Originally posted by: JackBurton
Dude, it's Atheist. Let's at least get that right before we move on to solving the mysteries of the universe.
Originally posted by: DurocShark
As some of you may know, I'm an athiest and my wife is Christian. We've always respected each others beliefs, and agreed to let the kids decide for themselves their own beliefs.
The past few years my 14 year old son has been leaning towards athiesm. I don't encourage it, but will answer questions as fairly as possible.
My 2.5 year old daughter has been going to church with my wife nearly every day (my wife does child care at her church for 2-3 hours per day). So my daughter's being thoroughly indoctrinated. I don't complain. She'll find her own way when she's old enough.
Well, lately my wife has been trying to get our son to go to church and participate in the teen ministry's events. Yesterday he finally said, "Why would I want to go listen to a bunch of people worshipping their fantasies?" I had to leave the room. That was a great line! But I didn't want to make my wife look like a fool by laughing.
So last night my wife started yelling at me about his athiesm and how it's my fault. WTF? I asked, "How is that different than our daughter coming home singing Christian songs and you hanging Christian propaganda all over the house? Do you see any Darwin posters anywhere? Do you hear me quoting from athiest writings? YOU'RE the one pushing your beliefs on the kids."
It quickly became one of those times where she starts yelling and screaming and I sit there letting her vent before replying, then listening to more.
Anybody dealt with this before? Any suggestions?
CLIFFS:
I'm athiest, wife's Christian.
One child is becoming athiest and expressing it.
Wife blames me.
UPDATE:
Since there are so many replies, I'm going to post in here so they don't get buried.
My son has NEVER heard me speak a mean word about religion. I've been very careful about that. As I said, I want him to make his own choices. He went to church every week until he was 12 or so when he started trying to get out of it. I refused to pressure him about it, though my wife continued to do so. So he *has* experienced it. Even went on a campout with the church once.
Yes, he was being disrespectful. That has been dealt with. The reason I had to leave the room was because I didn't want to encourage that behaviour by laughing. I still think it's a great line, but it was inappropriate in context. That is all.
Those of you calling me names can kiss off. Just because I don't share your beliefs doesn't mean I'm any less of a father.
Anybody know where I can get some Darwin posters?
ANOTHER UPDATE:
I went ahead and posted this on a religous board. If anybody wants to see the totally different (right) path the post is taking: http://www.christiandiscussionforums.org/v/showthread.php?t=6633
Yes, that's CARM's board. I used to work with Matt in the 90's, haven't talked to him in a while, but thought I'd see what happened over there.
Originally posted by: bluemax
The Bible even warns people "unequally yoked" not to get married. Two animals pulling a plow, if one is not the same as the other, they'll injure each other and possibly the equipment. It's a recipe for disaster.
If she read her Bible more (in proper context, not just snippets) and practiced what she read, she'd have never hooked up with you.
If you love her and your family, you're going to have to come up with a better "compromise" than you have now. As it is, you've got two opposite factions, mutually exclusive, with your marriage license as a mere "cease fire" agreement.
YOU should have known better, too.
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
you two screwed up in that in your pre-marriage, pre-pregnancy talks you didn't decide how you would handle the kid's religous upbringing,would they go regularly to church ? till what age ?
I'm assuming your son is a high school freshman ? in the cathlic faith that's usually the age of holy confirmation, the ceromony at which the young adult freely confirms his faith
the catholic version of adulthood. I'd say at he's old enough to decide not to go.
Also,you need equal time in expressing your POV to BOTH kids, kids can't make informed choices without hearing from you as well.
Do not presume to speak for all Christians. Your definition of Christianity is not the same as other people's definition of the term. Christianity should be a faith, not a religion. It should be a personal relationship with God and with Christ, not a crusade to persecute the unfaithful. Christians should lead by example, not force their doctrine on others. It's in compassion and caring for those in need and giving of oneself that should draw others to the faith, not proselytizing and threats of eternal damnation towards nonbelievers. That got screwed up early in the game; there never should have been a "church." Words of wisdom from Mr. Gordon Sumner: "Men go crazy in congregations; they only get better one by one."Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
I am a Christian, we will get that out of the way. As a Christian, it is our job to go out amongst the world an tell others of Christ. To neglect one's own children would be rediculous. Secondly, It is against Biblical doctrine to even marry someone like you. She should be ashamed. An atheist and Christian cant be together for exactly these reasons. I am personally glad she is trying, and hope she succeeds. Maybe it isn't fair, but its our doctrine.
Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
1) The majority of the world is not necessarily doomed.
2) Who teaches that Christian morality is better than the morality of oth faiths?
3) How does Christianity (New Testament stuff) contradict science and logic?
4) What is wrong with instilling a little faith in a child? It can offer a little bit of comfort in an uncertain world.
5) Kids don't ordinarily get the fiery pit of hell stuff. That is for adults - particularly for Baptists.
1. Yes, according to your religion even the majority of those who claim to be Christian are doomed themselves. As the Bible says, what is faith without works? 2 Billion worldwide "claim" to be Christian, but everyone knows nowhere near that amount actually goes to church or actively practices it from day to day.
2. You're playing stupid. You teach that your morality is the "correct" morality and that all other moralities oppose the "creator of the universe."
3. Science? Is it possible to feed 5,000 people with one basket of bread? Is it possible turn water into wine with just a few words? Is it possible to rise from the dead?
Logic? Is it logical to say that an invisible man in the sky created every human being without their consent and then forced them into a life they did not ask for, and then forced them to adhere to a certain docterine/moral code, leaving humans with no way to escape their life or the afterlife? Is it logical to say god created faulty humans (he created us as we are, as it says in the Bible, he knew us before we were born) and then blamed them for their own mistakes?
4. What about faith in themselves? Faith in their own judgement?
5. Why not? Because you'd know it would make you look ridiculous. If you really believe if what you preach, shouldn't you be warning people that they will spend the rest of eternity being punished in hell? Think about that. Are you not grasping it? Do you not take it serious?
If someone knocked on your door tomorrow and said "do this for me or I'll beat you with this baseball bat." Would you take it serious? I bet you'd be scared, I know I would. Why are you not taking "eternal damnation" as serious? That is a HUGE statement to make. If true, certainly that is the most important warning anyone could ever receive.
I wait your responses to all my points.
Originally posted by: CaptKevMan
OK, I stopped reading at Page 6, but here are the responses I felt compelled to make:
Do not presume to speak for all Christians. Your definition of Christianity is not the same as other people's definition of the term. Christianity should be a faith, not a religion. It should be a personal relationship with God and with Christ, not a crusade to persecute the unfaithful. Christians should lead by example, not force their doctrine on others. It's in compassion and caring for those in need and giving of oneself that should draw others to the faith, not proselytizing and threats of eternal damnation towards nonbelievers. That got screwed up early in the game; there never should have been a "church." Words of wisdom from Mr. Gordon Sumner: "Men go crazy in congregations; they only get better one by one."Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
I am a Christian, we will get that out of the way. As a Christian, it is our job to go out amongst the world an tell others of Christ. To neglect one's own children would be rediculous. Secondly, It is against Biblical doctrine to even marry someone like you. She should be ashamed. An atheist and Christian cant be together for exactly these reasons. I am personally glad she is trying, and hope she succeeds. Maybe it isn't fair, but its our doctrine.
Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
1) The majority of the world is not necessarily doomed.
2) Who teaches that Christian morality is better than the morality of oth faiths?
3) How does Christianity (New Testament stuff) contradict science and logic?
4) What is wrong with instilling a little faith in a child? It can offer a little bit of comfort in an uncertain world.
5) Kids don't ordinarily get the fiery pit of hell stuff. That is for adults - particularly for Baptists.
1. Yes, according to your religion even the majority of those who claim to be Christian are doomed themselves. As the Bible says, what is faith without works? 2 Billion worldwide "claim" to be Christian, but everyone knows nowhere near that amount actually goes to church or actively practices it from day to day.
2. You're playing stupid. You teach that your morality is the "correct" morality and that all other moralities oppose the "creator of the universe."
3. Science? Is it possible to feed 5,000 people with one basket of bread? Is it possible turn water into wine with just a few words? Is it possible to rise from the dead?
Logic? Is it logical to say that an invisible man in the sky created every human being without their consent and then forced them into a life they did not ask for, and then forced them to adhere to a certain docterine/moral code, leaving humans with no way to escape their life or the afterlife? Is it logical to say god created faulty humans (he created us as we are, as it says in the Bible, he knew us before we were born) and then blamed them for their own mistakes?
4. What about faith in themselves? Faith in their own judgement?
5. Why not? Because you'd know it would make you look ridiculous. If you really believe if what you preach, shouldn't you be warning people that they will spend the rest of eternity being punished in hell? Think about that. Are you not grasping it? Do you not take it serious?
If someone knocked on your door tomorrow and said "do this for me or I'll beat you with this baseball bat." Would you take it serious? I bet you'd be scared, I know I would. Why are you not taking "eternal damnation" as serious? That is a HUGE statement to make. If true, certainly that is the most important warning anyone could ever receive.
I wait your responses to all my points.
Your points make so many presumptions about the Christian faith, it makes it impossible to have an intelligent conversation on the subject. Your prejudice seems to be against Biblical literalist, fundamental right-wing Christians, which you have ignorantly presumed to be representative of all of Christianity. That's like saying the Jihadists are representative of all Muslims.
There seems to be an awful lot of that going on in this thread; I don't know who to be more frustrated with: the radical fundies who have marred the public's perception of Christianity, or the ignorance displayed by those who would presume all Christians are so radical.
Originally posted by: IAteYourMother
are you Christian?
Originally posted by: CaptKevMan
Originally posted by: IAteYourMother
are you Christian?
By my standards, yes. I doubt fundamentalists would agree, though.
Originally posted by: engineereeyore
Originally posted by: DurocShark
I used to call myself agnostic. Until I realized that regardless of your level of disbelief, if God or Jesus popped up in front of me and identified Himself with proof, any of us would suddenly become believers.
So I decided I was done with the cop-out that is agnosticism.
Do you really believe that? Christ appeared among a very large group of people who 1) believed in God, and 2) where expecting him to come. After presenting proof to those people of who he was, they still didn't believe him. What makes you think agnostic people will be any different.
>>>It says that in the bible, but there's no real proof he even existed period, let alone was able to do all the things claimed. The stories reek of "amplification". If god/jesus did exist, why wouldn't he know exactly what it would take to convince a non-believer that he does?
It seems to me that you are expecting some specific sort of "proof" that God is God. How do you know that when he comes that he will present you with just that "proof" you're looking for? Also, why should he the time to "prove" to the unbelievers that he is God when such proofs are widely available today if people will simply open their eyes to them.
>>>Well, your "proofs" must have convinced you, but not us.
Don't get me wrong, I do hope that if/when proof is presented, such people will believe, but what is going to stop them from just later pawning off such "proof" as coincidental or happenstance?
>>>There are literally hundreds of things god could do to prove himself true that would be instantly convincing. If he's what you claim, he would know this...
Christ's gospel has always been based upon faith, and always will be. You can't simply expect to accept something and dedicate yourself to it simply from seeing "proof" without having first exercised faith in the belief.
Originally posted by: Crazyfool
My father doesn't believe in God but he wouldn't dare associate himself with "Atheists".
I grew up with honest options. My father would've smacked me for disrespecting my mother's beliefs.
Just because he didn't believe in God doesn't mean he wanted the same for me. He is smart enough to know that he might not know everything.
He also can see the hypocrisy in those who label themselves "Atheist" and who are intent on forcing their opinions and beliefs on others. He doesn't mind seeing the word God on his coins and that is what separates him from all these self-rightous "atheists". I respect my father for not forcing his beliefs on me very unlike the OP.
Originally posted by: canadianpsycho
I'm not reading this massive thread. Personally I find religion and people's laughable attempts at justifying their degree of zealouness boring and annoying.
Either your religious or your not. Just don't talk to me about it if you don't agree with me.
Sounds like your daughter enjoys church and has fun. Great. If she has questions otherwise its your job as parents to answer them truthfully without bias and without subjecting her to all the crap you read here.
You son seems to dislike the concept of church. Great. He probably shouldn't mouth off to Mom. But he's a teenager. Teenagers are dumb and usually disagree with whatever they feel like for the sake of doing so. Again, you guys should answer his questions.
Simple fact of the matter is discussing religion from various viewpoints is useless. Its like a Mets fan and a Yankees fan discussing basebell. Eventually they'll be on their own and do what they want to do anyways.
I'm pretty much an atheist. My wife is Catholic to a certain extent (doesn't go to church regularly, but observes religious events and rituals accordingly). While I detest organized religion, I feel my kids should do what I did - learn to like or dislike it through personal experiance. That's the only way you truly learn.
You guys should relax. Take the son to church a couple times (to placate the wife - the son will probably hate it anyways). Stop making it a focal point of discussions, or you'll never let it go. Have fun, be happy as you could die tomorrow - and no matter what anyone says about the afterlife they all could be wrong.