to consider in this story what the parents of this girl are asking for and what they were no doubt aware of when they first enrolled their child into this private school and that is the rules regarding hair styles.

In other words they want the school to ignore its own standards on grooming for their child's hairstyle that other students attending this school must adhere too, they want the school to ignore the issue and distraction this hair style created (even if it is unwarranted bullying), i.e. they want their cake and they want to eat it at the same time.

Additionally as Mr. Pedantic mentioned above in his post, why would is it not a issue when private schools require young teenage boys to reign in their "natural" hair growth that appears in their faces when they reach a certain age but in this case its a huge issue here because it involves a young girl? In the end there are many angles in this story that one has to think about IMHO and it isn't as cut and dry as you might think. However the shining positive in this story is that the parents in this case have choice to vote with their dollars and send their child to a different private school and this private school has a right to uphold it interpretation of its own rules and standards so as to not undermine itself in the long term whether or not you, I or the parents of this girl agree with how they applying and interpreting those rules.

Should the kids then decide to start arbitrarily harassing people about their hair and force people to have it changed? I don't like how Johnny's hair is today, its distracting and we're gonna mock him until they make him change it. It sounds like a stupid ass policy.

 

[PokerGuy]

Private school, their rules. If she wants to wear a giant poof of hair on her head, that's perfectly fine, she can go do it elsewhere. This really isn't rocket science, I get so sick of idiots who think their preferences are more important than the rights of others. You do not have some inalienable right to wear your hair in a certain way in a private school. If you don't like their rules, go somewhere else.