College bills, who pays?

[SpongeBob]

Parents should NOT pay.

 

[puffff]

If the parents had their college education paid for by their parents, they should strongly consider doing the same for their kid. Take the head start that they were afforded and pass it on to the next generation.

 

[Sentinel]

I was lucky to have parents who saved enough to put me through. That's precisely what I want to do for my kids oneday.

Cliche, but true.

 

[Journer]

Originally posted by: Naustica
My parents picked up my entire college costs including my spending money. Total cost was more than 120k. I didn't really appreciate it when I was in college. Now I do.

I will do the same for my daughter. She will get anything I can provide for her.

for the love of humanity, please do not do this...haven't you seen 'my super sweet 16' ??

Originally posted by: adairusmc

Umm, no. Not even close.

After the child is 18 they are legally adults and the parents are no longer responsible for a damn thing. That is the way it should be.

Besides, college degrees are just overrated forms of self-appreciation that motivated people will never need to be successful.

you are completely retarded. the amount of people that have no college degree and make a high income compared to the amount of people that do have degrees and high income is tiny. there are many motivated people who cannot catch a break because they are not educated enough or do not have a degree that allows them to get a job to make enough money to do something with that motivation

 

[krunchykrome]

If the parents are in a financial position to help, then I feel like they are obligated to do so. But if it means that it will negatively affect their retirement plans, then no, they shouldnt help. A student can always get loans to pay for college.

 

[esun]

I think it depends. Let's say the parent pays for the first year of college. The student gets C's and D's and barely passes. Should the parents feel obligated to continue paying? I'd say no. If the student is doing well, though, I think a parent should contribute what s/he can (shouldn't be obligated to go into debt over it, but if they can help then they should). Why would you help a person for the first 18 years of their life and then just leave them hanging if they still needed some help?

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: Randum
Had a conversation the other night with friends-should parents be responsible to pay for their kid's college? Interested to see how everyone feels. If you vote, feel free to add a little blurb on why

hells no.

kids are spoled rotten nowadays. give them a taste of the harsh real world where they have to work and earn $. stop cuddling them parents!!!

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: adairusmc

Originally posted by: Ronstang
No one owes you anything in this life except yourself. If your parents have the means and the will to help you with college then consider it a blessing and never forget what they have done for you. If your parents can't or won't help you then you are only hurting yourself sitting around feeling like you have been cheated, because you have not. If you want a college education but won't do what it takes to achieve one then you really don't deserve it in the first place.

:thumbsup:

Best answer.

If you are over 18 though, the parents have absolutely no obligation to pay for a damn thing.

i agree. A parents job is to shelter them, guide them, feed them and give them what they NEED (not want) until they are 18.

we already have college savings set up for both my kids. Also my parents have set up college savings for them also. Between the two i will be surprised if they actually pay for anything besides stuff they want.

 

[SpongeBob]

Originally posted by: esun
Why would you help a person for the first 18 years of their life and then just leave them hanging if they still needed some help?

You are not helping them by handing them $100k they don't NEED, you are spoiling them. If you want to help them LOAN them the money.

 

[GTaudiophile]

I think it is the parent's responsibility to ensure their child(ren) have the best education possible.

If that means mom and dad working their asses off, no vacations, eating out maybe one night a month instead 20, or not buying that new Hummer or BMW, to make sure college is paid for as well as private school education, then so be it. Education is should be a family's number one priority! Period. What in the heck is more important?

 

[mrrman]

its not manditory but if you can help out why not....I paid for everything myself

 

[Suspicious-Teach8788]

You know, it really depends...

I don't want to stereotype, but I can speak for a good chunk of my friends and other Asians like me. Coming from the Silicon Valley where many families have two sources of incomes making 6 figures each because both are in high tech, it's not TOO hard to support 1 or 2 kids through college. To be honest, none of us even qualify for financial aid. Even my friends who have only 1 parent generating income don't qualify. The fact that you can afford to live in a city where the median housing price is above 1 million means you're going to be making plenty of money.

I think too many of us Asian parents will support kids through college. With that said, we're Asians and we believe in filial piety. All of our parents expect to be repaid in the future. After all, most of our parents send money home to the motherland to pay their parents back.

In a sense all of us are lucky. We get handed cars, money and a college education through our parents, but we also have great expectations placed in us. We're expected to become lawyers, engineers or doctors, and when we rake in the money, I'm going to be paying them back.

I can guarantee you that no Caucasian parent will treat me the same way as my parents do. Even though I'm in my last year at college, my parents call all the time to nag me about GREs and when I'm at home they yell at me for why I'm not studying. They want to know grades, classes, etc. everything. They help me with my job/internship search process, and what not. But don't think of it as them trying to help. It's more like they're trying to steer me in the direction they want me to go. So are they paying for me to do whatever I want? Not really... they're paying to see results for themselves too. Do I think it's fair? Sure.

Now I see the complete opposite with my Caucasian friends. They're the ones slaving through college working multiple jobs to pay off their college debt. Is it a great experience? I think so. Is it tough? Yeah. I'd much rather be supported through college and know that I will pay that money back one day. I respect those who work to pay off debt a great deal because I probably won't EVER have to deal with debt until I move out of my house into my own. Given that I'm Asian, I'm fairly certain my parents want me to move back in once I graduate.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
I think it is the parent's responsibility to ensure their child(ren) have the best education possible.

If that means mom and dad working their asses off, no vacations, eating out maybe one night a month instead 20, or not buying that new Hummer or BMW, to make sure college is paid for as well as private school education, then so be it. Education is should be a family's number one priority! Period. What in the heck is more important?

saying that the child should feel some remost that they are forcing there parents who already worked there ass's off for 18 years continueing ot do so for something they can get loans etc for.



hell why stop after college? why shouldnt the parents be helping the kids get as good a house as possible?

there comes a time that you have to allow the kids to make there own decisions and pay for there own way.

 

[GTaudiophile]

I should add that my dad was career military and never made more than $65K/year. My mom was a home maker. Yet they managed to send me to private school for 9/12 grades and then to Georgia Tech, all through smart saving and strict budgeting. Heck, we still had room for vacations and decent cars, etc.

 

[GTaudiophile]

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
I think it is the parent's responsibility to ensure their child(ren) have the best education possible.

If that means mom and dad working their asses off, no vacations, eating out maybe one night a month instead 20, or not buying that new Hummer or BMW, to make sure college is paid for as well as private school education, then so be it. Education is should be a family's number one priority! Period. What in the heck is more important?

saying that the child should feel some remost that they are forcing there parents who already worked there ass's off for 18 years continueing ot do so for something they can get loans etc for.



hell why stop after college? why shouldnt the parents be helping the kids get as good a house as possible?

there comes a time that you have to allow the kids to make there own decisions and pay for there own way.

For me, it all stopped with college. I think that is a logical end at circa. 22. A kid at 18 without a college degree will get no where in this society.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: tyanni

Originally posted by: adairusmc

Originally posted by: Ronstang
No one owes you anything in this life except yourself. If your parents have the means and the will to help you with college then consider it a blessing and never forget what they have done for you. If your parents can't or won't help you then you are only hurting yourself sitting around feeling like you have been cheated, because you have not. If you want a college education but won't do what it takes to achieve one then you really don't deserve it in the first place.

:thumbsup:

Best answer.

If you are over 18 though, the parents have absolutely no obligation to pay for a damn thing.

I hope neither of you ever have kids. If you have kids, you have an obligation to try to help and pay for college. If you can't afford it, thats fine, but if you can, its one of your parental responsibilities.

parental responsibilities?!?!

what freaking entitlement world r u living on? stop being a helicopter parent and let your kid learn something called responsibility

 

[Gunslinger08]

Kids should pay the bills. You can get a ridiculous amount of college loans now (both federal and privatized). I paid my way with scholarships and loans.

 

[necine]

I've paid for everything. It's made me better. My kids will pay for it themselves.

 

[waggy]

oh yeah. besides the saving swe put in for them we take half of any B-day money, or money they ern and put it in the savings for college.

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
I think it is the parent's responsibility to ensure their child(ren) have the best education possible.

If that means mom and dad working their asses off, no vacations, eating out maybe one night a month instead 20, or not buying that new Hummer or BMW, to make sure college is paid for as well as private school education, then so be it. Education is should be a family's number one priority! Period. What in the heck is more important?

saying that the child should feel some remost that they are forcing there parents who already worked there ass's off for 18 years continueing ot do so for something they can get loans etc for.



hell why stop after college? why shouldnt the parents be helping the kids get as good a house as possible?

there comes a time that you have to allow the kids to make there own decisions and pay for there own way.

For me, it all stopped with college. I think that is a logical end at circa. 22. A kid at 18 without a college degree will get no where in this society.

That's not necessarily true but a college degree never hurts.

Since I had all my education paid for and could have pursued any field of study, law school, medicine, etc.. and been fully paid for I would feel obligated to do the same for my child(ren).

 

[Synomenon]

Originally posted by: DLeRium
You know, it really depends...

I don't want to stereotype, but I can speak for a good chunk of my friends and other Asians like me. Coming from the Silicon Valley where many families have two sources of incomes making 6 figures each because both are in high tech, it's not TOO hard to support 1 or 2 kids through college. To be honest, none of us even qualify for financial aid. Even my friends who have only 1 parent generating income don't qualify. The fact that you can afford to live in a city where the median housing price is above 1 million means you're going to be making plenty of money.

I think too many of us Asian parents will support kids through college. With that said, we're Asians and we believe in filial piety. All of our parents expect to be repaid in the future. After all, most of our parents send money home to the motherland to pay their parents back.

In a sense all of us are lucky. We get handed cars, money and a college education through our parents, but we also have great expectations placed in us. We're expected to become lawyers, engineers or doctors, and when we rake in the money, I'm going to be paying them back.

I can guarantee you that no Caucasian parent will treat me the same way as my parents do. Even though I'm in my last year at college, my parents call all the time to nag me about GREs and when I'm at home they yell at me for why I'm not studying. They want to know grades, classes, etc. everything. They help me with my job/internship search process, and what not. But don't think of it as them trying to help. It's more like they're trying to steer me in the direction they want me to go. So are they paying for me to do whatever I want? Not really... they're paying to see results for themselves too. Do I think it's fair? Sure.

Now I see the complete opposite with my Caucasian friends. They're the ones slaving through college working multiple jobs to pay off their college debt. Is it a great experience? I think so. Is it tough? Yeah. I'd much rather be supported through college and know that I will pay that money back one day. I respect those who work to pay off debt a great deal because I probably won't EVER have to deal with debt until I move out of my house into my own. Given that I'm Asian, I'm fairly certain my parents want me to move back in once I graduate.

This is exactly the way it is with me and my other Asian friends.

 

[KoolDrew]

My parents are helping a little, but most of it is from student loans and stuff.

 

[RedArmy]

I share the same sentiment as some of the other people on here saying that parents should be responsible for part of the kids college education costs. If the kids parents went to college, then they understand how important that education is to furthering oneself in society.

I'm just glad that the university I go to is cheap but at the same time very good.

If I ever have kids then I'll help them out as much as I can.

 

[adairusmc]

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
I think it is the parent's responsibility to ensure their child(ren) have the best education possible.

If that means mom and dad working their asses off, no vacations, eating out maybe one night a month instead 20, or not buying that new Hummer or BMW, to make sure college is paid for as well as private school education, then so be it. Education is should be a family's number one priority! Period. What in the heck is more important?

saying that the child should feel some remost that they are forcing there parents who already worked there ass's off for 18 years continueing ot do so for something they can get loans etc for.



hell why stop after college? why shouldnt the parents be helping the kids get as good a house as possible?

there comes a time that you have to allow the kids to make there own decisions and pay for there own way.

A kid at 18 without a college degree will get no where in this society.

:laugh:

As I said before, a college degree is nothing more than an overrated form of self-validation that motivated people will never need to be successful. Saying that a college degree is required to be successful in this society is just plain ignorance.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: adairusmc

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile

Originally posted by: waggy

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
I think it is the parent's responsibility to ensure their child(ren) have the best education possible.

If that means mom and dad working their asses off, no vacations, eating out maybe one night a month instead 20, or not buying that new Hummer or BMW, to make sure college is paid for as well as private school education, then so be it. Education is should be a family's number one priority! Period. What in the heck is more important?

saying that the child should feel some remost that they are forcing there parents who already worked there ass's off for 18 years continueing ot do so for something they can get loans etc for.



hell why stop after college? why shouldnt the parents be helping the kids get as good a house as possible?

there comes a time that you have to allow the kids to make there own decisions and pay for there own way.

A kid at 18 without a college degree will get no where in this society.

:laugh:

As I said before, a college degree is nothing more than an overrated form of self-validation that motivated people will never need to be successful. Saying that a college degree is required to be successful in this society is just plain ignorance.

so is saying that it is "nothing more then an overrated form of self-validation".

while a degree is not needed to be successful it does help the odds on achaiving success. It opens many doors that are not available for those without one.