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Yep, and pushing those boundaries can not only be fun but healthy. There is also a downside as exploration may lead to situations that someone may not be ready for physically or mentally.
Well that's why adolescence (honestly up to age 25) is so scary. We are not just culturally but biologically pushed through a developmental period without our fullest capacity to navigate it, often raising children during it. It can never be as simple as waiting until we have the tools to navigate it. We're all doing it sooner than that, and the people that are virgins at 25 tend to stay virgins (I don't have data on this, just my observation).
But what helps us succeed is a clear delineation between fantasy and reality, a flexibility in appreciating that it's normal to have impulses which we cannot act upon, a stable and well-integrated sense of self, and a healthy respect and appreciation for the autonomy of others. Those things aren't going to be a finished product at the time we're exploring sexual identity, but they are things that good parenting/caregiving/education can provide.